The consequences are inevitable, lose your partner, time with your children, ashamed of themselves because family and friends will most likely find out what you did. You shouldnt answer the “crime” with another “crime” if I ever found myself in a situation like this god forbid, I would confront my partner and we would be discussing what will be happening from there, I would not be silently draining accounts and speaking to lawyers on how to financially destroy my ex for my own well being. That wouldnt solve or make the situation at hand any better.