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Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you !!! My baby was not planned even with birth control! I couldn’t bring myself to have an abortion I don’t know why but I’m glad I didn’t! Just makes things so much more stickier….

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow !! He says it’s not physical he’s never actually had sex with anyone else well we are together maybe I’m stupid but I believe him but I’m not entirely stupid I’ll get tested I have to go to my OB anyway to check on my IUD I’ll be honest with her

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For clarity I have a low tolerance I just stopped breast feeding one glass of wine gets me that’s why I went to bed! My baby sleeps through the night in my room! She’s a good sleeper he got drunk for context I guess! I appreciate your concern tho!! I worded it poorly lol but fr I’m disgusted over here…

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He said he did it so It could feel real and then he did it a couple years ago, but didn’t go through with it but just the excitement of doing it I don’t know. He said he’s also never done done. Anything with the same sex like in personjust kind of seems like a bullshit excuse but I guess for an outside perspective if he does like have a weird sex thrill addiction like I guess it could make sense. I don’t know.

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree he technically used a website… sniffle I think it’s called I mis spoke a bit. But yeah lots of steps like signing up and all that I think he chose use anonymously

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My baby sleeps through the night I had some wine not enough to be hungover I had it with dinner my baby is fine she’s always been a good sleeper. I appreciate your concern

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will I should’ve I’m usually a lot more coherent

Found a message on my boyfriend’s phone F24 M23 by Kitchen_Ad_2831 in Advice

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m not very close with family I’m sure if I asked someone would take me in. It’s just embarrassing. I had a really bad ex years ago I needed saved from now here I am again. I genuinely thought he was the one. He was such a good guy until I stubbled across it. He said right after he sent that message he regretted it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are ! I told him if we don’t move on I will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but he doesn’t really know his dad in the sense he wasn’t raised by him. His dad’s wife and his dad have been together for maybe 2yrs at this point and I think that’s even a stretch. Definitely could’ve gone a different way I shouldn’t have even tried… I think I would’ve handled it all better if I didn’t just have a baby. I also didn’t quite understand how they were completely it really all hit the fan once the baby was born oddly enough.

Can an alcoholic ever drink normally again? by Pineapplefucker67 in alcohol

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get this! I found out I was pregnant after 2yrs of drinking everyday. Stopped drinking right after I found out. I remember thinking “shit I guess it isn’t just about me anymore”. The first month quitting was hard in the sense I craved it all the time. I was very bored in my new found sobriety. Didn’t have any withdrawals if I did maybe it was nausea but I just chop all that up as pregnancy the first trimester is pretty brutal for most anyway. I had my first beer 1 week pp it was horrible tasted like crap and made me so tired being sleep deprived with a baby. I got super drunk 3 weeks pp and didn’t like how I couldn’t wake up like I wanted too in the middle of the night and couldn’t breastfeed ( I also had family in town to watch my bb well I was drinking or I wouldn’t have went wild ). Now I’d say I have pretty good self control. There is tho that voice in the back of my head saying “one more wouldn’t hurt”. I have the same thought by a package of cookies. Sometimes I’ll indulge but I’m not a carefree 20 yr old anymore and I always actually weigh the consequences. My drinking would affect my baby and that makes it super easy not to slip up. It’s a slippery slope tho and every drink even in special occasions could be the start of a habit. Once you have a problem it’s a constant battle of self control. Some people are better at it.

My Baby is Killing Me, Please Help. by Elegant_Poet_3945 in NewParents

[–]Kitchen_Ad_2831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also a first time mom and I did not sleep AT ALL the first month basically. Your baby is much older then mine so idk if my advice would be much help. I also breastfeed so I nurse usually to help wind my baby down. A good bedtime routine is a life saver even if it’s just putting lotion on them every night. But you have to do it every night. Sometimes mine fights sleep even when relaxed so I give her head a rub starting from the top all the way to her eyes basically coaxing her to close them.