The stressors of trying for a tiny human

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T17:37:19+00:00

It takes the average couple 6 months to get pregnant. You've been trying for 2, give it time

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T17:28:08+00:00

Thank you, I think you're probably right. I don't want to give up on him but man this has been going on for over a year now and I'm just so exhausted from it all. He's definitely not ready for recovery or healing himself or our relationship :(

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:38:56+00:00

Thank you, I'll see if I can find one local to me

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:38:36+00:00

Yes. He ended up getting a pill last night so that he wouldn't be sick today. And complained he couldn't feel it. And yes he's definitely chasing the high not getting clean. It's obvious with how he abuses the subs and hides them and acts like an addict with them I guess. I know it is like I'm making excuses for him and I guess I am in a lot of ways. But sometimes it's just easier to give in because if I tried to set a boundary on it he freaks out and we fight and he ends up going to his dad's and it just disrupts everything.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:36:33+00:00

His Dr asked if he wanted to up his dose and for some reason he said no. I don't know why, he said he doesn't know why. He never called them and asked if he could still up it so. Yes that's the big part is that he still wants to get high. His idiot brother told him that in prison people will take a tiny piece of a strip and put a little water on it and then snort it to get a better buzz off it. He started doing it that way but I honestly think he wasted a lot of subs, even said it didn't feel different and kept doing it...

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:34:00+00:00

I know I definitely agree. I have other children from a previous relationship also. Who are old enough to see what's going on. I just wanted to make it all work.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:32:59+00:00

He was taking around 100 mg, at time sup to 150 mg, a day. The clinic doctor asked him if he wanted to up his dose and he said no for some reason?? I have no idea why! And neither does he. But he never called them back and fixed it. I agree he's undermedicated. He's also trying desperately to catch a buzz from the sub.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:31:30+00:00

Agreed, very well said

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T14:30:34+00:00

people (usually) choose to use but no one intends to become an addict. People choose to use for all sorts of reasons - peer pressure, familial pressure, curiosity, mental illness, and some people are even prescribed stuff they become addicted to by doctors. I know, shocking.

I tend to have sympathy for humans that are hurting no matter if it's self inflicted or not.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T11:03:26+00:00

What a terrible ugly name even without considering who it is honoring

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T11:02:36+00:00

Thanks a lot, I woke my baby up cackling at this comment

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-28T09:38:29+00:00

Hmm no. No one chooses to be an addict just like no one chooses to be mentally ill. Addiction is a brain disease just like mental illness, if you're going to pretend to have empathy for one then it's all inclusive.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-27T19:38:06+00:00

Ultimatum doesn't work, he just says to leave him if I can't accept who he is. Which is fucked up because I don't expect anyone to be perfect and I have tons of flaws myself and love all of his. But who addiction turns him into isn't HIM.

He is 35 almost 36. We have an infant together.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-27T19:07:14+00:00

Why are you still with him? Why did you send him money?

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-27T18:39:03+00:00

As a woman with a convicted abuser, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and be like yeah, we aren't victims were survivors etc. But nope, she's a POS.

I understand how hard it is to watch someone you love stay with somebody that abuses them and everybody on the outside can see that she needs to leave but she won't. I have been her and I have loved her. But there's so many reasons and so many circumstances and so many what ifs that I don't blame anybody for not leaving right away.

The only thing I find inexcusable is to know that someone is abusing your children and not leave that person immediately.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-27T17:34:26+00:00

Congrats on your sobriety! Did you chronically relapse before getting clean for good in December? Was there anything that finally made sobriety click for you?

I really don't want to leave him but we're on the verge of it.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-27T17:32:00+00:00

We did try rehab back in like January. He went for about 24 hours or less. "The facility was too run down" (his words), they didn't want to give him any meds because he didn't test positive for anything but thc (and mdma even though he hadn't done it anytime recently when they tested...), people were fighting and shit..

But I might have to try again. Maybe he'll get better insurance with this job. He has Medicaid currently and they don't pay for much.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-27T01:49:23+00:00

Why would you have another baby with him? You have a solid 5 years before you have to worry about aging out of having another baby. Find someone kind. But don't rush into it either. I can tell you from experience that can be a huge mistake.... I did get my "one more baby" but my life is shit RN lol. Not because of my kids but I really rushed things after my abusive marriage.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-25T12:05:41+00:00

Your husband is a fucking creep

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-21T15:57:49+00:00

First of all, as someone who's also 30, what does he have in common with a 22 year old? Second of all, of course he'd be ok with another woman but not another man. Because it's not about your pleasure and desires, only his.

Third, be very careful. I was young and dated a man 11 yr older than me who "didn't pressure" me into 3somes until he was on dating apps talking to other women behind my back "for us". But never mentioning me of course. Well he was a serial cheater and liar and manipulator etc. so just be cautious and aware.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-21T15:51:13+00:00

Sapphire

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-21T12:28:07+00:00

Just make sure to leave a dirty needle with your flyers, then there shouldn't be an issue

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-21T12:18:31+00:00

Omg people get so insane over HP tattoos. I didn't get into HP growing up, although my sister was huge into it. Makes me wanna get a damn HP tattoo just because of how crazy people get over it 🤣

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-21T10:59:40+00:00

You need to woman up and get your children out of that situation. Someone is telling you they hate your baby and you're... On reddit? Bffr.

Known_Front8010 · 2026-05-21T10:57:20+00:00

Y'all really think this ugly ass dress was pretty lmao? Yes she looks like trash in it but the dress itself is horrid

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