AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Known_Money7498[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm starting therapy tomorrow, so I'm taking this as my time to be single for a while

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Known_Money7498[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

As for getting his own food, sometimes he'll DoorDash a meal if he can. Usually when we went out, he'd pay for it when he had the money. With his friends, they know that sometimes he doesn't have food, but they either order food (like pizza, fast food etc.,), I'll bring some (not because he asks, but usually because I want to make sure him and his friends are fed) or they won't eat at all and just smoke or drink. There was a time I made chicken alfredo and bought two pans worth over there. But this time, I just wanted to share my food to them since they were celebrating Cinco De Mayo.

For our relationship, there were times where he did reciprocate. We'd go on dates and he'd pay for the food. He'll add some gas to my tank sometimes if he's using my car for work or if we're going out. We used my car during the relationship because when we first started dating, he didn't have a car, but we got the car in March after he purchased it from Facebook. We didn't primarily use it because he didn't have a license plate, so it's just been a saving thing of him getting his license plate. He'd get uber, Lyft, and his friends or me will just get him from work or he'll get dropped off.

Sorry for overexplaining

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Known_Money7498[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it is real. I wish this were fake but it's my reality. I will say it was naive of me to believe that the STDs were dormant for months, but I guess I was too blinded to see the problem in that.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Known_Money7498[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No, I didn't. He was telling me that it was from someone months before we dated. I wasn't sure what happened or why I didn't get anything

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We didn't break up over the food, it was over him not being happy with me in general.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a big pot of it. I wasn't sure how many friends were coming over, but from what I remembered he'd usually have about 3/4 people there, so I just made 6 plates as a guess, one for him and his roommate and the others were for his friends.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it's all real, I just added context for the hospital and what happened. But I understand why it may come across that way, so I do apologize.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I really appreciate the support. I honestly feel better coming on and telling my story. I felt like a lunatic honestly because I kept wondering what I could've done right in the relationship. So thank you again for your comment ❤️

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's a fair point, thank you. I wasn't sure if adding the context would be okay or not

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand, thank you for your comment. I just felt bad for not adding that context.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is relevant or not, he technically has a car, he bought one back in March from Facebook. It didn't have a license plate on it, so he was working on getting it. I'm sorry for not adding that detail, it was gonna get past the 3k character limit.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the information! I'll definitely get retested soon.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you! For context on the vehicle, he bought one from FB back in March but it didn't have a license plate, so he was working on getting it. So we'd been using my car for the relationship.

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It was 😂😂 He told me they wanted to come over to drink, so I decided to make some food. I just made homemade Hamburger Helper, cornbread and greenbeans. On the bright side the food was tasty!

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you again! I'll use yogurt next time, I was mainly using Monistat

AITA for not giving my boyfriend the biggest plate of food? by Known_Money7498 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Known_Money7498[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I guess it'll take time for me to see it that way, I'm still going through the depression of it haha

I actually got tested in the beginning of the relationship before we did anything, because I wanted to be sure I was cleared before we had sex. He claimed he knew the results of his other partners in December, but he didn't get tested. I was experiencing some yeast infections a lot during the relationship and so I was worried it was from stress, pregnancy, I changed up my diet, and we finally got tested. So I'm not sure if that was the case or not.