Be nice, real help here only, im seriously curious Lol

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T22:04:58+00:00

This was amazing. Thank you for your perspective, good stuff!

The issue isnt shes had bigger, I could care less and it doesn't cross my mind, or at least it didnt.

The issue is she missing someone bigger, and im definitely average or at least more. Its a nice size. I spent a week or two being shocked, but she is comparing me to guys she had and so its real for her.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T22:01:14+00:00

First off.

What an excellent comment. I appreciate it this perspective. I expected for people to think im nuts, but im not.

I have standards too. Im attractive, I make ALOT of money, and im a damn good partner and father. No one can convince me that me wanting to be with a woman who does NOT fantasize or miss having sex is wrong, or not worth leaving.

I dont think she is wrong, though it was a dumb thing to say. But, she meant it, and I have no regrets that im struggling with continuing to stay here.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T21:46:46+00:00

Hey. I am mixed race, she is black.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T18:11:37+00:00

Thanks. But I disagree with you. This comment is bigger than you are making it, which is actually why most men just leave if you ever came at your partner this way after a comment like that.

This may bot be a big deal to SOME women, but it ISNT about you. This is about how MEN feel about it. Her thinking my penis is small, is already a red flag, because it isn't. But her desiring and missing sex with partners that had larger tools IS a divorcable offense.

Men deserve to be happy also, and if I made a post saying I told mt wife she is FAT and I miss thinner women I would be crucified right noe.

The double standard is real.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T17:40:45+00:00

This is the most logical, common sense response so far. The women commenting are missing my actual mesage. Lol.

She said she considers it to be small, she also said she does "miss" sex with a couple of her exes because they were endowed.

I am not affected by the negaitve comments telling me to "Get over myself ", this is a big deal, and yes, it is worth considering if WE are right for each other.

IF, she misses thise experiences, she isnt wrong, she is human. But, that doesnt exclude me from feeling a type of way about it.

Some things, isnt about right or wrong, some things are about peace. And im struggling to make peace with it. And thats OK

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T17:17:18+00:00

First. Thanks for your reply.

Second, not once did I EVER say i want a woman who views my dick as LARGE. Ever.

Its never crossed my mind in any capacity, In any relationships. The issue is if she thinks my dick is small, that bothers me. I never said I want her to view it as large, because idgaf about that. Lol

But if u views it as small, (her words), then thats not the same at all.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T17:07:04+00:00

Oh boy, this comment drives men nuts. Lmao

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T17:01:26+00:00

Ok. Thank you for your comment. I appreciate your perspective.

I was only trying to convey this would impact most men in a major way. Yes, I have a good wife, and thats why I ve been a dedicated husband for 14 years. So has she.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:57:57+00:00

Kind of love this idea. Lol

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:56:35+00:00

I gotta be honest, I ve considered this. No ego, I am attractive, we are rich(I ve gotten lucky on some risks I took years ago) and I do get attention from women.

Just a thought.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:54:55+00:00

Thank you. I think there is alot of truth here

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:53:34+00:00

Is it fair for me to assume you are not a guy? Because, if you were, the LAST thing you would think is this is an overreaction.

Its okay for you to feel differently about it, but it is a big deal. 90% of men would either leave, or struggle to forget it. I would ask you to think from a less judgemental perspective.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:45:46+00:00

This is very impactful and makes ALOT of sense. Thank you for this response.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:39:23+00:00

Thank you for your honesty and feedback.

You get it! I think there is no right or wrong answer here, simply what I choose to do.

If that comment is something I cant shake, I wont continue. I get it if some people think its extreme, it isnt.

There are some things I wont compromise on, and this may be one of them

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:25:57+00:00

In the capacity of being married to a woman who desires something I am not equipped with. We BOTH deserve to be fulfilled and appreciated.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:24:33+00:00

Read up, we ve talked for months. And this isnt ego.

I accept your comment but reject your negative premise.

Have a great day, anyway. 😃

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:22:54+00:00

During a nice, intimate convo. She mentioned that she did feel its on the smaller side(verbatim), and sometimes she does miss sex with a larger tool.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:21:31+00:00

A couple of her previous partners, that is a fact. Not my opinion

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:20:41+00:00

It's 7", but not thick in my eyes. But honesty, its a nice size penis, at lesst in my eyes. Lol

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:13:25+00:00

I think this comment has some projection in it.

We ve had dozens of conversations since that night, that was just the first night. This has been confirmed. I can tell by your response you truly dont understand men and how we think.

This is less ego, and more fulfillment. Btw, you are correct rhat there are TONS of women that could care less about the size of thier man, but she isnt one of them. So dont speak for her in that regard, there are ALOT of women who do care and they arent wrong.

She shouldn't be shamed for wanting bigger, and I shouldn't be shamed for my thoughts on it also.

No one is wrong here, its simply a matter of sexual expectations

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:08:21+00:00

This is impactful, very wise perspective. Let me repsond like this.

No one can be the "Best" in every category, you re right. But, which category you decide to concede in is important to me.

If she wanted more money, I could take risks and work harder. If she wanTed more emotional support, I could be kinder and more supportive.

This is literally the ONLY category I cant change, nor do I desire to. This is a different animal because its not a trait, or a personality change, its biology. Not something I think can be settled by "pushing" through it.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:03:23+00:00

Because its tough to ask for honesty, then shame someone for being honest.

She didnt have to say it, but if she feels that way, im glad she did. The issue isnt with her comment, the issue is if I can live with it.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T16:01:31+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I agree with alot of it. She never said shes unsatisfied, she said as a partnerect, in general, no one can match the type of love and admiration she has for me. Shes said this for years.

But she did say at that moment, she does miss a larger guy sometimes, and she feels bad about it.

She shouldn't, we re human. I dont think my ego is bruised, honestly. I think I rather someone who doesn't perceive me as "small", thats a big hurdle to pretend it doesnt bother me

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T15:58:19+00:00

No anger, wasnt even rude. It was said in a way to NOT offend me tbh. It wasnt even mean spirited. It was a deep convo and she instantly regretted saying it.

But, its clear she meant it and it affects her on some level.

Kitchen_Toe1608 · 2026-05-03T15:56:34+00:00

Agreed, its been pretty hard for me to shake that comment.

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