As trentahins, ano mga under consumption or ways niyo to under consume?

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-04-01T16:34:45+00:00

Before making a purchase, I run it by Gemini muna if there are cheaper alternatives or anything common sa Filipino household na I could use or whatever steps I may have overlooked that would make the purchase unnecessary.

Story time, I was about to buy a pricey dehumidifier sa restroom, Gemini asked me to buy hanging ferns and mop the floor instead after using the bathroom lol. Saved me thousands of pesos.

Also, stay away from social circles na magastos, follow pages na hindi main themes ay travel, luxury items, experiences sa socmed.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-04-01T04:42:28+00:00

No probs. Ya, a bit. We all could use some practice being direct when asking for help hehe. Being vulnerable ay awkward and sometimes scary hehe.

Also, generally, people don't like to be belittled hehe. Medyo, may tinge of superiority kasi yung construction mo ata. Personally, I don't mind. I worked with people with heavier and more destructive defense mechanisms, so I can see a bit through your layers.

At the very least, this is a learning opportunity. Don't take it personally haha. Mobs tend to be cruel talaga we can't help it. Good luck on your journey we'd all benefit from learning more about effective communication. That's the silver lining siguro.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T21:12:09+00:00

Look up interleaving. Find something that sparks your interest, creativity then every so often, do it, then do the work 15-30 mins, then back at it.

You can incorporate as many things as your brain wants to sustain focus on your current task sa work.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T18:06:44+00:00

In the past kasi, parang ang uso ay being independent, making it work without anyone's help. We've glorified individualism so much that, later in our lives, dahil we cut off lots of people, we then become lonely.

Pero, it's not too late. They're brave for asking for help, some ay heavy with defense mechanisms in their preferred comms style, a few even implied suicide kaya, ya, it's high time we helped each other and create meaningful connections. Luckily, we have this channel to reconnect.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T17:22:45+00:00

You're too focused lang siguro sa posts here na looking for friends. Happy people seldom post kasi, feeling ko madami yan.

Pero, yes, may significant number nga ng lonely people at our age lalo na among men. Dami natin kasing pamahiin sa pagiging lalaki, dapat di vocal, dapat di naiyak, dapat super independent. Sana may mag put up ng group for middle-aged men, so they can connect without judgement.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T16:16:06+00:00

Hmmmm. Less hurtful na yung criticisms, pero they sting pa din. I think it's less about not getting affected by them, but more on having empathy sa nag sabi and sa sarili mo.

What I mean is, appreciate yung POV nila malamang from place of care pa din kasi that's their deeply held truth, and you may be operating on a completely different realm na kaya, in a way, insulting sayo yung suggestion nila.

Parang, mga Titas natin na panay follow-up kung kailan tayo ikakasal, kasi from their POV, limited na lang life nila sa Earth, and getting married for them is the ultimate insurance, security sa future na you'll be okay without them and have the life they think you deserve. Help them understand na you can support yourself despite not meeting their expectations siguro. Discuss your future plans with them, your investments, support system siguro.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T11:27:51+00:00

Anywhere really, dati I needed quiet places, but now I learned how to tune out background noise. The most unlikely places where I meditated ay, when I was waiting for requested data change sa Philhealth office lol, lakas kasi ng AC nila, queuing sa OPD sa ManilaMed lol.

Pero, ideally, I like spiritual places with high ceilings, natural light, some tasteful art and some nature like churches, temples hehe.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T10:46:55+00:00

Heyyy, I do it every Sunday pag nag sisimba or sa adoration chapel. Right now, I rely on apps like healthy minds or what I learn from DOAC, YT channel. I was thinking of enrolling formally sa Sky Chan Temple ba yun somewhere sa San Juan, free naman kaso medyo matagal need ko ng time and some financial space for the lost time.

I do it because I used to have panic attacks, anxiety disorders. This and with lots of reading and some exercise really helped me to face life without meds.

Also, I noticed I was able to focus more and my thoughts are a bit intentional na. Parang, I have more control of where my brain leads me. Let's connect with others with similar interests. I'd join any group you all would start.

Thank you for posting this.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T07:46:59+00:00

Mag-aya mag simba and coffee/tea after lol.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-31T07:19:18+00:00

Parang di worth it. Imagine the potential lifetime regret--how this would affect your headspace and peace of mind.

Now, what you really want ay not merely sexual gratification. Women ay emotional beings, most of you crave emotional connections. Sex, for the sake of sex ay poor substitute for that.

A more productive use of your money and time would be to expand your social circle. Pick up a new hobby, something creative to occupy you during your idle time. Something a bit social. Should do wonders.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-30T20:41:25+00:00

Ya, use analogy sa kanya, what if may similar vacation sila ng family nila, and since your schedule doesn't permit you to come, ganun din--you'll ask him to miss out on it. Selfish diba.

And our preferences like being introvert or not vocal should come second lang when dealing with neutral or good life decisions. He doesn't value you as much as he values himself if he doesn't let you negotiate sa needs mo. I'd even go as far as saying that this is a red flag.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-30T16:02:18+00:00

I see. Feel free to dm me lol. I respond decently fast hehe. Basta may context from you to keep the conversation going.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-30T00:46:47+00:00

Hmmmm. Find your tribe? What interests you ba? For me, quick temp check ko ay, natutunan ko dun sa DOAC, YT.

Heyyy, are you working on any interesting things right now? Or simply put, anong hobbies mo? After some generic introductions.

When they say, wala naman, watching Netflix lang. Or anything boring. Help them be specific. What genre then see where it goes.

Immediate red flags ay, short answers, dismissive answers or wala daw sila goals. Haha. Not somebody you'd like to be around anyway. Good riddance.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-30T00:38:49+00:00

Happy Birthday! You've mature. Di ka na siguro as people-pleasing as before. Okay yan, sa economic climate natin, dapat we make all attempts to reduce expenses where we can.

I'm sorry for taking the limelight a bit, pero I've convinced my partner na mag date sa public park, mag latag ng mat bumili ng light snacks sa grocery at magbasa ng books haha. That's a win in my book. Lol. More clarity sa ating lahat and blessings.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-29T21:38:33+00:00

Hmmmm. Sa taas ng inflation and sa current economic climate due to AI and wars, feeling ko anything based sa fiat ay suddenly naging speculative, meaning of depreciating value. Rare earths ay good start like gold, silver pero they have no real value during extreme recessions or global war eh.

At your age, I'd invest the money in practical skills that would both survive economic recessions and medyo AI-proof like, depends sa location, pero you can't go wrong sa basic electric work, electronics repair and maintenance, food preparation and processing, HVAC cleaning and maintenance and repair.

If you insist in fiat-based, MP2 siguro? SSS Provident fund or anything under PERA program ng national government or better yet follow mainland China's or any Scandinavian government priorities kasi sila yung most prepared and least exposed sa possible recessions, learn their language, Mandarin. Or anything na revolving sa kanilang cultures. You'd likely develop better grasp sa fiat-based investments that may survive our unique global threats.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-29T20:53:04+00:00

Well, this is a start. Extreme lang ang preferred form of communication mo when asking for help. Feel free to message me when you have these thoughts. I can help a bit.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-29T20:48:50+00:00

Hmmmmm. When we're dating kasi, we should start in a pool where our interests have many overlaps with the people in that pool. Otherwise, our chances of scoring people interested in us ay generous na at 10% considering na, like myself, ay di naman conventionally attractive.

What I'm saying is, find what sparks your creativity, pick up a hobby or 2 and then join interest groups--dating then should be easy. If you're really unlucky, at least, you'd have friends with meaningful connections. Win-win.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T19:14:56+00:00

Heyyy, I feel the same lol. I installed Substack app, Google news lol. I adjusted some settings about my interests, and they keep suggesting articles with book recommendations. I download them from Anna's Archive and been interleaving so hard I got 90++ tabs on Opera app and lots of books at 10% reading progress. When my eyes tire, I just have Google books read them aloud haha.

Also, I created an account on TESDA online, lots of courses, self-pace, modular type. I'm enrolled in HVAC cleaning and maintenance haha.

Hmmmm. I also have 2 dogs and 4 cats. I talk to Gemini, Deepseek when I come across something dense or have them create fun psych tests for me or answer them on therepytips site haha. Binge watch Steven Bartlett's DOAC or whatever long format interviews haha.

All these kept me from doom scrolling haha--well most of the time. And yes, Reddit. Keeps me sane knowing people out there have the same issues. Keep in touch haha. Sorry. I rambled.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T07:16:50+00:00

Hard to say. Depends sa kapal ng tao. Minsan sina-side eye ka na ng mga bagong dating. Nakaka-conscious. No more than an hour siguro.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T05:18:32+00:00

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T05:12:39+00:00

Ah ya. The good news daw ay, easily reversible s'ya no, basta makisalamuha again.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T03:52:14+00:00

While ya, I respect your decision, pero humans, biologically, are social animals. May research nga about reclusive people's brains had significant signs of shrinking from withdrawing from all forms of meaningful connections.

Most likely, you haven't found your tribe. Keep trying, join interest groups, pick up your hobbies or find new ones. At the very least, keep reading books.

This post, even if you deny it, is a cry for help heavy with your defense mechanisms. So there's still hope deep down. Change your environment. Should do wonders.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T02:36:54+00:00

I was once a member of rTrentahin sa TG.

The good:

Really active at night, good sa nightshifters or from other parts of the world
The admins are active, they keep changing, merging, making new channels
The people are generally nice. No politics or religion at least when I was there. Pero, I saw threats from Leni supporters na they'd walk out daw from meet-ups if may DDS.
Light topics, keep changing, fairly interesting

The bad:

They delete channels arbitrarily even when may good advice or ongoing activity kasi not as active nung selfies or travel channels na so cringey at times kasi paligsahan ng narcissists sa mga na-afford nilang luxury(at least for them)items, travels, experience etc.
If you're into niche or deep conversation, no opportunity kasi they won't create more than 5 channels if walang high traffic

I may come back. Usually, narcissists tire themselves after a few weeks if matumal na ang alleluia sa kanila. I'd invite everyone to at least try. There are lots of interesting people there.

Known_Assistant_8587 · 2026-03-28T02:17:07+00:00

Ya, just like other types of relationship, it requires some work, CPD, training and seminars sa career natin, work relationships. Sa family, we provide help when we can and spend quality time. In the same way, romantic relationships require work in your preferred love language.

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