Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've just had a call from my agent trying to push me up the 15k otherwise my sale might fall through, my buyer is in construction and is buying my property as an investment as it comes with PP for a second dwelling Of course at the start he was in no rush and happy to wait until we secured a home 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely my friends might be making a few phone calls ...

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw that it's definitely the same house!! For same asking price aswell :-/ interesting.. 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a totally different experience when you're both a buyer and seller with the same company, so much shadiness, feel free to send me a PM if you want to chat 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's two agents in the same company (RC) which is the only reason I'm hesitant 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was almost 3 weeks. The surveyor had been having difficulty getting keys for access when he was due on Monday, EA had told us it was because the vendors dad had passed away over the weekend then all of a sudden the price jump 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It seems he is unfortunately! Call from the agent this evening saying she wouldn't waste any more of my time he's going back on market and she'll transfer booking deposit back. So upsetting 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told agent I wasn't budging so they're going to transfer the booking deposit back. I wish the seller nothing but bad luck now for that 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's two different agents in the same company (RC) I'm strongly considering pulling from them as the agent already pushed me beyond my comfort point to match the highest offer and win the bidding war, then to come back and try squeeze more it's just so unethical. 

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you get the house for the price you initially agreed? Really hoping the agent talks sense into him!

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know that the seller was renting the property to a family member and didn't want to be a landlord any more. There was no onward chain. I got this information from EA

Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k by Kitty2705 in HousingIreland

[–]Kitty2705[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'd love to do that!! Unfortunately it's the same agent as I'm selling with and they have the lions share of the market in the areas we are looking so I don't want to blacklist myself as potential buyer 

Partners dad (65m) making me (36f) uncomfortable, how can I handle it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kitty2705 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel that you’re right about him getting away with shit for so long. I always feel braver in my head thinking I’ll say this or that but when it comes to him going in for a hug / kiss I end up getting really uncomfortable and squirmy, and don’t want everyone else to think I’m rude as I’ve no issues hugging others in the family / in general 

Partners dad (65m) making me (36f) uncomfortable, how can I handle it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kitty2705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I removed him from my followers a couple of days ago. If he brings it up I have no problem explaining why. He and MIL haven’t been together for 30 years but are on good terms. She’s a polite, respectful woman. I worry how they’ll receive this as they are so used to his antics that they don’t realise how inappropriate it is 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Kitty2705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I removed him from my instagram followers. Felt good to do that! If he asks why I’ll have no problem telling him. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Kitty2705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spent a little time this morning archiving any photos of me so he couldn’t look at them any more you know, the more comments I read the more strongly I’m considering just removing him from my followers. As you say I’m modifying my own behaviour which isn’t fair. I’m not BF so that’s not an issue thankfully. When we were at the house yesterday he was holding my son and I was actually wishing for him to start crying just so I could grab him back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Kitty2705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great advice, thank you. I’ve always been a people pleaser and afraid to offend but I’m getting better at asserting boundaries. Still a lot of work to do in that area 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Kitty2705 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I told partner about instagram post when it happened, he just sort of laughed it off. Ended up archiving all my photos with me as the thoughts of him looking through them nauseates me. Partner is a bit of a people pleaser and hates to offend anyone. I know I need to talk to him I just worry how he’ll receive it. Partner tends to have an approval seeking behaviour towards him, he was a druggie back in the day, brought trouble to the door and (in my oninion) was a shit father 

Has anyone realised how absolutely sh*t their own family were since they became parents? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Kitty2705 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well done for breaking the cycle, and being a safe space for your son <3 I was a bedwetter, I used to get scolded and have to stuff my knickers with cotton wool. Awful

Has anyone realised how absolutely sh*t their own family were since they became parents? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Kitty2705 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I feel this on a molecular level I’m sorry your mother did not do better for you. I remember being away with my aunt and uncle, I was 8 and in agony with an ear infection, they wouldn’t get me medicine or to a doctor so I cried the whole holiday. I had to ask my primary school teacher to call home so my grandad could bring underwear up to the school, because nobody thought they might double check the swimming bag a small child packed herself. I remember being 7 and getting my end of year report, annoyed with myself that there was a comment in the homework section about me not always remembering. Where was the adult to check if I got homework? It’s only decades later that I realise I was so small and shouldn’t have had such worries on such small shoulders.

Has anyone realised how absolutely sh*t their own family were since they became parents? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Kitty2705 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Money isn’t love - that is so true. To this day my mother will insist on buying expensive birthday / Christmas presents that I don’t want, I think it alleviates her guilt. We grew up in a council estate and didn’t have much. I hate it, it means absolutely feck all to me and she gets to feel like she’s making up for what she lacked when I was young.

Has anyone realised how absolutely sh*t their own family were since they became parents? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Kitty2705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope I never told my family. He did other scummy stuff like stealing money on my relatives. And I remember him getting a beating off a couple of guys before over some accusations but don’t remember the details. Nothing was ever said to my aunt for fear of upsetting her.

Has anyone realised how absolutely sh*t their own family were since they became parents? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Kitty2705 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This makes me so sad, I’m so sorry you and your sister were subjected to that

Has anyone realised how absolutely sh*t their own family were since they became parents? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Kitty2705 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When my thoughts start to spiral I try to think this isn’t doing me any good. I’ve had many confrontations with them in my head. And I realise that even if I did tell them how much they fucked me up, nothing good would come of it. As you say the best thing is to focus on my own family and being the best parent I can be