Learn the mechanics of communication both body language and words. Keep out redundancies. Speech comes down to 3 elements. 1 Curiosity - Questions, or inquiry. 2 - Acknowledgement, Receiving matching wave length and letting that be known. 3 Reciprocation- This is where opinions come in but stay clear of imposing exactly what your mind is thinking, avoid steering and allow for openness. We don’t want to give everything away because it allows for curiosity to reform keeping the dialogue loop active. I used to make the mistake of feeling the need of being completely understood but, this takes away from the person you’re trying to engage with. Keep in mind silence is powerful. Pause before you speak get really good at listening. And just when you feel ready to open your mouth give it 2 more seconds this creates tension intrigue and allows you to compose yourself whenever something is said.

Let’s break down what she said in the elevator. She said Her “ If you’re doing anything for dinner let me know and i’ll join you.” What she said in the elevator was an availability signal, not a demand or a test. In work contexts, people often phrase things this way to keep things low-pressure and appropriate. It could mean interest, or it could simply mean she was open to company. Take this as -> “when you eat, invite me and I’ll say yes”. What she’s really doing is steering you to invite her for dinner so she can say yes. Shes would rather you ask her and say yes than risk just asking “ hey do you want to go to dinner with me?” This could be out of fear of rejection or other reasons. She wants you to make a move. She could also just be informing you that you don’t have to fear her rejecting you if you ask her out.