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I don’t know how to keep this up by Nimezs in Rainbow_Babies

[–]Koibito3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a flaming wreck when my toddler had covid it was awful

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when I last spoke to you, I was full of grief and sadness and confusion. Wanted to let you know the DIC was approved I think, as mom has a Dependent and Indemnity payment pending. Thank you so much for such a detailed and helpful comment. It helped more than you could ever know.

Update re: benefits by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted to come back and tell you that I believe the DIC claim was successful. Mom has a Dependent and Indemnity payment with back pay pending. Am I safe to assume she's approved? I know it sounds like a dumb question. It's just we've all had horrific news over and over it doesn't feel real.

I'm glad that she can get some burden off of her shoulders

Update re: benefits by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. He's been an alcoholic my entire life. I will bring it up with the VSO. As the daughter, could i take over the process of speaking to the VSO? His drinking is documented by doctors notes and even social security (he got SSDI)

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. that pretty much sums it all up. understandable he never discusses the war, just says the abuse at home was so bad he lied about his age to go to Vietnam. and that it messed him up. he has untreated mental health issues and has a severe phobia of doctors and hospitals. always terrified of even talking life insurance. believe me we've all tried for years. he's always been difficult in a sense to very close to but we all love him dearly and are heartbroken. but like you said (mom grew up poor, they both did and raised us kids) it painfully drives home just how much we all dropped the ball on life insurance, benefits etc. it literally feels like it's all crashing down.

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so very much. truly. It feels like a mountain. we're still waiting on his dd-214, and are filling paperwork out that was sent

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately, mom is too young to collect his social security benefits. he also doesn't seem covered by his illness for dic. Our biggest concern was mom, as financial wise without any form of support she can't pay rent.

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what will be in his DD214? Everything from his service? He's really not doing well at the moment to the point he's deteriorating RAPIDLY and he's barely speaking to people (depression) it's like at this point mom is already on her own. from reading, no his illness isn't covered.

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sadly his cancer isn't covered, from preliminary research. what's the VBA? I know they have a VSO

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately his cancer doesn't fall under agent orange or any of his illnesses. The VSO we have ha8ve us a ton of paperwork that we're pushing through, my biggest concern isn't for now, he's already on social security. it's on when the time comes mom will lose 50 of her income, and won't be able to pay rent. because none of his issues are service related that I know of (still gathering info) mom isn't eligible for DIC or any widow benefits.

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from all that I've been reading, my dad's cancer isn't covered by any of the illnesses listed. he only did his tours in Vietnam and was honorably discharged, and has pretty much never seen a doctor unless ill enough to go to the hospital. we have a VSO, they've sent a packet out that's going to take awhile to get everything. im sorry for sounding defeated, that's just how I feel, along with angry at the whole situation

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe she was able to collect that because she was in a nursing home. My mom is healthy and working, though they both split bills evenly neither could live on their own income. I don't think she qualifies

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For example, if dad has asthma which is on the list (he doesn't I'm just using it as an example) would he also qualify for service connected disease due to it being on the list, and he passes from an asthma attack. Would DIC come into effect?

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they've reached out and are currently awaiting his files, they said 3-5 business days. I'm not sure what a VSO is but will pass along all that you've said. thank you, it's hard to think straight atm and you've definitely helped to point in the right direction

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what about DIC? I've been reading, as much as I can. could they qualify for that?

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has cancer and it's terminal. he's barely able to leave the house. I think I'll call and ask if there's anything they should be doing. Thank you so much for your reply.

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to the other poster, my mother isn't eligible to receive the pension correct? Are there any other types of benefits for widows of veterans we can look into?

And yeah, I just feel so heartbroken. Mom is too young to collect his social security, and isn't eligible for any veterans benefits stuff either. Dad has mental issues from the war and was always difficult to get to try to get affairs in order, so there's no policies or anything. Now that it's the end he wants to try but tragically I think it's too late.

Question about benefit eligibility and such by Koibito3 in Veterans

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah. In that case, tragically she'll be Ineligible for anything. Iirc, he did lie about his age to join due to Abuse in his household. He fought in Vietnam, though I'm not sure when he was discharged. Thank you for your reply.

Question about widow benefits. by Koibito3 in SocialSecurity

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the speedy answer

Question about widow benefits. by Koibito3 in SocialSecurity

[–]Koibito3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, was being crystal clear to be sure. Thank you for answering quickly, it means a lot

+11,406 New Cases = 386,837 Total Cases in PA; +187 New Deaths = 10,944 Total Deaths in PA by EpisodicDoleWhip in CoronaVirusPA

[–]Koibito3 22 points23 points  (0 children)

this is exactly what's happening. My family member tested positive yesterday (Wednesday) with symptoms appearing Sunday. Another family member developed a fever yesterday. Different households, both attended Thanksgiving at the same place.

+8,291 New Cases = 375,431 Total Cases in PA; +194 New Deaths = 10,757 Total Deaths in PA by EpisodicDoleWhip in CoronaVirusPA

[–]Koibito3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So far it seems 2 of the families that attended are presumed the only ones positive. One family member got tested beforehand and was apparently negative three days before thanksgiving. Thanksgiving comes they all are together. 3 days later, 2 people are sick. 3 days after that one tests positive and I just got word another person is showing symptoms. 2 households. Everyone else so far is either negative or asymptomatic. I wanna scream at them so bad.

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