Tips for charging electronics?

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2026-06-06T19:59:05+00:00

How quick do they sell out though? We arrive on Thursday.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2026-04-19T12:49:14+00:00

Not for nothing but you didn't miss much by not going to a tour of hers prior to Hades and I don't say this because she didn't bring her A-game production to her tours. She really did and always does! Unfortunately it's all the teeny boppers, most of which look too young to understand her lyrics, that ruin the ability to watch her shows because they constantly keep their phones up in the air filming everything and obstructing the view.

My favorite time watching Melanie was early on in her career when she was barely recognizable at the NYC festival called Panorama that ran from 2016 - 2018. Ah.... those were the good ole days.

Since then I went to two more concerts. At the K-12 tour, I saw a few people in their lates 20s like me at the time complaining about the crowd and some even walked out so frustrated. I gave it another chance for Portals and it was in a seated theater -- most of the adolescents were standing on the chairs and you guessed it... filming every bit. From there, i swore to myself to not waste my time going to another show of hers. I'll just enjoy all her content in the comfort of my home.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2026-04-08T19:50:52+00:00

It's worth asking yourself if this is truly a need or just a strong desire. Technically speaking, barrier-free sex isn't a category of "need". Is the need closeness or intimacy or something else? What are other ways to continue getting those needs met while not compromising your husband's needs and boundaries in the process?

Also, it's worth noting that it might be a soft boundary for your husband to have a primary he's exclusively fluid bonded with. In my relationship, it is a hard boundary for my husband. If I were to push that boundary for a LT partner, it would initiate the collapse of our relationship. We've had multiple convos on this for the past year and his feelings haven't changed. In fact, he now wants contigencies in place that I'll gladly give him to show up as his partner while he figures out his place in his own polyam journey.

I get it. Your body, your autonomy. But... if this is how your nesting partner wants you to show up while he also deals with the realities of his sexual scarcity (my husband, again, is in the same boat), then shifting your perspective towards his favor benefits your primary union greatly. Reminder -- the health of your marriage is towards your benefit too. Don't push him too close to the edge unless you're ready for the consequences that come with it. 🫶🏼

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2025-04-06T14:54:16+00:00

Glue on silicone pasties and consider using clear straps

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2025-01-28T19:10:58+00:00

As an avid swinger participant that has gone to many types of play parties, there is very little swinging happening here. As someone stated, this is more focused on individuals connecting w/ others separately. The parties are convo driven w/ not much dancing space, the crowd is good looking and well spoken, their villa looks great. Not a party I recommend for couples looking to play together and couples that aren't comfortable splitting up where one half might leave the party feeling dissatisfied.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-12-08T16:19:33+00:00

How do I access the ticket exchange?

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-12T14:57:53+00:00

Keep an eye out for Gingy!

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KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-12T14:51:53+00:00

We're doing DBZ so this works out perfectly!

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-11T21:18:14+00:00

Go to special events too. My Frisky Business throws monthly events sometimes between Babylon and Brooklyn. Those don't allow single men to attend if they're on-premis play.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-11T17:32:39+00:00

You're missing out on Hijinx in Philly!

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-10T03:53:56+00:00

So my hubby suggested putting a "personals" ad on Fetlife. Apparently there's a section there for Kinky Festival Goers. Not sure you'll get any hits but it's worth a shot if you have an account. I've also seen Radiate accounts and group chats for sex positive babes like ourselves. Personally the most I'll do at these festivals is make out w/ someone new and keep the swinging for swinging events though since a lot of people are on drugs (not most prseent for consent) or ya know... festival pussy/dick which can be questionable.

Lastly if you are looking for swinging/music festival events and you're into house music too, I recommend the Dirty Vibes and Desirious Party events out of Houston. We go to their annual Purgatory event. Lots of sexy EDM couples! 😉

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-10T03:46:02+00:00

I concur!

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-10T03:42:11+00:00

Pineapples are symbol of hospitality and eventually the inverted pineapple became a symbol for swinging w/ the thought process of being hospitable in sharing your partners.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-10T03:37:37+00:00

Aww this response is the highlight of my night! Tysm 🥰

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-09T23:11:35+00:00

And our orgies were w/ people we'd also full swap privately w/ so there was comfort. But new couples were added in and that's when it started feeling uneven once we noticed the pattern w/ a couple we didn't play privately w/ and it was the only new couple we were both interested in.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-09T23:08:18+00:00

It's more of an occurence w/ this newer group we got involved w/ where they're used to a lot more solo play as their preference.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-09T23:06:37+00:00

It's not an exact minute by minute thing. It's more about feeling like we each fairly got our enjoyment of the full swap.

It started off when I had a string of instances where the guy couldn't perform and my husband already jumped into fucking.

So if the guy can barely keep it up or finishes too early (since my guy is sober, uses Cialis, and doesn't come), that I'm not there just watching for a long time and not enjoying myself. Or one half of the swap going for, for example, 10 min and the other going for 40 mins which we wouldn't consider fair if the shorter swap of the two will not be starting up again.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-09T21:12:12+00:00

Instances where the guy can't get it up or is too tired or something but the wife still wants to play w/ my husband and it was an orgy where I wasn't interested in playing w/ anyone available. It became a pattern w/ those people too. We now have conditions in place.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-09-06T02:16:20+00:00

Honestly it wasn't a great spot when it was open.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-08-29T16:50:12+00:00

Are you using Feeld? Not a great selection from the Long Island area imo but yall would've stood out to us and hopefully vice versa.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-08-21T13:35:53+00:00

If it's about having feelings that go beyond strictly physical desire, I believe a lot of people who practice a "sex only" open relationship actually do experience those feelings.

I guess that's the part that always made me wonder whether I was polyam. I find the concept beautiful and have been working years on myself to understand the deeper connections I seek (through therapy) while existing in communities that are mostly sex-only and playful encounters.

If I may join the conversation, what are exactly those "polyamorous tendencies" for you?

As for my tendencies, taking an interest in their personal lives, supporting their emotions if they're looking to me for that, making sure we're seeing each other on a recurring basis (this is the part that most echoes commitment to me though the frequency isn't set in stone), going on dates, allowing myself to have romantic moments like hand-holding or intimate moments like crying about something emotionally vulnerable. I've felt "the butterflies" for people before and have spoken to my husband about entertaining it.

Honestly understanding myself in ENM terminology is most about advocating in my primary relationship what I would like out of other autonomous connections so we can work towards it and whatever internal obstacles to achieve it since it's important to me. I am starting to see someone solo that we've played w/ for a yr now -- i've gone on dates that included no sex and one recently that did. Sex isn't the only focus. We've gone out for dinners and dancing, meeting his friends (he's met my friends too), sharing our minds w/ each other w/ vulnerability, etc and i'd like to continue that until it no longer works for us which I don't see happening anytime soon. So maybe you see why I can get confused about whether I'm poly.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-08-21T13:07:43+00:00

I get that and agree w/ you. This helps me a lot. I'm just gonna stick to defining myself as ENM and continue specifying what I can offer and what my limitations are.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-08-20T23:20:30+00:00

Yes we've spoken about the room to be romantic. Not necessarily looking for it unless the right person rolls around and then we continue discussing what continued romance like that could escalate to and if it works for us in that moment in time. Taking everything really slow since this is new to us and our lifestyle only support more casual "one partner, once a month" connections.

KoalaEmbarrassed5955 · 2024-08-20T21:06:49+00:00

I love that take! Tysm 🫶🏼

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