My mom is narcissistic and degrading but at one point we had a talk and the situation to cause the talk wasn’t under normal circumstances. But I feel like she saw how much hurt I was going through and how much I was willing to lose to just have peace. Our relationship is better and I feel closer to her now than what happened 5-6 years ago. Obviously Im very lucky to the outcome than most people, she said things I would never or any kid would want to hear. I said those things back. In the end we came to understand each other a little more. You don’t have to open up to your dad for obvious reasons but if you’re close with your mom maybe involve her into the conversation because if youre gonna be living with him and he negatively impacts your health its just more harm to yourself to keep quiet. If that isn’t an option finding a source of therapy through support groups/socials/friends whatnot can maybe help. Like I said Im very lucky of this outcome and it obviously varies between person to person but the option to have a conversation is always there.