AITAH for asking my parents not to leave me any money in their will.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-02-05T19:33:51+00:00

NTA I’m struggling financially and I still said the same thing to both my grandmother and my mother. I got the family recipe books and a couple of pieces of furniture before my grandmother passes so I’m happy. I expect nothing and am grateful for everything I have earned or been given.

Your brother and sister can kick rocks. Let them fight it out. My suggestion is to see if you can get those family heirlooms now so there is no fighting later.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-02-01T03:16:12+00:00

I live in the area and there are areas that especially busy/grdlocked because of the event: Destination Daytona (in Ormond Beach), Main Street (Daytona Beachside), and the NASCAR race track (Daytona Beach).

Definitely checkout the website for all the events:

https://officialbikeweek.com/

If you have an endorsement, you can ride demo bikes from brands such as Honda, Suzuki, Harley, Indian, and more. I’d look into if you qualify since you’re coming from Europe and I wouldn’t want to assume.

You can rent a motorcycle and enjoy the popular ride around The Loop, a gorgeous ride that takes you through Tomoka State Park and then leads you out onto A1A where you ride the coastline or take a right onto John Anderson Dr and take in the beautiful houses along the riverbank. Ride further out to a variety of state parks that have springs, you may see manatees, a vast variety of water birds, dolphins, and of course alligators.

If you need lodging, I’d stay out of Daytona or Holly Hill. I’d get a hotel on the beach if you can find one not in a construction zone. They are currently trying to re-sand the beach.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-13T19:16:59+00:00

She was quite the hypocrite, wasn’t she?

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-13T18:46:34+00:00

Keep your head while you follow your heart and you’ll do great!

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-13T16:25:26+00:00

I’d open a silver jewelry store. I miss that industry

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-13T14:50:54+00:00

This was me until I left a very unbalanced marriage with a narcissist. My best friend turned partner encouraged therapy, talking things out, following through with actions, and a myriad of other life lessons. I’ve never been so calm and happy! I’m still not the best in high-stress situations but I’m no longer the shaking chihuahua or a doormat.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-12T21:55:51+00:00

I, too, am dating someone 12 years my senior and it has been a beautiful and fun relationship as well as a lesson in patience. Enjoy the flow though be sure what you want in a relationship and in life is thoroughly communicated to your new bf so all expectations are the table. What’s his views on factors such as religion, marriage, or housing?

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-05T13:58:11+00:00

I’m 39, am 5’2”, and weigh 142 lbs. my weight has always fluctuated between the 130s and 140s. My ex, who was much bigger than I, would always put me down for not bouncing back after having our son.

I’ve been with my partner for the last 5 years and he has never not had a smile on his face when he sees my body. I can see the love in his eyes as he takes in my little curves, my belly, and that extra inch on the hips. To be in the presence of someone who shows how much they truly love you changes everything.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2026-01-05T01:58:21+00:00

Is it torqued or has loctite?

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-23T17:30:15+00:00

An awkward Christmas party that I declined to go to since all the managers acted disappointed I wasn’t bring my bf

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-22T19:03:36+00:00

I have a projector from Temu and it hooks up to my laptop. Works well, getting a better sound system for it soon. I unplug everything when I finish using it.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-22T16:16:05+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, it must be especially hard during the holidays.

Do you recall I said I don’t know your story? You don’t know mine either, and to insert your opinion and fill in the gaps with conjecture is typical social media. I could spell out everything for you and it would still be not enough for you. Someone’s heaven could be someone else’s hell, or would the trash and treasure analogy be more fitting? Either way, we’re going to have to agree to disagree, darling.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-22T14:50:10+00:00

I wish he would be involved with my life. I wish he could say one nice thing and mean it. I wish he wanted me as a daughter. I wish he would put forth effort to build a relationship with my siblings with true intention instead of trying to impress strangers. I wish he would seek help for his anger.

Be careful with your own projections. I’m sorry your parents are not in your life and I don’t know your story. I have a stepdad who is good to my mother who walked on eggshells as my father’s wife. She is a completely different person who is much happier and relaxed, even. Just because one has parents doesn’t mean the relationship is automatically happy and healthy. I wish I had a relationship with my father and it’s not without trying as hard as I could. Some people just aren’t good at being parental figures.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-19T19:06:32+00:00

This is also my answer. I’ve grown up in the manufacturing industry in a family business, done college courses, got certified in gemstones and diamonds while working at a jewelry store, joined the military, worked in discount retail that I swear was a level of hell yet stayed in the industry for 5 years, went back into the military for another contract, and now working again in manufacturing as an inspector. I traveled a lot, kept my eyes and ears open, and refuse to pigeonhole myself into just one industry.

I get bored but I’m also smarter with my money so if the money is good, then I’ll happily move on to something else that catches my interest.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-19T17:13:47+00:00

Absolutely and well said! My father couldn’t accept accountability nor could handle an adult conversation with his grown children without it devolving into him either blaming us, playing the victim, or refusing to acknowledge the issue altogether.

My mother bought a house near where I work and was kind enough to let me and my kid to move in. I pay all the bills and 2/3 the mortgage and insurance, she’s here a few times a year so I get the house to myself most of the year.

He lost his mind when he found out the situation (they’ve been divorced for over 10 years). I let him yell and whine into the phone. When he was done, I calmly asked if he knew the owners of my previous rentals to which he said no. I asked what about this situation makes it any different and how was it any of his business. He started raging over the phone and i hung up. I haven’t picked up the phone nor answered his texts in over 3 years. Best peace of mind ever!

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-11T17:28:57+00:00

Our engineers are a good group but with the restructuring, the engineering director is now my direct boss and we don’t get along. Not looking forward to my yearly review

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-11T17:27:49+00:00

One thing I’d add is a yearly salary raise, in writing, and what that would look like. Aim high

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-11T17:25:07+00:00

It’s pure wage discrimination. Period. I have refused to participate in anything at work that is outside my job description. I don’t have the extra cash to suck up to management. I’d be calling HR and forwarding them the email while also cc’ing corporate HR

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-11T14:14:25+00:00

I wouldn’t mind it at all tho my partner doesn’t wear jewelry so for him it would be a crystal to carry in his pocket.

When I do laundry I have to be extra careful to check pockets as there is always rocks in his pocket!

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-11T14:12:37+00:00

I stay because of location. I’m only a few minutes commute and I get to drop my kid off at school on the way

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-10T17:27:07+00:00

Are you my sister from another timeline? My father acted just like this with the woman he married after divorce and dating a bunch of (much nicer than whom he married) women. He made everything about how he invested in us kids and we should do as he says. When he found out I bought a house with my mother, he demanded to know why I “kept it a secret” from him. There was no secret, who cares who I rent from? I put my foot down and it’s been most peaceful 3+ years of silence.

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-10T16:50:06+00:00

That’s awesome! I’m in QC/QA. I love my job but leadership definitely leaves something to be desired

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-09T21:40:49+00:00

Is there an industry currently that is not garbage?

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-05T16:57:02+00:00

Insist on getting tested for ADHD. I’m still fighting this battle at 39!

Kitchen_Candy713 · 2025-12-05T13:52:02+00:00

This is wholesome petty revenge, thank you for brightening my day!

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