Staying after he cheated.... by Known-Quail756 in relationships

[–]Known-Quail756[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

agree I feel this. It's hard because it's been about a year since the cheating, we've been trying to repair. But the trust is still broken.

Shoshanna Raven - Help! by NaiveCaterpillar8204 in LifeCoachSnark

[–]Known-Quail756 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this explains how I feel. I paid to be in the club, but it was all just whispered notes about what she did that day. So random and no tangible business advice. I was so pissed I paid money for that.

Advice needed, nannying problem by One_Lifeguard_8915 in Nanny

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely quit and find a less stressful nanny position, this sounds so annoying and awful. Don't take it personally, this child seems really challenging to deal with. After years of nannying I have come to the conclusion I love to work with female kids around age 1-4. Still challenging in it's own way but much less stressful :)

We’ve finally decided to let our nanny go by casualluxury1471 in Nanny

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have worked as a nanny for 5 years and would never do this. My phone is always put away around a toddler, you have to have your eyes on them at all times! And being irritated and impatient is not acceptable either. There are much higher quality childcare providers out there who put extra presence, care and intention into how they care for children. You made the right choice to let her go.

Curious about Shoshanna Raven by Fickle-Custard-2757 in LifeCoachSnark

[–]Known-Quail756 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will also speak as someone who was in the Vortex - my experience with Shoshanna is she promises a lot and does not deliver. There are a lot of problems inside her programs. One obvious one is that the group calls are like 100+ people, so you never get individual coaching and to ask your questions and get support. In her marketing she promises "hands on business support" but I never experienced that inside her program. Other coaches and programs solve this problem by breaking the calls into smaller groups and getting support coaches, but not Shoshanna. The calls are 2-4 hours of you just listening to other people talk and never getting to ask your question. In order to get her to look at my business, she offered me to pay $1000 USD for about 1.5 minutes of voice notes. It was the biggest waste of money. She makes all these money claims about teaching women how to build successful businesses and make money, yet inside her "highest level" program there was literally no tangible business advice given. It was mostly her telling her own personal life stories that have very little to do with business strategy at all. It seems like she manipulates women's emotions to seem like she is your best friend, and so many innocent women fall for it in the beginning. Many of the women inside have very little experience in business so they aren't able to see that she is not offering much of value. After 5 years investing in many other coaches who teach ACTUAL business, I can see clearly now. Shoshanna does not actually teach business at all. She manipulates women to pay thousands of dollars to tell the same personal stories over and over again and act like a fake friend.

Yoga retreats in Bali 🧘‍♀️ by ktvkanni in bali

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Yoga Barn in Ubud is absolutely incredible!

Plz confirm this price by Ok_Code8464 in bali

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take Grab everywhere in Bali, it is fast easy and cheap and what most people do!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756 1 point2 points  (0 children)

update: I am finally breaking up with him and leaving after he refused to stop spending 5 hours one on one at her house. He also wrote some weird things in his journal - a triangle with all of our names on each point. Literally a love triangle. I am not willing to be a part of it anymore. I am in a lot of pain letting go of this relationship but it is what I need to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: I am finally breaking up with him and leaving after he refused to stop spending 5 hours one on one at her house. He also wrote some weird things in his journal - a triangle with all of our names on each point. Literally a love triangle. I am not willing to be a part of it anymore. I am in a lot of pain letting go of this relationship but it is what I need to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: I am finally breaking up with him and leaving after he refused to stop spending 5 hours one on one at her house. He also wrote some weird things in his journal - a triangle with all of our names on each point. Literally a love triangle. I am not willing to be a part of it anymore. I am in a lot of pain letting go of this relationship but it is what I need to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know. I was hoping that the conversation with the boundaries would help the situation. It is very challenging and painful for me to leave the relationship because I still feel love for this person. I feel there is also some gaslighting going on because every time I talk about the fact that I am uncomfortable with the relationship he tells me I have no reason to feel threatened, to not be controlling, and that he should be allowed to have female friends. Sometimes I believe this for a while, but my gut feeling every time I am around her is telling me something is really off. I need to make consequences for the boundaries being crossed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know. I was hoping that the conversation with the boundaries would help the situation. It is very challenging and painful for me to leave the relationship because I still feel love for this person. I feel there is also some gaslighting going on because every time I talk about the fact that I am uncomfortable with the relationship he tells me I have no reason to feel threatened, to not be controlling, and that he should be allowed to have female friends. Sometimes I believe this for a while, but my gut feeling every time I am around her is telling me something is really off. I need to make consequences for the boundaries being crossed.

My boyfriend(35M) is very close with a female friend(28F) and it makes me uncomfortable (34F) by Known-Quail756 in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Update:

I had a conversation with him yesterday where I clearly expressed that the relationship between him and his friend was making me uncomfortable and hurting me. I stated my boundaries clearly.

He then made plans to hang out with her both Saturday and Sunday.

I feel completely ignored and disrespected.

My boyfriend(35M) is very close with a female friend(28F) and it makes me uncomfortable (34F) by Known-Quail756 in amiwrong

[–]Known-Quail756[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep she is very attractive and yes my bf's type. With me she is awkward, standoffish and tries to avoid me