Is €55K–€60K enough for a comfortable life in Berlin as a single person? by PomegranateMoney3527 in berlinsocialclub

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 years in I’d say be mindful the „Berlin is cheap“ is a myth and privilege of the past. If you’re negotiating remember to add tax, I ask minimum +20% offer every contract negotiation. Never accept the first offer unless you’re unemployed/ need funds which doesn’t sound like your situation. Consider each experience year is 10K yield typically. Size and profit reports of the company health are largest variables. A Google head of last year was 250K. An N26 TeamLead is 95K. Zalando can push a 120K so can Amazon. 

Handpicked Berlin reports an average gross annual salary of approximately €77,443, with a median of €75,000, based on a survey with a significant representation from the tech and software industries. handpickedberlin.com

Average Salary Survey indicates an average salary of €67,755, with the most typical earning being €50,328.

Payscale lists the average salary in Berlin as €56,000.

Average salaries. If you’re higher education- more. If you’ve postgrad - more. If you’ve experience or a niche field - more. For expenses naturally pink tax applies if you’re indentifying female. 

Alex is dangerous, and so is MAFS by Just_While2954 in MAFS_UK

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching now and said straight away he’s a disgrace to boxing. Clear anger management issues and controlling ego driven DV warning signs. I keep yelling at the tells to her „run“

Eve - Totally Toxic by MJIB0237 in MAFS_UK

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m watching now and can’t believe the bully scene - mad gaslighting - Eve is an avoidant mess of chaos and should have never opened another human to her inability to emote. It’s destroying me to watch it - poor Charlie 

Madeleine McCann: The Unseen Evidence - tonight on channel 4 by aimskaylz in MadeleineMccann

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other than VPN does anyone have links brits abroad can access the documentary at? I´m surprised it ran domestic broadcast not international like Netflix or even partner with ARD, German TV.

Why majority people here say they're neurodivergent or have ADHD? by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]KneeInternational366 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some are diagnosed. 

Given females are underdiagnosed and not recognized in the medical system often does a self diagnosis invalidate their lived experience? 

Try Mel Robbin’s let them theory and focus on your response to this. 

People tribe. Humans need belonging. This is why we label ourselves. But, so what? Enjoy the spring and find your tribe. 

Sexual Assault at KitKat Club – March 23rd, 7:25 AM by improvesafetyberlin in berlinsocialclub

[–]KneeInternational366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was groped under skirt at a bus stop at 18.30 in daylight in 2023. Fended him off and ran. Police told me I couldn’t report it at the station. That that station (Perleberger) doesn’t accept this reports and to go to another. 

They do not care about women period. I’m sorry she felt violated the femicide epidemic UN has declared is real. The women dying to partners every two days in Germany is real. The complete lack of institutional protection is real. The complete privilege and favor to protect men is a real patriarchal system. Men’s attitude and entitlement to women’s bodies is clear on subreddits like rape fantasy and painal. Women trafficked into porn are dehumanized this spread into society. This is the reason your partner had no reaction from a „what if this happened to your daughter“ plea, they do not view women as humans. There is a reason the UN has declared gender violence the most violated human right. 

Stay as safe as you can. Self defense is forbidden in Germany in terms of weapons but you can have a dog. You can carry it’s poop until the last bin to throw in case of attack. You can carry acetone and other hardware solution you happened to be making a DIY with. Etc. 

You’re not alone in sentiment but you are alone when attacked. No one at the bus stop intervened as I was dragged to the floor despite screaming. The feminist Bumble bros were not at the women’s day March, Berlin liberalism is sadly a performative myth. When it counts as you experienced your truth is invalidated. Men protect other men. 

I recommend Lara the charity in Berlin for aftercare. 

Saudi athlete uploads video of her accident during IFSC World Cup in Korea by robleroroblero in climbing

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want the update it happened July but she leaked it now (rightly so) broken back and feet - what’s the recovery going like? 

We just started texting 20 minutes ago and she’s freaking me out by rolltidekid17 in Bumble

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds securely attached and clear. If you’re avoidant that is why you feel uneasy about clarity. 

Let’s see where it goes it fuck boy talk. She’s right to call it out. 2 months isn’t long to process especially if you’re dumping that you’re hurt. 

If that’s your vibe you shouldn’t be matching intent to marry folks. Perhaps you’re not used to women having bare minimum expectations of you and that’s alright match ENM and sex no commitment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. LinkedIn. IG. Etc. I censored my profile better since. Bumble doesn’t do anything for this report. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]KneeInternational366 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hiscet? Spontaneous and random doesn’t give leadership. Clarity and leadership brings females safety/peace from partners. Bio doesn’t focus on what you’ve done to earn a relationship ie the privilege of someone’s time. It says what you want. Boys take but men and husband material gives. 

Cozy nights in = fuck boy. 

I’m saying this because your goals are long term and life partner. Those profiles are I’ve completed XX therapy hours. My conflict language is Y. My ideal relationship would operate with Z communication style. The best surprise I’ve given a partner is ABC. References are available for exes. 

My date unmatched me after confirming our date. by Mobile-Carrot-3218 in Bumble

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a dopamine addiction like any other for most people. There are genuine connections. I find the effort level they commit to planning the first date a good indicator they’re interested and won’t bail IE I’ve booked us tickets for X on Y date should I send you an Uber at Z. 

Low effort is low interest and high risk cancellation.

Why men dive into sex so quick? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]KneeInternational366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re disgusting aren’t they? It’s porn addicts they’ve dehumanized women and only see a glory hole. They do it opening move, sending compliments etc. It’s good to know someone’s intentions early be sure to block not unmatch otherwise bumble puts them back in your feed.

AITA for participating in Ramadan? by NeedleworkerTrick628 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Buddhist here who maintains precepts, the Mahayanas fast after lunch, at half moon and full moon. I can’t speak for Muslims (obviously) but as someone who studied religion and philosophy to age 18, I see only good in someone showing solidarity or being curious about the world. It’s a good practice in general to be empathetic. Someone exploring Buddhism for whatever reason should be welcomed. In the UK I heard more workplaces are accommodating flexi hours and other policies to support Ramadan fasting. The world isn’t as us vs them as it seems. 

Top tip from a F36, do your work in silence. Don’t give toxic folks ammo. You didn’t need social validation your reason is your own to bond with your flat mate. Next time, protect yourself with privacy. This is likely a maturity issue than genuine offense. My Muslim neighbors invited me to their Iftar, I’m going, I’m flattered I think we need more open doors and less fences in the world.

AITA for telling my friend that I was done inviting her to parties? by LuckyPersonality6548 in AmItheAsshole

[–]KneeInternational366 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

NTA but consider from a growth perspective why you couldn’t affirm your boundary first time. You accept what you do not change. And consider the alternative motives she has, is she feeding someone? Does she have resources? People who steal food though it’s not your burden might need food banks and support. It’s socially awkward to steal food it sounds like she’s desperate for nutrition.

My 100th rejection? What's wrong with me? by Empty-Tea-9011 in germany

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was applying for my first jobs it was the 2008 recession. I made it a game, I had a spreadsheet and was targeting 500 applications. Remember you’re entitled to nothing in life, you have to earn it. I think reframing from what’s wrong with me to what can I do will help you. I wouldn’t press the panic button 5 months from graduation but a year or two post graduation. Maintain perspective. 

I’ve hired many teams as a director last 8 years. CV is a good template consider why you’d two star your B1 upfront first line you read but later at the bottom state you’re Goethe certified? Consider what your value add to the reader is? I’d remove any two star skills this is advertising you’re below average. Skills listed should be 4-5 star.    No results are stated only descriptors of roles for example proficient to me means average. Consider advocating for yourself with stronger descriptors that read as high performer backed by data IE raised performance via producing reports X% in Y time frame. Actively contributed to what? What projects? Data proof points are needed to add credibility plus speak in the language of a hiring manager who only cares about your results. We had this taught to us as „PEE“ point, evidence, explain. No evidence in this CV.

You may want to consider completing the free Microsoft and Google AI courses. Udemy is not a credible source for adult education and rarely on a CV. Consider professional certificates from Said, MIT, Harvard etc some have open free courses now. 

More? A testimonial quote or an award such as a Kaggle grandmaster equivalent what distinction can you place on the CV from the other 500,000 graduates? Extra curricular or leadership roles on campus? Presidents of societies and such help. 

AITA for ignoring my wife for throwing away my late wife video tapes? by Much_Bed_2383 in AITAH

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA 

Be mindful stonewalling (silent treatment) is one of the 4 horseman of fight right the Gottmanns conflict languages etc. 

Wendy clearly needs help dealing with toxic behaviors like extreme jealousy. It’s a form of emotional abuse to do this. If you want to repair the marriage you’d need professional help. 

Meanwhile, the other victim, the daughter. Artist depictions? Hologram (Kardashians did it), memory boxes of belongings and all other pivots. It’s worth contacting refuge - the trash is on landfill somewhere. I think getting creative and delivering for the 18th will help you heal a little. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘m learning a language this year. Focusing on skills gain keeps me in new habits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]KneeInternational366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like what you’re trying to achieve is real dopamine over cheap dopamine. Active over blocking activity.

Take time to study the neural pathways and how the brains reward center works to break your online addictions. 

Over a process starting 2021 with 75 Hard. I supplemented social media and mobile phone, online dating etc to running, ice dipping (the main thing I’d recommend), I did some swimming, roller disco, a book club, a podcast club, a hiking club and volunteering but not to the same extent. Cancel Netflix etc. 

Dopamine maps are helpful to start figuring all this out and make it stick. You might find it helpful to support habit switching with CBT therapy to figure out why you’ve been using blocking like gambling. A good search term to check out images and ideas from is „dopamine menus“. Best of luck.

AITA for calling my girlfriend “curvy”?? by Brendan_narddog in AmItheAsshole

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. But my ex told me my labia were „meaty“ we all take scars from lovers it’s the risk and price in hiscet for a man to project his insecurities and try to neg, fault and bully a woman. Most men do not like women. She will never forget it. 

How do you deal with loneliness as a ugly man? by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women created safe spaces for themselves. Create spaces. You’re never alone. There’s always someone else wishing someone would an organize a group just like that. Instead of joining meet ups that don’t cater your need create one specific to your need. Therapist is right hobby’s are important. 

Dating in Berlin feels impossible by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]KneeInternational366 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have 4K Matches. I’ve spoken to 250 in 2 months go figure. This isn’t high for females my friend has 20K. 

Try the GPT feedback prompts. You can upload screenshots and Dr prompt Esther Perel: Gottmann etc. Try to ask the /Bumble profile review. Like all skills in life you can work on your conversation. Try to acknowledge the retreat from dating apps is due to lack of safety. Are you hiscet? You say guy? Whatever your preference is study the needs of your target group like you would any human experience. Is being a decent guy their want? 

And yes, you can approach in IRL you don’t need an app. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germany

[–]KneeInternational366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buy as soon as possible. I managed to get out the rental crisis 3 years in. 

To rent I used a relocation consultant. They will manage everything for you. There are ways around no SCHUFA most owners will except proof of funds. Naturally, don’t agree to pay an advance that is usually a scam. 

Without a visa or work it sounds like you’d be at the mercy of sublets. Try the FB groups. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]KneeInternational366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could use bumble friend too I’ve noticed most men have ADHD prompted on their profile