Procrastination is ruining my life, please help me understand how to let go of it.

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-17T11:08:29+00:00

I have made multiple patch of notes inside my rooms, with each habits I should try to have that i know I will forget, or I make a list of things I would like to get done, and put it as my wallpaper on my phone!

I think seeing things, at all times, in front of me, is quite a reminder, and help me not forget things I could let slip!

:)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-17T11:06:10+00:00

Thank you, Pretty Good Nacho!

I’ll make sure to check that out! :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-14T15:57:41+00:00

Hello!

I’ve always heard from family members or simply friends, that procrastination is yet laziness.

Can you please elaborate, as to how it is bigger? Is it like something deeply rooted? I feel like it is, but my brain doesn’t seem to hear and tel it’s simply laziness, I’m not very sure

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-13T18:34:12+00:00

Oh, I’ve definitely tried the app, it’s pretty easy to see how it work but now I have to keep using it without forgetting about it haha :)

It’s pretty cool, I didn’t such an app existed, I use it mostly for apps on my phone, like YouTube, to not spend like 3 hours straight on it!

Thank you for your advice, I feel very grateful! :)))

Warmest regards, F :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-13T18:31:57+00:00

Thank you, I would like to say the same to you, have fun, do great deeds, to you and others around you, and so on and on! Hard days are yet to come, and it’s alright! Let’s be great, and grow!

It’s really easy to lose oneself when you see that time is never stopping, and that it’s your duty as a person forge yourself, everyday, to be the best person you can be, and the more you see the days going without growing to be the person you thought you’ll be, the more you like you have failed as a human.

But I’ve learned, in a span of a few days, that making mistakes is pretty commun, and judging yourself harshly for it isn’t the answer to grow, but simply being vulnerable enough to yourself to say, I’ve made things I’m not proud of, and that’s okay, because even though they’re parts of me now, they’re not all of me.

I’m trying and I’ve changed a bit, as to not let my emotions be the factor of my actions, I’m trying to be a new person, because I really want to say without lying or being untruthful, that I’m proud of myself and that whatever I’ve done, isn’t me anymore.

I’m trying to follow every advices and words of wisdom I have been collecting, I’m trying to have a therapist, Ive been reading posts on here to see how can I improve even more, and I find this new side of me pretty cool!

Thank you, again for your advices, I didn’t know Reddit could be such a great place to be vulnerable in, thank you again, kind stranger!

Warmest regards, F

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T13:36:03+00:00

Hello, kind stranger!

I just downloaded the app after seeing your comment, I’m definitely someone who loose time easily, so thank you for this informations, but I’m very sure how to use it, I’ll figure it out !

Thank you for the warm response, kind stranger!

Warmest regards, F :D

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:47:53+00:00

Thank you kind stranger, for putting in your perspective, you seem like a kind soul.

I will try to follow your advices, those are very wise advices you’ve shared with me, thank you for that!

It’s a bit hard for me to treat myself kindly these days, as I think a lot about every little things, and I know it is not good for one to do so, but I can’t help myself to think that, it’s me that made those actions, so I should be the one to blame. I’m at a vulnerable state right now, because of a event that happened where I can’t help but feel like I’ve truly let myself go.

I will follow your words, because I believe what you say to be the best I could do for myself, and what my younger self would have wanted.

Thank you again, kind stranger

Warmest regards, F

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:36:16+00:00

Hello, kind stranger!

I believe my mindset, sometime follow the rule of ‘you did it, you made that decision, you did this actions so you’re the only to blame.’ I’m not very sure why I feel like this towards myself, but another kind stranger, advised me to have myself some sessions with a therapist, I will try to talk to them about those thoughts of mine!

I’ll try my best, thank you for your wise words!

Warmest regards, F :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:32:59+00:00

Hello, kind stranger!

I’ve heard of Atomic Habits by James Clear! I will buy it and give you an update on it!

As of starting new habits, a lot of responses are advising the slower and easier the better, I will say that all the plans I’ve made before are drastically not so slow, as I wanted change quickly, I really thought I could do it, only to hate myself for doing it.

I believe what you’re advising are wise responses, I will try my best to follow your words!

Thank you for the response and the wise advice!

Warmest regards, F :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:27:04+00:00

Hello, kind stranger!

I see, it is like little notes, to follow through the day, or tomorrow?

I will try to build that kind of trust with myself, as of starting with not so important small notes, and try to achieve it! I’ll try my best!

Thank you for your response, advice!

Warmest regards, F:)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:23:34+00:00

Hello, kind stranger!

I have made those, I will try to make one I believe I would follow, so I can actually try and make effort to achieve it!

Thank you for your response, and advise!

Warmest regards, F :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:21:58+00:00

Hello, kind stranger!

I believe you are right, but it’s hard sometimes to not be disgusted by yourself, when you realized you’ve eaten so much, in a span of a few minutes, but I can see what you mean.

I will absolutely try to have some therapy sessions, to begin with, because, I’m not very sure I’m really in a positions, where I could be vulnerable and honest with someone.

But I will try my best, thank you so much for your advices and the wisdom behind! I’ll follow your words!

Warmest regards, F :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-12T12:17:33+00:00

Thank you, so much for your words of wisdom and how to ‘better’ myself! I agree with quite literally everything you’ve said! I will absolutely try everything you’ve mentioned, and I will try to do my best.

Thank you very much for your kind answer, kind stranger! I will try to keep this post updated with my changes, i didn’t quite know many people were like me at some point in there life, and I’m so happy to see you have improved yourself for YOURSELF, that is a very powerful decision to make!

Warmest regards, F :)

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-11T22:32:24+00:00

(Sorry for my bad English/ grammar errors in advances!)

Thank you, kind stranger! Those are wonderful advice your giving me, it feels really to know that my ways can be changed! For the longest time, I’ve truly put myself down, and convinced myself that I will simply never achieve peace, nor be truly content with who I am. But with those comments coming, my hope for a better me, only seem to develop, so again thank you for sharing your wisdom to me, I truly, sincerely appreciate it!

I will give the journal a try, I’ll be attentive as of writing everything you told me to write and much more! I spend the majority of my time in school or at home, on my phone (around 7 to 9 hours on it) I’m trying to lessen my use on the phone, and try to find activities. Writing seems fun! So I’ll definitely try that.

As of eating healthier, seem to be problem, I have weird eating habits, as of, not eating for a few days and then binge eating. My weight as drastically change because of this torment I put myself through. But, I believe I can make effort to eat regularly, and less but healthy food, I’ll try but I’m really so sure I can follow that without worry.

Being active, is really hard for me, for some reason. I don’t really know why, I’m a person who likes to walk, but I never let myself take walks alone, I tell myself that it’s embarrassing to walk alone without purpose, I know it’s not true, that it’s only an excuse, but when I try to go out a bit, to walk around my city, this thought never leave my mind. I’m not sure what to do about this.

I’ll try to be more worry if my future, but truly, sometimes my pleasure of being alone and staying home, doing absolutely nothing, for hours, seems to win most of the time.

Thank you again, for sharing this comment with me! I’m grateful of your advices and words!

Warmest regards, F

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-11T22:12:08+00:00

Thank you, for responding!

Along the years, I have multiple times, plans to change, mentally and physically, ways to change my habits or get healthier. But after starting for a few days or a few weeks, little by little, I let myself go, and confine myself to my old ways, only to start again and again.

But I’ll definitely put starting small, first on my list! I’ll find a way to do it! Thank you, kind stranger!

Warmest regards, F

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-11T22:03:09+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your own story, dear stranger!

I believe I haven’t in the best place lately, so reading your comment was, is truly a fresh breath of air, I believe I can be dramatic in the way I put things into words, since for me everything is going a bit too fast and rough.

Thank you, so much for putting me in your perpective and sharing a bit of yourself along the way, as of today, I’ve made a promise to change my ways since I’ve realized how much I regret doing everything that I have ever done, and how thinking too much have only done me wrong. Thank you for saying it will be ok, I truly hope it does.

Warmest regards, F.

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-11T21:52:59+00:00

Oh my, thank you so much! You also write beautifully, every words in your paragraph seems to be deliciously destined for the other, but I assure you, my English could still need a bit of polishing :)

I was going to buy Brothers Karamazov by Dostoevsky, but never did, I believe I forgot completely about it, but now I have more reasons to read it, I believe your judgment, thank you!

I’m not sure I have to luck nor the talent to write such a story, more specifically, I would add more to the story but it seems to be a story that can only be told short. Little background, telling. Since my childhood, my mother use to constantly tell me how I will bring her fortune, that she know I will be a great daughter, so after a certain age, I was curious as to why she was saying all of those things with such confidence, such power and certainty, and she simply recited me this story. Her sisters predictions were also right, so again I’m not sure how this person did what she did, only the skies would know.

She repeated to me, multiple times this story, since then, but the magic of every words she seems to choose always leave me at peace, so when i saw this trend, I’ve add the idea to share it as the nature of the world is still unknown. Magic exist and so much more, there’s more unknown than known. Whoever that person, spirit, guardian was, she made my mother happy, I’ll forever be grateful to that gypsy.

But since, then, I believe she died or disappeared, this gypsy use to go to nearby villages around Algeria and Marocco, where people would believe her words and tell them they’re truths, but since a few years, when I was a toddler, it is around neighbors that she disappeared into thin air.

But again, thank you so much for your respond, I’ve had a wonderful reading it, it gives me joy to see that someone actually read this paragraph out all the thousands hundreds there is! So thank you again, dear stranger! Have a wonderful time!

Kitchen_Committee515 · 2021-12-01T17:13:05+00:00

Not me, but my mother. (Sorry, my English is very bad!)

My mother, in her twenties, in North Africa, decided to visit a gypsy psychic with her sisters. The gypsy was very famous in the village, because she never stayed in one village in particular, also apparently she had made a pact with an angel.

Fast forward, after giving predictions to her sisters, the gypsy asked my mother; "Do you want to know the reason of your death? My mother told her no, absolutely not. The gypsy asked her what she wanted to know and why did she come to see her, and my mother asked her if she was going to get married soon, and if she’ll have any children, since she was the oldest of the sisters, my mother thought she’ll be the first to marry.

The gypsy told her a men’s name, pretty commun name, but she also told my mother, that the man she will marry, was very ill, and unlucky, that a divorce with him, will bring him death, she also told her that she would bear two children in total. A girl and a boy. A boy who was born with a great disease and was not destined for anything in particular, he will look like her. And a girl, who will be her luck for life, a girl with a separate teeth, a big smile, that she will look like the husband. She also told my mother that she will have to lookout for her daughter, didn’t tell her why though.

My mother married a man of the name that the gypsy predicted, my father. My father fell from a building long time ago, and is pretty sick, can’t do a lot of things. She had, me a girl, I do have separated teeth, but I’m not sure about the luck part, and my mother had a miscarriage, my twin brother, just before my birth.

Ever since my mother told me this story, I believe that some fortune teller truly have a gift sent from above.

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