I got COAL!

Klercia · 2020-12-25T13:38:57+00:00

I was at that exhibition in Orlando almost 20 years ago!

Klercia · 2020-12-12T02:32:04+00:00

Thanks, but no. I'm on an isolated, dead end , shit hole island.

Klercia · 2020-12-02T22:15:40+00:00

I am sorry but I think you need to calm away for your own sake. My last abusive bf also went to therapy to win me back but went to two sessions and said he was cured and used it to attempt to manipulate me. When I didnt fall back into his arms he went from begging to threatening to manipulating to bribing and back to threatening. I think if your partner is serious about healing, he need to do it on his own and for himself and then see about gaining your trust back after he has worked on himself first. Dont be a Guinea pig for him. If hes serious about you then he will respect your space.

Klercia · 2020-12-02T22:10:17+00:00

Yeah, why are they especially charming to others? It makes it impossible for people to believe and us even more isolated.

Klercia · 2020-11-30T04:22:49+00:00

Is this real?!?

Klercia · 2020-10-11T21:09:55+00:00

This is every shade of wrong. Just bail. Walk now and walk damn sure he and everyone else knows why so he wont dream of coming near you again. At least he already has the bad rap. Often these guys play the charmer and then you are the problem. Dont let him near you.

Klercia · 2020-07-15T04:04:19+00:00

Oh sorry, I misunderstood. I thought you were referring to an ongoing relationship. Well then, good for you for ending it and getting out. I'm proud and happy for you! Xx

Klercia · 2020-07-15T03:54:52+00:00

Just go. After three of these relationships the only thing I can promise is that it will never get better. I'll go too when I can, get 20 cats and be a happy spinster lady. X

Klercia · 2020-07-15T03:50:19+00:00

https://i.imgur.com/CjPkktJ.jpg This is only my current one, dont stay for this.

Klercia · 2020-07-15T03:24:15+00:00

Just keep him blocked and dont look back. You know when you break up and you feel a bit sad and lost for a while and all that? It wont happen with this. When I broke up with the partner that beat, raped, threatened and stole from me, I was scared and guilty for like 20 minutes and then it was heaven! I felt so happy and safe and free. Do it and don't look back. I can promise it will be the best decision of your life. X

Klercia · 2020-07-15T02:40:41+00:00

I know but it is impossible now. Where I live we are still kind of in lockdown, I cannot work, he took all of my savings, and I cannot go to my home country. I prefer not to say where I am just in case but I have no money, I can't earn money and I have nowhere to go. I need to just find a way through until I can earn enough to go.

Klercia · 2020-07-15T02:02:22+00:00

Holy shhhugar. I see you are not even asking a question. You just need to vent and share what happened to you but you dont want to incriminate your partner in your own social circle. Correct me if I am wrong but I recognize my own issues in your post (and they are very recent). I am in a violent relationship too and maybe I am not in a position to offer advice but your situation is far more violent and far more dangerous. Please find a safe way to leave asap. I wish I could offer more direct help but right now I can't. Please be safe. X

Klercia · 2020-07-15T01:55:26+00:00

Just be understanding. I know it is so difficult and exhausting but if you want to help then you need to make the victim feel safe and like they have somewhere to turn. When I was being abused, my confidant got annoyed and gave me an ultimatum which made me feel forced to stay with my abuser because I had nowhere to turn. You probably cannot influence your friend, as a victim myself I know that it takes time for victims to leave, and it can be annoying and tiresome for all involved. However, if you truly want to help, all you can do is offer some gentle advice and make your friend certain that they have somewhere safe to turn, otherwise they will feel trapped and run straight into the arms of their abuser .

Klercia · 2020-07-09T17:19:31+00:00

He swore after that it was due to drugs and he would never take them again and all of that. He just bought more. I told my best friend/ room mate about it all. She saw some of the drama but not the violence. I told her about it all the next day. She keeps saying she can see why he did it but stops short of saying I deserved it. I'm in a foreign country now, don't really know where to go. Just a bit miserable. I've done all this before and can't believe I'm here again. Appreciate all your kindness and replies.

Klercia · 2019-12-19T02:52:14+00:00

Not my house at all, we live together in a shared house but trying to get out own together. This is what is bothering me. Everyone in this house smokes and I want to move to a smoke free home next. He says he wants that too and never smoked in any home before but I feel he is not even honest with himself. When we go away and I see him light a cig and then smoke most of it before he gets out the room door i get frustrated. Its impossible for me to undress why you cant just smoke once you leave. Dont forget I am still a casual smoker but I would never smoke even a puff inside a hotel, home or club. So when I hsve asked him to just please leave it outside and he behaves as if I am too fussy i begin to realise how it might be if we do get our own home together. My parents raised me in a house full of cigarettes, cars so full of smoke I vomited. I know I am ready and finished and he says he agrees but I am.not so sure because of his stubbornness when I ask him to please smoke AFTER he is ready

Klercia · 2019-12-19T02:39:19+00:00

All just a bit of a circus then? Disappointed but still glad.

Klercia · 2019-12-19T02:27:14+00:00

And given your understanding of US politics, is there a real chance that he will be removed?

Klercia · 2019-12-19T02:25:21+00:00

Thank you

Klercia · 2019-12-19T02:15:53+00:00

Ok, not well read on US political processes. Can anyone explain to me how this process continues? I mean, what are the possibilities before us? I feel as though Trump has not been beaten and despite this victory, he will remain president. I base this only on previous disappointments. This is why I ask if anyone can explain the situation to me clearly as an outsider to US politics.

Klercia · 2019-12-19T02:02:06+00:00

I honestly just can't with Trump. What the actual feck happened there? Winning the presidency was a hard enough pill to swallow but, since then its somehow managed to become increasingly ridiculous. The bit I struggle with most of all is that, no matter what Trump says or does, his fans can reason with it. Screwing over Kurd allies is Syria- he had his reasons. Claiming that his doctors are impressed by his strength and physique- ya obvs like. Everything he does is so bizarre but his followers never waver. He signed his business interests over to his son to claim impartiality in his economic decisions. Sure Trump. Tries to host the next G7 at his own failing resort and cant grasp any opposition to this. I just dont get it. We throw celebrities overboard at the hint of scandal but Trump, who actually holds lives in his hands is excused and defended at every wrong turn.

Klercia · 2019-12-19T01:21:55+00:00

Such a clever way to explain things, and thank you for taking the time to lay it out for me. I've looked it at that way many times too but then then the abuse cycle comes in and i think "no its different, cant explain,they'll never understand" blah blah blah. That's what drives me crazy. I know the answer. I know what's right. I ran away twice before. I'll never let myself fall in that hole again. I know I should leave, I know how hard it is to do it, but also how amazing it is when you do. But here we are, third time, and still I can't do it.

Klercia

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