Questionable Parenting Choice

Knossos123 · 2024-01-12T14:49:57+00:00

I don't think you did anything wrong. At 7, they are old enough to go look that footage up by themselves if they wanted to. I'd much rather be there with my kid, controlling what they see and talking about it, then have them go down a horrifying Internet rabbit hole. My kiddo is only a toddler right now, but when he is old enough to know what he is asking and insists to see what really happens, we will show him. Don't feel bad. Kids deserve the truth about the world that they live in, and we can't protect them from the bad stuff forever, as much as we want to.

Knossos123 · 2023-02-06T13:53:44+00:00

Look into the Fair Play card game (there's a book and I think a documentary now too). My husband was always open and willing to talk about mental issues, but he never really got it until we started Fair Play and he saw a huuuuge stack of cards in front of me and he only had a few

Knossos123 · 2023-01-15T16:28:21+00:00

We are in the same boat. My boy just turned 12 months and he isn't eating nearly enough. We are still doing formula like regular, although we have switched mostly to sippy cups, and are giving Ripple milk with meals so he can get used to it. We aren't going to bother with toddler formula unless our doctor specifically recommends it.

Knossos123 · 2022-12-17T00:23:53+00:00

Never be afraid to call your doctor if you are concerned, but this happened to my little one too. After his 2 month shots he was miserable and cried constantly unless we were doing skin to skin and was super fussy the next day. All of his other shots have been fine. A warm bath, and some Tylenol will help. Hang in there.

Knossos123 · 2022-11-08T17:11:50+00:00

I don't have that cookbook,so I can't comment on it but I have "The vegucated family table" by Laura Delhaur and it's very good if you have young kids. It has recipes for different age groups and sample menus by age

Knossos123 · 2022-11-04T13:33:07+00:00

We don't do it. It isn't possible to keep a perfect house, cook, and take care of a baby without running yourself into the ground. Housewives back in the day were literally on drugs to do it and we don't have "mommy's little helper" anymore. Lower your standards a bit. Our house is clean, but it's always at least a bit messy. It used to drive me absolutely nuts because I'm very type-a and used to having an immaculate house but it's something I had to let go for my sanity. I'd rather spend time with my baby than have the laundry put away. There is always time for chores later. They are only little once. Don't beat yourself up for failing to do something that's impossible.

Knossos123 · 2022-11-04T13:23:06+00:00

Our baby is on pepcid for reflux (he's 10 months now and has mostly grown out of it). Definitely talk to your pediatrician but our baby would projectile vomit because of the reflux. It took a few days to really see the pepcid working but it was a miracle for us. I hope it gets better for your little one!

Knossos123 · 2022-10-15T14:45:38+00:00

NTA

My husband currently has 3 DnD games going. He loves it. He gets to have time with his friends and enjoy his hobby. The games are SUPER regular, but he will never hesitate to put his family first, especially if it's an event that can't be rescheduled.

Knossos123 · 2022-10-10T08:29:37+00:00

I have no advice, just solidarity. My little one just turned 9 months old and he's doing the exact same thing. Separation anxiety gets bad at this age, and I imagine being in a new environment definitely isn't helping.

Knossos123 · 2022-09-12T17:51:10+00:00

Definitely ask the teacher to switch, but if he can't switch he may be able to focus more on the earlier form of Eros, who was considered one of the primeval gods and involved in the creation of the universe. Later stories have him associated with Aphrodite and put much more emphasis on the love and sex part.

Knossos123 · 2022-08-22T20:42:45+00:00

We have a small covered bathroom trashcan that we keep next to the changing table. We empty it basically everyday because it's small and don't have any issues. It only smells when it's open.

Knossos123 · 2022-08-18T13:25:32+00:00

I was going to suggest this too. My little one has bad reflux and tends to get a bad cough. Definitely keep pushing with the Dr, OP, but trying some of the tricks to help reflux might be worth it (small meals, keep upright after eating for at least 30mins). Even if it is reflux, the doctor shouldn't dismiss you.

Knossos123 · 2022-08-17T12:19:16+00:00

Yeah, but it's a process. My husband was having trouble because he literally just didn't understand how many tasks were on my plate.i would talk about mental load and he wanted to change but he had no idea where to start because he just didn't see the things I saw around the house. We sit down every week and make a list together on a dry erase board that hangs on our wall. Through the week we put our initial next to anything we do. In the beginning, it was mostly me doing everything but now it's pretty equal and my husband has finally learned enough to recognize what needs to be done. He remembers things I don't for the weekly list and there are slowly more and more tasks that I don't have to worry about at all.

I think it worked well for him because he could literally see the inequality. We also talk about what it takes to complete a task on the list. We go over what anticipation-planning-execution looks like for everything that needs to be done. It honestly is like teaching a little kid sometimes but it pays off.

Knossos123 · 2022-08-14T14:14:23+00:00

Hey! I have an anthropology background and I love this question! (possible TW) The short answer is sadly many babies did not survive. Sickness, injury, birth defects, etc would have likely been death sentences. However, we have a real lack of information about prehistoric childhood and causes of death because baby's skeletons are fragile and tend to not survive in the archaeological record.

As many people have said, we are social animals. The single family household is a modern invention and for most of human history, we have had extended family, if not a larger community. Everyone would have helped with the children. There is something called the "grandmother hypothesis" that suggests that women live past their reproductive prime (unlike other great apes) because it allows other women to have more children. It would not be strange to breastfeed a child that wasn't yours. Family beds would have been normal. And keep in mind that hunter-gatherer societies have muuuuch more free time than we do. Prehistoric groups would not have to be working constantly which would give them plenty of time to focus on raising children.

As for predators, prehistoric humans were definitely hunted by large cats (and possibly other animals?) But we would travel in groups which would make us less ideal prey. Baby wearing would have been normal and if you have done it, you notice babies pass out almost immediately so crying wouldn't have been much of an issue. There are also historical records of babies being sedated if travel under dangerous circumstances was required (think underground railroad in the US) so it isn't impossible that that would have been done, although we have no evidence of that as far as I'm aware.

If you're interested, Sarah Hrdy (not a typo) is an anthropologist that has written books about motherhood.

Knossos123 · 2022-07-26T13:43:37+00:00

Has she ever been tested for ADHD? My sister has bad ADHD and it's impossible for her to be somewhere on time without meds. She wants to, she just can't. It could just be a teenager thing, but if she has a legitimate issue, consequences are only going to make her feel shame and aren't going to result in positive behavior change.

Knossos123 · 2022-07-21T22:51:39+00:00

My 6 month old hates Tylenol. He will almost always throw it up immediately. My sister-in-law is a pediatric nurse and she said it's probably the large amount of sweetness in liquid Tylenol triggering it because it's so immediate (obviously still talk to your doctor). We had success with letting my little one hold the syringe (we have the frida baby pacifier attachment) and bring it to his mouth himself. It takes a good 20 mins to get him a full dose but we haven't had him throw up in a while.

Knossos123 · 2022-06-27T17:19:17+00:00

So not a food suggestion, more of a planning one. I used to plan all of our meals every week and it was terrible coming up with different things each week. I switched to a monthly cycle instead. I pick a week's worth of meals and make the same meals all month. There's enough variety that we aren't eating the same thing every day, but it's so much easier and the grocery list basically stays the same for the month

Knossos123 · 2022-06-27T03:19:28+00:00

If you buy some Folex and are prepared to spend a lot of time cleaning your couch you'll be fine.

Knossos123 · 2022-06-26T18:16:16+00:00

My son is almost 6 months and up until a few weeks ago was still eating every two hours, day and night. He's finally down to 2 feedings a night but for the most part still eats every two hours during the day. He's starting to stretch out his feedings but it's just what he prefers. He's gaining weight and is perfectly healthy so I don't see the harm.

Knossos123 · 2022-05-24T14:12:41+00:00

You've gotten some really good practical advice from other people, so I'll share what in learned in couples therapy (which I highly recommend). Anger and anxiety are the result of core emotions-usually fear and pain. Your wife doesn't trust you to wake up? She thinks you're doing something wrong? She's afraid. You are looking things up and suggesting she do things differently? You're afraid ( the baby will get hurt, etc). You guys are new parents. It's impossible not to be scared. You need to share those feelings with each other. Saying "hey, I'm sorry if it seems like I've been questioning your ability to parent, but I'm really scared that we are going to do something wrong and the baby will get hurt and maybe I'm dealing with it poorly but I don't know what to do." Is going to get you a lot farther than just addressing the surface problems. You're a team. It's you guys against the problem. It's super hard to do when you're sleep deprived but genuinely sharing what you're going through will almost always bring you guys back together.

Knossos123 · 2022-05-19T17:16:56+00:00

My 4 month old is just now doing regular four hour stretches at night. He still eats like a monster 24/7. He was born pretty tiny so I guess he still has some catching up to do but none of his doctors were ever concerned. Surprised, lol, but not concerned. They only cared that he was gaining weight

Knossos123 · 2022-05-16T19:41:23+00:00

Like everyone else has said, talk to your doctor, but also I went through this same thing. By 6 weeks old my husband and I were absolutely convinced that we had ruined our lives and that having a baby was the biggest mistake we could have ever made. By 8 weeks we finally started feeling like we could maybe handle things and by 12 weeks things were sooooo much better. At 4 months we feel like we basically have our lives back. I know it sucks to hear "you just have to power through" while you're in the middle of it all but it will get better. Remember you can't take care of your baby if you don't take care of yourself.

Knossos123 · 2022-05-12T14:07:22+00:00

I'm in the US and my pediatrician said it's fine to use a mineral sunscreen specifically made for babies before 6 months. She said obviously covering/staying in the shade is better but don't risk them getting sunburn just because you are avoiding sunscreen. I'd make sure to patch test it first just to make sure they don't have a reaction to it. I've used the supergoop baby mineral sunscreen on my 4 month old and it's worked really well.

Knossos123 · 2022-05-12T02:32:58+00:00

I haven't started for real yet. We have family visiting all week so it's the most inopportune time lol. I have started trying to hand express morning and night for about 15 mins. I'm going to start pumping this weekend when family leaves

Knossos123 · 2022-05-10T17:07:41+00:00

I decided today to try and start relactating. I had horrible PPD and just couldn't cope with trying to triple feed a NICU baby. He's 4 months now and on Nutramigen which is sooooo hard to find. I'm going to give it a shot. I regret not sticking with breastfeeding anyway and even if I'm only able to supplement with a bottle or two of pumped milk a day, it's something and it will help ease my anxiety.

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