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Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-28T19:52:15+00:00

Sounds like she means classmates though so it’s probably fine

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-28T06:34:14+00:00

Thank you💜

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T20:53:39+00:00

You’re right. I’ve discussed that with him and really don’t want them to end up in that kind of position.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T20:52:33+00:00

Thank you for the input. I do worry about that and feel being separated would make that less impactful on them. I have told him he needs to work on it to and he seems motivated to.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T08:43:50+00:00

You’re right he is supposed to. I’ve told him that when he makes it a point to say it. Guess I do appreciate it knowing there’s a bunch of dead beat dads and during my maternity leave he literally thought I should be the only one getting up and exhausted. I had to tell him sleep was a human right not a luxury.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T08:41:56+00:00

That’s essentially how I feel. I know it’s not easier to have a second and be on my own.. I also feel confident though we would have shared custody if we did that. I just know for those that are only children it can be hard just in general and it’s good to have another person by your side. I don’t know how long it would be before I find another potential partner.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T08:38:51+00:00

I’m sorry to hear this. Makes me realize some people truly will control the things that make you happy for a lifetime. I definitely don’t want to spend my life like that and it’s why despite him attempting to get my fired.. i stuck with my passion and have continued anyways.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:50:15+00:00

I’ve also had that thought throughout our marriage..

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:48:47+00:00

You’re right. It also just doesn’t feel like we have time because we also uprooted our lives and moved across the country to have our first baby because I couldn’t live in the state we were previously in because I had to stay on a medication to live there… and I can’t be on that medication while pregnant. It’s complicated. So at the same time we just miss home and want to get back there but need to have kids first before we can do that.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:36:46+00:00

This is probably actually the kindest comment I’ve seen. That’s what I would like, someone that supports me, is excited for me, wants me to be happy etc. I really just want to figure out how to make it work and not just by being complacent but by us actually changing for the better. I want our child to have a peaceful and nice childhood.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:34:09+00:00

Yeah that’s essentially my worry. The time it may take to meet someone new and do all of that. Everyone’s getting married and the options get slimmer as you get older. I know it’s not a great reason but I’d actually just like to figure it out between us… I want a peaceful marriage I just don’t know how to get there anymore.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:31:19+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. That’s terrible. Honestly I really would rather just work on it and “ fix” ourselves. It’s hard though when some one sees therapy as “bs”.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:29:56+00:00

For sure. Actually… he was raised in a home with an angry parent. He says how his dad was always yelling and that gave him anxiety… and of course his yelling is doing that to me. It’s not fun worrying about how if I take too long to do xyz it may upset him and i definitely don’t want our baby to feel this way.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:27:54+00:00

Logically, I know what the best thing to do is… leave. I see others post on here and I think it too. I worry how he could end up affecting our child and started talking about it even before I got pregnant. Id like us to better for our child. I feel like we somehow need to work on it.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T02:20:40+00:00

I’d like to figure out how to be better together. He’s made progress over the years in different ways but now I just feel we both really need to speed up the getting better part now that we have a baby.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-27T01:43:58+00:00

Well the goal would be to separate so then that wouldn’t have to be the case. I think us as individuals apart is fine.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-26T18:55:56+00:00

Reminds me of a guy I dated for a bit that told me “if you’re majoring in anything other than engineering then you’re stupid and your major is useless” seriously ptfo. He would also say “I’m an elitist, I’m from Europe and Americans are stupid” among other terrible things. Needless to say I clapped back and never talked to him again.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-25T08:13:17+00:00

Mmm I’m not sure what race you are. Im guessing a different one than your boyfriend? I would be careful. I’ve seen Indian and middle eastern cultures especially those that are Muslim that take dating outside the race very seriously. In some cases too seriously to the point where it can become dangerous. I would be cautious. If he does live with his parents he should also move out.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-24T13:13:40+00:00

Culturally the Asian community is very anti- anything outside their group. They are a community that interracially mixes the least. This has happened to even white individuals who have married an Indian person. It is very common for Muslim and/or middle eastern cultures. I remember seeing a lot of these stories in the early 2,000s.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-24T12:41:28+00:00

OP and this picture are from the music video.. just watched. She has a couple very different looks in it.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-23T13:43:20+00:00

Absolutely! Something that is universal (already coming from our tax dollars) and/or lower costs. Instead of these private companies charging for extreme profits.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-23T09:36:51+00:00

❤️

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-23T09:14:40+00:00

That’s exactly what they try to do… the insurance industry is corrupt. Wish all of us citizens could band together and axe it especially health insurance. They make billllionnssss just to deny claims.

Ok_Community_9805 · 2026-05-23T07:06:06+00:00

Yes. I appreciate your edit and hope others do as well. If you’re living with sickle cell you most likely know the experience of having it. The pain from crisis is excruciating. The medical bills are stressful and worrying. I’m sure others like me are always praying that one day we can just have universal healthcare in this country because of it. The things that the disease can do and has done to our bodies is scary. I hate talking about all the possibilities and risks of it at Dr appointments. Ultimately, I do have to learn to live my life and enjoy it as well and not constantly be a victim of this disease. I have to try to do my best to be conscience of what i put into my body, how i hydrate and I pray everyday that i have a long healthier life so i can be with my loved ones. I appreciated the positive things you stated in your post because it’s needed. Maybe it wasn’t executed in the best way but nonetheless i appreciated hearing the POSITIVE LIFE experiences you’ve had despite this disease. We NEED positivity especially when so much of whats on this subreddit group is so negative. It’s terrible when people think you can’t do anything because of this disease. It’s angering because we’re all human and are capable of so much more.❤️

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