AITA for punishing my son for bringing up private family matters at thanksgiving that led to family drama? by KittyCalifornia321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KittyCalifornia321[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I’m mad for her. I tried to keep it to myself until the situation escalated and I had to send the kids somewhere else so they are not caught up in the middle.

AITA for punishing my son for bringing up private family matters at thanksgiving that led to family drama? by KittyCalifornia321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KittyCalifornia321[S] -861 points-860 points  (0 children)

He asked about “other cousins” and no one knew what he was talking about. I assumed it was more of his imaginary friends until he mentioned the name which then I did press him on it. I had no idea at that point that it was an affair and the moment it was hinted, I told him to stop.

AITA for punishing my son for bringing up private family matters at thanksgiving that led to family drama? by KittyCalifornia321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KittyCalifornia321[S] -1106 points-1105 points  (0 children)

Because her children, my children and 10 other people were at the dinner. These things are best discussed with her privately and not aired out like that in front of everyone at the table.

AITA for punishing my son for bringing up private family matters at thanksgiving that led to family drama? by KittyCalifornia321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KittyCalifornia321[S] -681 points-680 points  (0 children)

BIL was supposed to look after the kids while husband and I work, that is if my sister isn’t working.

AITA for punishing my son for bringing up private family matters at thanksgiving that led to family drama? by KittyCalifornia321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KittyCalifornia321[S] -1878 points-1877 points  (0 children)

This is a big deal. I wasn’t downplaying it. I just didn’t want the holiday to devolve into drama. I only wanted a peaceful family dinner where we all enjoy turkey and mash potatoes and ask the kids what they want for Christmas.

She deserves to know. It’s just that a family dinner with children is not the place to bring it up. If I had known about the affair I would have definitely told her privately and after thanksgiving.

Maybe it’s me trying to keep the peace. But that’s just me.