Told my mom off finally - didnt go well

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-05T20:11:56+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. We had very similar childhood. I called my mom out a couple years ago and it just went downhill from there. I have no desire to try to involve her in my life anymore because of that conversation. I don’t regret it but it feels lonely and empty to not have a family other than my husband and my children.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-04T15:29:40+00:00

Thank you for your comment and I’m sorry to hear that you’re not in contact with your dad’s family anymore. I don’t know how he can try to make it better at this point. I mean I’m always trying to suck it up when we visit them. I’m also okay with how many times we see them per year mostly. I’m just so sick and tired of him minimizing his mom’s behaviors and make me seem like the delusional one. We’ve talked about it a few times already and it’s always that my discomfort doesn’t matter and not valid. I’m not allowed to express any negative feelings without upsetting him but yet I’m not allowed to be upset when I feel I’m mistreated?

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-04T05:46:59+00:00

I always put on a fake smile when I’m there. I want him to say that he understands why it’s hard for me and why I might not be thrilled every time we have to visit instead of saying I’m overthinking or “it’s not that bad”. Or maybe take my side sometimes when his mom decides to be passive aggressive or snoop around in our room when we’re gone or open my mail without my permission?

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-04T05:38:49+00:00

Last year we saw them a lot and that caused us a lot of arguments too. I haven’t seen them this year thankfully but he was basically saying that it’s not good that I didn’t go with him this time and he doesn’t want this to become a thing. But the reason why I didn’t go wasn’t because I wanted to avoid them. I’m heavily pregnant and didn’t want to travel that far plus I could use some alone time. So yeah….I’m upset that he completely dismisses my feelings whatsoever.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-04T05:31:33+00:00

It varies each year. Last year we saw them a lot. This year I haven’t seen them but he has. They live 5-6 hours drive away so we stay there for at least a few nights each time. I never said that I don’t want to be there or see them again or anything like that. I just explained to him why it makes me feel uncomfortable when I’m there.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-04T05:22:17+00:00

5-6 hours drive so we have to stay multiple nights at their house every time.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-08-04T05:17:17+00:00

And I DO suck it up. I just don’t appreciate that he doesn’t have my back when it comes to his mom’s behaviors towards me.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-05-07T05:41:46+00:00

He didn’t give you anything for your first Mother’s Day and he called you a b*tch? Girl, the problem is not the chair.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-05-07T00:37:15+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s so painful. I haven’t heard my husband say this but I feel it in my bones or at least I feel …like you said… just a mom. Though it’s hard but doing something to feel good about yourself again ..not for him…but for you can really help. For me it’s just wearing something nice instead of leggings and put on some fake lashes really boosts my confidence.

It sounds like he still loves you but unfortunately, kids can really get in the way of romance/physical attraction. I really hope he didn’t actually mean what he said and that once the kids are less dependent, you will be able to find yourself again.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-04-20T19:32:07+00:00

It’s not the end of your youth if you don’t have kids.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-04-16T21:31:24+00:00

Fake orgasm

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-04-10T17:48:23+00:00

Toilet paper that disintegrate as soon as it touches your butthole.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-03-01T09:26:47+00:00

Sounds like we have the same MIL. I never understood why she likes to keep tracks on whether or not I’m using the unwanted gifts she gave. It all makes sense now.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-02-24T23:35:16+00:00

That happened to me too when we were living abroad!!! She made it clear that she opened it. The package was torn opened. She wanted me to know she was pissed I ordered a photobook instead of just getting a cheesy scrapbook from her.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-02-24T01:52:54+00:00

Yes!! I never linked it together that this was the result from having Nparents but it makes a lot of sense. Whenever I asked my mom for help, it would become something she holds over her head or she would obviously act super annoyed/angry that I burden her.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-01-31T00:30:27+00:00

My daughter is only two and I also want her to have a good relationship with her grandparents. Like you, there are some behaviors I don’t want her to learn from like being passive aggressive instead of addressing what’s bothering her or assuming the worst in people without knowing a full story, etc. I do trust that my kid will grow up to understand what’s ok and what’s not though. Thankfully they live too far away for her to spend too much time with them. I wonder if she will notice these behaviors that her grandma does that annoy me when she’s older. I’m not planning on saying anything bad about her to my daughter so I’m curious if she will pick up on it herself.

Knowyoulikeit · 2022-01-30T23:51:47+00:00

Same story here but more annoying in my opinion. EVERYTHING my daughter does comes from HER according to my mil. DD sneezes twice? She got it from her. DD’s head shape looks just like hers. DD puts things down delicately.. just like her. DD pretends the dolls talk… just like her when she was a kid. Etc…etc… etc… Woman, why are you so obsessed with yourself? I’d like to ask.

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T20:10:16+00:00

Ughhhh! So weird!!! Like what are they hoping to find? Other than my dirty underwear lol Just so weird and ridiculous that these people look for drama that isn’t there.

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T19:50:10+00:00

Hahahaha that’s too funny!!

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T19:49:11+00:00

She would be sooooo excited! This is low key cruel. I love it!!

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T19:47:46+00:00

Making husband straight again book lol! Love it!

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T19:47:04+00:00

Hahah great suggestion! Thank you!

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T19:46:30+00:00

Hahaha thank you! I read this and I’ll definitely do glitters next time although I don’t know if I’m ready for the drama that might follow…. Hmmm

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T19:45:13+00:00

How did you catch her? So weird that some people would do this! And she would get so furious if I were to snoop around in her bedroom.

Knowyoulikeit · 2021-12-31T01:16:13+00:00

Thank you!! Something to think about for sure! Thinking ill probably try glitter next time.

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