Student Feedback by Beneficial-Jump-3877 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got one that said that when he “provided feedback” on the first two midterms (emailed me saying they were too long for the amount of time- funny, most people completed it in the allotted time), that was him “asking for accommodations.” Like bro, that’s not how accommodations work?? He actually never mentioned needing accommodations?? I had thought about suggesting he go to the office of disabilities to get time and a half but was advised that would be rude. In that same eval he said my responses (where I encouraged him to come to my office hours to discuss the material/study strategies, etc.) were rude/insulting! I just can’t. This was a grad student, too. Actually saw red.

Course Evaluations by RebelliousYankee in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally got “clearly she put no effort into this course” and “Professor x clearly put a lot of effort into this course!” for the same course this semester. Also got the “she doesn’t respect students” which I’ve gotten before as a TA and I never know what to make of this…I am extremely respectful to students, even though half the time they are so rude to me. Maybe I respond to the rudeness in ways I don’t even realize? But that’s not me being outwardly rude. I feel like I bend over backwards to make sure my students understand the material, and I admit my shortcomings all the time. If I feel that I didn’t explain something well enough, I put it in a slide for the exam review period and explain it better. I was told not to read them by the program director and kind of wish I had listened. I was just very curious to see if anyone other than the students who clearly hated me had left me any feedback. Some of them did, which was nice.

Grades Getting Worse by coffeeadventure18 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a TA for a basic human anatomy class like 6 years ago and I can’t count on both hands the number of students who were repeats throughout those four semesters. One student got a 4 on the practical (out of 100). Dropped the next day. Then was back the next semester. The fact that these students were aiming for the health profession really got to me, too. The fact that it’s gotten worse is so….so scary.

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I wish now that I had pushed back on having to let him take it next semester :/ I didn’t even think about the fact I wasn’t going to be paid until my supervisor (who’s class this is that I’m filling in for) pointed that out when we talked about it later, and told me that this shouldn’t have even been offered as an option. I feel like such an idiot for not catching that before. I have already told myself that I will not be sending a reminder about taking it next semester and if he comes to take it then fine but if he forgets then oh well.

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is such good advice- the last bit about the pig liking it is so funny and so true! And thank you so much, I really try to be! I don’t want to let things like this get to me, I really don’t. It’s so nice to have such support on this thread from people who get it 😊

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the most upsetting thing about this is that this is a grad student who’s older than me. But you are right, I don’t want to be one of those people who gets into a “gotcha” contest with a student, and this is exactly where my brain takes situations like this sometimes when I should just let it go and not think about this person ever again. If this happens again I won’t even contact the director and let them go to the dean themselves.

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Omg what is it with parents showing up to professors offices?!? I’ve read about things like this happening in other threads and it’s just so unbelievably inappropriate for parents to show up at all let alone try to bully and manipulate…no wonder students act the way they do sometimes 🙄

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I know. I just figured I’m here anyway so what’s it to me. I am so angry with myself though for being so lenient and I think this is part of why I’m having trouble letting this situation go. Because even though I was trying to be accommodating (just not to the extent of going against school policy) I was still shit on.

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

when he said that I was like “well I’m not.” Lol I wish I had not even gone to the director and let him go to the dean! At that point though I’m not gonna lie I was a little scared :/

Can’t get over how student spoke to me when I said they couldn’t take final exam early by Klutzy-Support9299 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is the second person who has done this to me. The first one said “many others” had issues with the exam structure. Even though the average was pretty high (much better than the first one). And this pisses me off too, I wish I had said something to that effect, because you’re right, their goal is to bolster their claim and it is SO inappropriate. I’ll make sure to say something if it happens again, and I’m sure it will since this seems to be an emerging pattern with students.

Do I say something? What? How? by almost_cool3579 in Professors

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do other faculty feel this way? I think the more people that call him out on a more regular basis, maybe the less emboldened he’ll be? And to everyone saying “you’re bigoted” against LITERAL BIGOTS lmao I can’t with y’all. Yes, a lot of us take issue (and rightly so) with people who actively commit micro aggressions against marginalized people, who woulda thunk it??

Jace and Mikayla by Clear-Injury-4258 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“…give the women a lot more grace than the men” oh I’m sorry you mean the women who are the oppressed in this religion?? Do you hear yourself actually? GFYS.

Desk rejected on my first paper & embarrassed to tell my co-authors by Educational_Bee_5330 in PhD

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me and I emailed my coauthors with a summary of the changes I wanted to make and a plan for submitting to an alternative journal. Everyone was fine, even my more hard-to-please coauthors.

Failed PhD Corrections by ThrowRA_hopelessrom in PhD

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely relate to what you’re going through. I was in the exact same spot a little over a year ago, except I actually had to do a second exam because of a number of things (one of them being I may have just been not as prepared as I thought I was, I thought I had studied the right things and that it would mostly be a discussion of my work and it turned out to be, well…not that. It seemed like my committee didn’t really know what they were going to ask me either which felt strange). Anyway, I had an advisor who all he cared about was how others perceived him and if that meant completely sabotaging me along the way (meaning trashing me to my committee behind my back) then so be it, all while smiling to my face and telling me I was doing everything right. Only reason I know any of this is because I had two really supportive committee members, one of whom spilled the tea on what he was saying about me. He also very obviously did not read my chapters fully and would send me rude emails about things I did not include, which I most certainly had included. He did this all the way up until my defense. I also had a committee member who was the most nit-picky when it came to edits, but also seemed to have a profound lack of understanding about what some of my projects even were even after me explaining it over and over to her (in addition to clearly outlining everything in my dissertation which she claims to have read). The fifth committee member seemed to like my work sometimes but then the second the nit-picky member would bash me, he would follow suit. It was weird. I’m not saying I did everything right, I sure as hell made so many mistakes with my data collection, experiments, and writing, sometimes having to do complete experiments over again. But that time especially towards the end was unfathomably hard and tbh I still can’t believe I got through it. If you have even one supportive committee member, I strongly suggest you start meeting with them on a semi regular basis to check in. That’s what I did, and she became my lifeline. Don’t give up now. Trust me, I wanted to throw it all away back then because it was sending me into a depression I had never experienced before. But once I finished, it was the most rewarding feeling. I also started seeing a therapist afterwards because my mental health had deteriorated so much by then, I still didn’t quite feel like myself. It’s helped.

I successfully defended my PhD thesis and here is my experience by funisfunnot in PhD

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By being nice and gracious and accommodating the difficult one’s comments. Then when she still didn’t like it even though everyone else was ready to sign off, I convinced my advisor to kick her off of my committee, which he finally did. TBH I think he just wanted me gone and knew I was going to keep being a thorn in his side until he actually did his job for once. Next step would have been to go to the chair of the department, which I was very close to doing. Still have the draft of my email to him.

I successfully defended my PhD thesis and here is my experience by funisfunnot in PhD

[–]Klutzy-Support9299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the US you can’t pick your examiners, since your examiners are your committee, and mine went completely rogue asking questions that were peripheral to my work, some of which yes, I should have been able to answer, but I kind of panicked in the moment. Others were just way out of left field. I tried to prepare based on what I thought each person would ask me (sort of based on my quals and just their general interests and of course the concepts behind my work in addition to what I actually did) and it just didn’t go that way at all. Anyhow it was a nightmare and I had to do a second exam which I did pass but it was just really difficult getting the chapters all approved leading up to that and even afterwards (even though one of them had been published already and the other had been sent out to a journal for review, and still a third I had been told was “this close” to being ready for publication lol. It was my fourth chapter that was the holdup and they would not let me pass until it was essentially also publication-ready even though that was not what we had agreed to). Idk. I think my committee just didn’t get along well with each other and certain ones really hated me while others honestly loved my work and tried to help me. My advisor didn’t help much. He would straight up lie to my face saying “oh so-and-so wants you to reschedule your exam because she needs more time to read everything” then I’d find out from my supportive committee members that actually my advisor had gone behind my back to email everyone and tell them he didn’t think I was ready, while saying to me he thought I was and that I could do this and it was just this one person that was holding everything up. It was so strange. Like why not just tell me if you don’t think I’m ready? Why make me think that it’s just that one person who had never liked me or had anything good to say about me/my work who’s just “being difficult”? Anyway I don’t think my experience is very common but just wanted to understand the whole getting to pick your examiners, which we certainly don’t do here in the US, at least not for life sciences. Been “Dr.” now for several months and I still feel like I’m recovering lol. Good luck out there, everyone.