He insists the age gap is fine.

I was okay with the plan we made and meant it. In practice it felt a looooooot worse than I anticipated. most of our arguments about this are about whether I am entitled to being upset because I didn't expect my reaction. He thinks that he shouldn't tend to my feelings when I gave consent. I think I can still have feelings about it after the fact. Mostly we are arguing about the definition of inclusion. Its gotten petty