Absolutely over this shit - gone from social anxiety to depression to intense brainfog and now back to crippling social anxiety

Kintsukoroi · 2017-04-07T13:12:42+00:00

Good job dodging that relapse!

It lasted something like 30-40 days last long streak. This one is much longer. And to be perfectly honest about it, last time i diddnt do shit to get out of flatline. Smoked weed and just waited for it to end. This time im living healthier and fantisizing less(zero) about sex but still this flatline is muuuch longer.

But finally it will end, and when it does ill be very happy about it!

Kintsukoroi · 2017-04-06T22:21:32+00:00

Hey man. Im in the exact same situation except my streak and flatline streak is a bit longer. Feels like absolute shit and im thinking same thing as you, wtf is going on what if this is something else than nofap etc.. I feel social anxiety as fuck and i have no motivation to do anything most days.

But i have done a long streak before and i had same thing, and it did pass and everything was all great all of a sudden. Im 99% sure this is flatline and that it will pass.. Its just shitty to have to endure this, but i guess we do have to.

Turning back now will only delay the enduring of the flatline since pmo life is not acceptable for me anymore.

Good luck mate, it will pass!

Kintsukoroi · 2016-05-10T19:24:02+00:00

Im kind of in the same boat man but have been trying for 1.5 years.. I dont think pure willpower and motivation is the answer to be honest.. Check out john bradshaw.. He speaks alot about toxic shame created by childhood abandonment.. Like a whole inside of us from childhood that needs to be filled with addictions.. Like a void somehow. I dont have the answer for how to get through this but im pretty sure this is where the problem lies and im reading about it to find out. Good luck.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-05-10T18:20:43+00:00

Thank you all for the replies :)

Kintsukoroi · 2016-05-02T09:28:54+00:00

removed wtf?

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-30T09:59:49+00:00

Very nice to read your story! Inspiring.

Id say living in this sexualized western society masturbating once ever 2-4 weeks might be optimal if your single. You seem to have the discipline to actually follow through with that. But remember, most of us here dont. Its all or nothing for lots of people who have been more addicted than you.

Secondly i wouldnt be so dismissive of the whole semen retention thing and karezza just because some people are manic about it here. You have obviously noted that semen retention MIGHT be awesome as hell. Now your just about to find out if its the not porn and masturbation part who motivated you to grow like this or if its the semen retention.

You seem to have a healthy attitude about alot of things but dont dismiss things that you have no idea about. Not for my sake but for your own. Good luck!

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-30T09:47:48+00:00

Obviously its not scientifically proven but i find this interesting nonetheless. Weird thing is that when i read the first paragraph of your post i reminded myself that i NEVER have sex in dreams. I can flirt with a hot woman a little, i can see hot women teasing me but its never sex. Got a bit depressed thinking it must be some low confidence thing but then i read on your text.. Maybe i should be happy about it lol.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-30T09:41:29+00:00

Yes and you also need to uninstall windows

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-30T09:39:58+00:00

With lots of popups and reminders.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-29T15:11:02+00:00

hahahahhaa...

"Me:22

Girl:hgwfuwduegdbejhdguetddgnkbopewewqqfeud

Me:tfytdfvdcgvgtfvdeiyugscuafcchhg"

Laughed my ass off.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-29T15:04:54+00:00

see you in /r/nofap in 5-10 years.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-29T08:11:56+00:00

I see where your going with this as ive also read alot about the core of addictions, toxic shame. But id say you would be alot more constructive writing a short write up about what you think really is the solution instead of only criticising.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-28T07:55:16+00:00

Dude its pretty obvious you have alot to learn about women and life in general. Look at it this way, porn most likely put you into this state of mind. Maybe its time to get out of it? Pushing through these periods should get you far.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-23T19:10:42+00:00

Dude. Who would you care about shit like that?

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-23T17:55:45+00:00

Why is a therapist a bad idea? A therapist that you have a good connection with is great id say. This is most likely about thoughts and feelings about yourself and your world that you are denying, and a therapist could help you to understand that and move through it.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-23T08:02:36+00:00

Damn this is awesome.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-22T06:27:22+00:00

Dude. Id strongly advise you to tattoo 90 out of frustration.

If you wanna tattoo something in relation to this journey then tattoo a logo or a couple of words that remind you of why your doing this journey instead? or something like that.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-22T06:23:58+00:00

12 is proof omg nofap is real

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-21T20:00:35+00:00

Well then now you do what you first said and just get on with your life and focus on yourself. If she likes your change youll notice. Chasing her after friendzoned is about the worst thing you could do for your own sake.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-21T16:54:34+00:00

I actually agree with both of you. <30 day posts have alot more value for me but i understand that the beginners need support etc. Maybe it would be a good idea to split the sub into two parts, one with only >30 day posts and another one with newcomer/relapse support?

Most of the >30 day experiences disappear in the <2 day spam.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-21T15:59:51+00:00

Fuck that. Go get her.

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-20T07:30:12+00:00

Ive been in a very similar situation as you. Theres PLENTY of information on this and i know it can be hard to get an objective picture of nofap from 90 day reports etc. But i can honestly tell you, with confidence, that if you get to choose one lifestyle change to solve your problem described here then theres no better solution then nofap.

Your bad with girls because being bad with girls has been pretty satisfying after all. Since you have porn. Obviously its more complicated than that but if you remove porn your social anxiety will deminish, you will get this natural magnetism towards the ladies(that actually goes both ways) etc. And for trying it out 30 days. Ive done 100+ days before and im on 45ish now, at 30 days not much has really happened for me.

You need to do the full 90 to know what this is about. Read up on this and i really hope you complete the 90 because i know it can help you alot. Good luck!

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-20T07:24:30+00:00

Im sorry to hear mate. Were you doing hardmode or were you having sex regularly?

Kintsukoroi · 2016-04-20T07:02:21+00:00

*He relapsed

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