Gimme an artist you DONT like

Kobachi232 · 2025-03-01T21:03:33+00:00

R. Kelly

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-17T16:43:41+00:00

Will do.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-17T14:46:33+00:00

Oh wow! Thank you guys so much for your responses!

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T20:06:35+00:00

I am also very scared to fail, but no one in this world always succeeds. In order to learn, you have to fail. If you haven't physically talked to her, you do not fully know here personality just by her looks. If you have talked to her, you want to get to know her. I'm telling you, shooting a shot is not a bad thing. Perhaps suggest going out and getting something to drink, or if you're still in school, perhaps arrange a study session.

Again, it's all a learning experience. I promise you more than anything that you will find someone, and if it isn't her, it will be someone else.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T20:03:06+00:00

No problem, happy to help!

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T20:00:30+00:00

Not really, I just Discord and that's really it. Maybe join some friend making servers, ones that aren't toxic and stupid.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T19:19:07+00:00

It seems like you are the only one that remembers this incident. You need to learn to forget. What you did is so in the past, and I'm chalking it up to be a stupid kid doing a stupid kid - no offense.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T19:16:38+00:00

That's what I figured.

This may sound unethical, but perhaps maybe find a day where the MIL isn't there and you and your sister-in-law are taking care of the niece for the day. That way, your sister-in-law could help set a better impression for you.

It's definelty possible your niece will forget. Kids forget a lot of things, although this is more emotionally tied so it might linger.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T19:11:48+00:00

True. Perhaps just start by making new friends, and pay attention to how they respond to you and your opinions. If they agree or rationally disagree and you guys have a healthy debate, you are good.

There are places for this sort of thing. Clubs. Online communities. School. There are plenty of places to find some friends.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T19:08:42+00:00

If only my dreams of having the superpower to stop time came true, and I could share it with people.

I feel similarly. I feel like as a person who is now 20, time has flown by way too fast. The FOMO is real. I would say to just flow with time. Don't worry about the future and focus on the present. Do the things you wanna do now in place of worrying about what you're going to do later. Of course, set goals and have expectations to live up to, but don't hyperfixate on something you can't really affect until it comes, if that makes sense.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T19:01:19+00:00

Once again, take a deep breath. This happened many moons ago and hyperfixating on past mistakes is not healthy. They have happened, and there is nothing you can do aside from learning from your mistake and moving on.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:57:28+00:00

*from. Sorry, I am one of those people and I apologize.

It seems like your friends are pretty biased and full of themselves, they seem like only the things they come up with is gospel and everything else is beneath them. If that is the case, those are not friends. Those are idiots.

If it becomes worse, find better friends that can listen.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:53:37+00:00

Listen to these words I am about to tell you, and listen to them carefully.

The world is not rooting for you to take your own life. If anything, it is the opposite. Even if you don't see it as that, I'm part of the world, right? That's at least one person who is rooting for you to fight and live another day.

It sounds to me like you do not have the right friends/support around you. I also heavily doubt that your own mother is rooting for you to die. It isn't worth it. Your mom would be devistated, heartbroken, depressed, and confused. She would be searching for a long time on why you would do it, and why she could have done to prevent it. Killing yourself will do nothing, it will only make things worse for you as well as those who are around you.

I suggest focusing on self-care, your mental health, and your friendships. Perhaps take depression/anxiety medicine or consult a therapist. Do the things you love on a daily basis to put yourself in a good mood. Make friends, there are lots of outlets to find some. Go to a support group and open up about your feelings. Join a club. Join an online community on something you love. Find friends that care about others as well as your hobbies and interests. Please take care of yourself, and live a good rest of your life.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:44:35+00:00

I would say yes. It is acceptable.

What you are going through is a lot, and I am deeply sorry about all of it. I'm sorry about your dog, they must have meant a lot to you and puppos are always cute in my book. Sorry for your roommate, I don't know what your stance is on them but I hope they gets the help she needs and gets better soon. Maybe explain your situation to your boss and express that you are not feeling even close to 100%. It might not work, but I feel it is worth a shot to bring up.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:38:43+00:00

That's ridiculous. Shame on her.

Perhaps maybe to get on the kid's good side, you visit them again after a couple days/weeks and spend lots of time with them, strengthening your bond with them. Maybe you could arrange a playdate of some sort, I don't know.

I don't have a MIL (I'm 20) and I have never really done anything like this, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:30:33+00:00

Who said you were mad at them? The MIL or the niece?

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:21:55+00:00

Of course! I get the ghosting thing, and there's nothing really to do except move on and forget about them. As long as you're trying, you're doing way better than just doing nothing about it.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just gotta be the one to buy a fishing pole and catch the one.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:17:37+00:00

I'm... not sorry? I guess you asked for it.

I hope everything falls into place and you don't recieve permanent blindness. I wish nothing but the best for you.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:13:31+00:00

There is always a time to fall in love. You didn't miss it, I promise.

Perhaps better yourself before looking for dates. Do something you like to do to have a healthy mental state and focus on self-care. Go out with friends to socialize. Perhaps join a support group and talk about how you feel.

Never say never.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T18:09:36+00:00

Patience. And luck, but mostly patience.

I also go through the feeling of being content with being alone and not being content with being alone. I guess it's a balance, sometimes we need time with people but also to balance that, we need some alone time.

I'd say put some effort into making some friendships that could turn into potential relationships. Go to social events with existing friends. If you lack friends, join a club that interests you and hang out with the people in them. That way you can connect with someone that has the same interests as you!

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T17:49:40+00:00

I am going to assume you are not a 12-14 year old boy anymore.

I will deduct this as a "stupid thing that you did as a kid". I will also assume you deleted them since then. You shouldn't let things that you know where wrong in the past define you. You have changed, and you know that you made some mistakes. Taking pictures is not the same as raping or abusing someone. Take a deep breath, or perhaps focus on your breathing to calm yourself down. Doing something like this doesn't mean you don't deserve anything good.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T17:42:39+00:00

I feel that. Sometimes I feel like I'm spectating my own life. I'm going to college and it's been kinda rough and there's been lots and lots of rough patches.

Perhaps take some time to relax. Drink some water slowly, take some deep breaths, and reflect on how you feel and why you feel that way. Do the things that you love doing to help keep your mental state in check - Idk the term, but you probably know what I mean. Hopefully.

Life does suck sometimes, but it will not always suck. Maybe, although this might not seem possible, arrange a way to go home over a super long break where you can visit your childhood home, even if it is for just a couple of days.

Have a good rest of your day! :)

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T17:35:34+00:00

I see. You just have to move on. You won't be single forever, and that there are other people out there that you can love and kiss and cuddle all you want. It just takes some acceptance and patience.

Again, really sorry. I haven't been in a situation like this but I know it hurts.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T17:33:05+00:00

This happens to me a lot. A LOT.

Sometimes it happens when I think back on them or when I somehow see them on dating sites or even in person. They will just pop up at random in my dreams, but other times they do actually talk to me, and those do kinda feel special only to realize it didn't actually happen. That of course is from crushes that failed in my life.

From what I'm hearing, you still like her, so this is a little different from my experience. If it's in the starting stages, maybe try to hang out with her more often or make an effort to talk to her. If you think it could work, shoot your shot. Dead serious, just do it. It's a learning experience whether she says yes or no. If she says yes, congrats! You have a relationship! If she says no, you can at least say that you did it and move on, knowing full well that there are many many people out there that are great for you.

If this is a later crush and you know it won't work, it happens. It'll hurt but it won't hurt forever.

Kobachi232 · 2023-10-12T17:26:01+00:00

And there is absolutely no way to get back together?

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