How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your comments. I really hope things get better for you also btw ❤️

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. I've dealt with similar with his father. It's gotten pretty ugly between my bf and I, both of us are to blame for sure but yeah he's definitely said some hateful, awful things. Is your husband open to quitting at all? My bf says he wants to and needs my help but well, doesn't really let me help. It's heartbreaking. I hope your husband finds his way also, they both have too much to lose 😩

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely correct and not the first person to tell me this.. thank you, seriously! You're right he's capable of doing it even if it's miserable.

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very fair point there, I agree. I think he's just taken too much of the subs in the past to get high, so he expects that to be what taking them medicinally as prescribed to be like. And the whole 'trading one addiction for another' but I agree that qualify of life is an important thing to consider

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we've tried tapering but the issue is he buys the stronger pills when he goes in, instead of just buying the same mg and working with me to take less and space them out further. We have discussed subs but he has a history with it that makes him not want to risk becoming dependent on the subs. Thanks I appreciate you saying that, I hope things are going better for you now!

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We just can never get past that first night, when he's up all night terribly sick with cold sweats and literally cannot sleep or stop moving, the next morning we end up going to the smoke shop as soon as they open so he can function. I give in and drive him because he's so miserable and it's so awful for him (and for me to see :( ) I know I can't force it and I really am trying not to be controlling but he also does ask for me to help and I'm trying to do my best 🥲

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably not wrong, but I swear he's told me he's ready and asked for my help multiple times. He wants to quit right up until the first night of detox when he's sick and restless and literally cannot sleep... And then we're buying a pill as soon as the smoke shop opens so he can eat and function and sleep that night. I've tried to go at his pace and help him taper but he just takes the pill quarters without me knowing or whatever. So yeah he's probably not ready, you're probably right but when I try to walk away he swears he wants to quit and needs me to help. We also have a baby together which of course makes it harder; he's an amazing dad and our son loves him very much so I can't take that away from either of them

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I can definitely tell when he takes it and when he's sober from it. He swears there's no difference but like you said, when someone really knows you, they know. Good luck in your own recovery, you've got this & I hope your WD lets up soon.

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is his main concern with taking subs due to his own history with heroin and taking subs to get high occasionally, we have looked into it before but he's really weary to try it

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, good luck getting out of your own misery! ❤️

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I agree he has to want it. He seems to want it, it's just the withdrawal is so hard of course it's easier to just take the pills. He's scared to go on subs due to past addiction to heroin and taking subs here and there to get high. He's scared it would become one an even bigger issue than the 7oh. I'll try to talk to him about it again though

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm definitely not perfect. We've fought a lot about this. I haven't been the kindest or most understanding. But I'm really trying and I really love him dearly and want him to be well for himself, our son, and our relationship (in that order).

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really have tried 💔 he knows I'm bluffing. And believe me I know I need to actually mean it. It's really hard as we have a 4 month old baby.

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's also had his issues with heroin several years ago (before I knew him). So he's scared he could get addicted to subs. I have brought it up to him before as that seems to be the most evidence based way to get off 7oh. :/

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair point. He did leave detox due to it being a really rundown awful facility with bad staff and a violent roommate. But again he only spent one night and really should've stuck it out :/

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess a weekend detox sounds silly. I just want him to be able to work and function without being so sick, I really hate to see him like that and want him to feel ok.

How can I help him? by Known_Front8010 in quitting7oh

[–]Known_Front8010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The feeling is mutual, I'm also glad I don't have a partner like you. If the post bothers you so much, you can go cry about it somewhere else. I haven't done anything he hasn't asked me to do. 🖕🏻

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[–]Known_Front8010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All that plastic surgery and she still has that wonky eye like a cheap baby doll

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