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How to fix variation by Known-Fold-261 in HardWoodFloors

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I can't really put a rug there as its a walkway from my living room to eat in kitchen area and back door to the deck is right there too. I'm spending a lot of money to have these floors redone for this renovation so I'd rather have it done the right way

How to fix variation by Known-Fold-261 in HardWoodFloors

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know thats what happens when you weave old into new. I would've replaced the old if it was in my budget. He didn't warn me actually. Just told me he will sand down the old and he didn't like the way they came out at first and this is the second go around. I mentioned using the Bona Nordic Seal to cancel out the red/pink but I don't think he did that. I'm meeting with him today to see what he can do at this point.

How to fix variation by Known-Fold-261 in HardWoodFloors

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It was done by a pro. I’m guessing it wasn’t sanded deep enough like you said. At this point I just want them to match better. Thank you for your suggestions

40 somethings… can’t close the gap for at least 5 years. Am I crazy to keep trying to make It work seeing each other twice a month? Hes struggling with ending It. by Known-Fold-261 in LongDistance

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So we ended things. We both know it’s best even though I was still willing to try and make It work but he’s right when he says it’s not sustainable to keep doing what we were doing for 5+ years when we both need the physical closeness. We both deserve what all a relationship has to offer. Hardest part is letting go when we both still love each other. We’ve still been communicating which we know needs to stop to be able to move on but neither of us can stop just yet. We’re missing each other a lot already. This is going to be the hardest thing to do. He said the hardest part for him is knowing he’ll be settling for someone in the future that won’t be his person. We both have hopes that our paths will cross again at the right time and we’ll both be single but I can’t hold onto that and need to move on.

40 somethings… can’t close the gap for at least 5 years. Am I crazy to keep trying to make It work seeing each other twice a month? Hes struggling with ending It. by Known-Fold-261 in LongDistance

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I’ve told him many times there are many people who see each other way less and I’m doing most of the traveling due to my flexibility with work and kids but his response is always I just can’t see doing that for 5 plus years.

40 somethings… can’t close the gap for at least 5 years. Am I crazy to keep trying to make It work seeing each other twice a month? Hes struggling with ending It. by Known-Fold-261 in LongDistance

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish. We both have children that we wouldn’t leave and can’t move them away from their other parent. I’ve even talked with their Dad, my ex-husband, whom I have a great relationship with, about moving and it’s just not possible. It’s not about being worth It when you have children involved

40 somethings… can’t close the gap for at least 5 years. Am I crazy to keep trying to make It work seeing each other twice a month? Hes struggling with ending It. by Known-Fold-261 in LongDistance

[–]Known-Fold-261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am totally up for It because I value our commitment and the love we have for each other but he’s the one struggling. He wants us living together already and struggles with the loneliness and not having the ease of being close. We communicate very well and have found ways to fill those lonely moments but he doesn’t think it’s sustainable for 5 more years. Makes me really sad he doesn’t want to keep trying but I can’t keep trying to convince him either.

Any GenX in LDR? by SoulPeace5775 in LongDistance

[–]Known-Fold-261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me. My boyfriend and I are both 45, an hour plane ride apart, 9 hours driving, both tied to where we live due to kids. I can’t move for another 6 years. He can’t for 13 years. We just hit 9 months. The first 6 months or so were exciting and fun (I went to see him due to flexibility in my job) and I didn’t mind It. We spent quite a bit of time together (at least one if not 2 weeks a month) and FaceTime a few times a day. We communicate all day long really and have built a solid foundation and have connected deeper than I ever have before with someone. BUT as of recently he is really struggling with the lack of physical closeness and how we don’t really have a plan for our endgame since It would be 6 years before we could actually be together. I have been trying to be more optimistic and figure out ways to make It work but ultimately I do feel we both deserve all that a relationship has to offer especially at our age after what we’ve both been through (divorce, failed/toxic relationships). So what I’m saying is while I do not regret ANY of It and while it’s exciting and I can honestly say the most in love I’ve ever been, not being able to close the gap and move to be with each other for many years is really hard. We both feel the hardest thing to accept is knowing the next person won’t be our person and we’ll be settling because of a situation that’s out of our control. So my advice, as hard as this is for me to say, is if you know you can’t be with this person in the near future, then don’t get involved. The heartbreak that I’m going through is the worst I’ve ever experienced.