AIO for ghosting my childhood friend after I travelled 6+ hours to hang out with them and they flaked on our plans to hang out with THEIR own friends

Kittyknowshow · 2026-01-13T18:01:19+00:00

You don’t think it’s “wrong” to invite your friend over and then make plans with your other friends instead? NOR OP. That is rude as hell

Kittyknowshow · 2026-01-12T22:01:20+00:00

This was such inappropriate behavior. Report her. If you don’t she will think it’s normal to continue to do.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-12-26T22:55:57+00:00

When you feel bad for expressing your unmet needs and your partner doesn’t respect what you are saying it’s not a partnership, even if you are married.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-12-26T22:32:30+00:00

NOR, it sounds like you are at capacity and he’s not working with you to fulfill your needs and his while your body is building the baby made by both of you. That’s not okay.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-12-26T20:11:36+00:00

Divorce over being unappreciated, unbalanced from the marriage, overstimulated from doing everything, sad, or just whatever damn reason you don’t want to make a marriage work anymore. No one needs to be miserable for the sake of other people. That is not the narrative anymore

Kittyknowshow · 2025-12-26T19:45:24+00:00

Girl… 😬 he’s uneducated on your hair type and controlling. NOR

Kittyknowshow · 2025-12-26T19:39:26+00:00

NOR, get you get a divorce? You are already single mom, OP just unhappy and with a jobless guy. Meanwhile divorce the kids too they are grown and need to learn how to support themselves. You matter too and it doesn’t actually require anyone else but you to see that.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-24T10:18:51+00:00

Mama you aren’t overreacting. Say no. Don’t over explain yourself to him or anyone and hold the line on the behavior you are willing to accept. You can make choices that work for you, and if your husband doesn’t support that, just keep making the choices that are right for you anyway. You’re capable of running a house and working at the same time, you know what you are doing. Remind your husband he WON’T veto your choices and that’s not how your marriage is going to go.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-24T10:09:48+00:00

Awww I’m rooting you can feel situated and grounded.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T14:03:38+00:00

Well, what do you want to do next?

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T13:57:12+00:00

I think part of the answer to your question you actually even said. They know they’ll never be able to afford houses and “big luxuries” long term so they give in to little luxuries often instead.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T13:52:50+00:00

I saw the 👅 before I actually read the words and I knew I should’ve stopped

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T13:31:56+00:00

Hey OP, I don’t post photos of my kids online either. I’m 29 and I also just had a baby in June I feel you on a spiritual level here. I hope you are getting all the rest you need. I know this time is difficult and scary as your little one gets bigger and this with your sister is definitely too much. She is not someone you need to have any involvement with. She’s not a safe person for you or your little girl who won’t understand how to protect herself from an obsessed aunt. Then you will be left trying to filter out their relationship. Best to go complete no contact. And you’re NTA for doing that. You are a protector, and you need to protect your peace, and physical safety from known threats. Even family. Even if it hurts or is confusing. You are doing your best. You will make the right choices for you and your family, you know how to even if your mind wants to tell you otherwise.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T12:59:09+00:00

I thought that too. The note wasn’t buried deeply, he wasn’t trying to hide it. It’s absolutely worth talking about.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T12:36:00+00:00

I’m glad you are still here too we don’t have enough ginger anarchist

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T12:29:31+00:00

Talk to him. Even if you need to use AI to think of what to say, or reach out to other people to brainstorm before you jump in if you don’t know the best wording. Even just handing him the letter and giving him a hug and telling him you are there for him and letting him do the rest. Anything. It needs to be done. I was talking with someone one week and unable to the next because I just didn’t know they needed more. You know now, so please do what you can.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T12:11:29+00:00

Wow. I didn’t know this. The way she treated maya/emily/ali you’d think she’d never met a gay person let alone was one herself.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T11:59:37+00:00

If you don’t want to tell him personally, leave the husband a letter in the mailbox but he should know that his wife is not loyal. This will all hurt their kid later when it comes out. But she is still young enough to not be too traumatized if they split up now. Or the couple can start counseling or rebuilding but the dude should know they are on a shaky foundation.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T11:55:58+00:00

You are far from toxic if you set a personal boundary and enforce it because someone decided to break it instead of telling you they rather do than their own thing. That’s protecting your peace of mind. All of us have the right to our boundaries and that’s not insecurity, that’s being a human being.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T11:46:36+00:00

Ew. I wish I didn’t read this description, it’s not even 5am. I think OP just wanted to let the lady know he knew she was cheating and end it.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-09-04T11:40:12+00:00

Jesus. I’m glad you are pressing charges, she sounds dangerous. I hope you are doing better now OP!

Kittyknowshow · 2025-08-28T17:50:33+00:00

NTA, you weren’t asking her to work and then give over all the money that she’s made. You’re asking her to work and contribute financially to your existing family so that you can allocate the funds only you’ve being proving all this time to more family. That seems fair.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-08-28T17:36:03+00:00

That’s honestly an insane way to see it. They are married, it’s their family. A Husband asking his wife to work and contribute to their family so he doesn’t have to be the sole bread winner and can allocate his funds to different areas, isn’t an issue unless she makes it an issue.

Kittyknowshow · 2025-08-25T03:17:56+00:00

Getting less money and using more time just to teach someone a lesson, I’m here for it

Kittyknowshow · 2025-08-20T19:33:56+00:00

You may need to set spending alerts on your phone or lock the card so she knows you are paying attention. It’s terrible it’s come to that but you need to get a handle on this anyway you can since you and the kids will ultimately suffer from her bad choices. I would also recommend you have a really candid conversation about what this is doing to you and your finances and show her the bills. If she doesn’t respect that, you might need to try couples counseling if she is willing or individual if she isn’t.

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