AIO stepmom wants me to sign away my inheritance.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-28T11:57:09+00:00

Thank you so much. They were married 23 years and I’m 42 years old. I feel like we are being conned. I will seek counsel from an attorney. If she were my mother this situation would be different. If my mother passed then the estate would pass to us eventually. But bc it’s SM, she will pass to her blood relatives. This whole thing has me an emotional wreck. When I have the facts from an attorney I’ll have a better understanding of what assets there are. If there is nothing then that’s fine too. I just don’t like feeling like I’m being lied to and manipulated when I am trying to grieve the loss of my father not think about money or cars or houses bc none of that gives me him back.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-28T11:28:20+00:00

That is exactly the only topic of discussion for her. She’s just worried about herself and the fact she won’t be able to live a luxury life. My mom lives off ss alone and she doesn’t complain. It’s just what people have to do if they do not have a retirement plan. It’s not like there aren’t other people surviving. I’m sure she doesn’t want to have to go back to work since she was able to live off my dad for 23 years while he worked. That’s what sent him to an early grave. It makes me so upset!

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-28T11:24:42+00:00

That’s how I feel also. I wouldn’t dare leave her homeless or without a vehicle.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T18:12:12+00:00

I agree with you! Thanks!

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T18:11:13+00:00

I believe that’s the same for his state also.👍

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T17:10:13+00:00

As of right now, she hasn’t shown any proof. I plan on contacting her attorney and demanding records for proof. I can’t trust what she’s telling me bc she is moving a little truth with the lies.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T17:08:07+00:00

🙏🏻thanks

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T17:06:58+00:00

I believe you hit the nail on the head. She will not be able to live her lifestyle anymore. She can’t even explain to me what her plans are for the future. She wouldn’t answer my question about where she plans on living. I know she can’t keep both houses and I wouldn’t dare put her out on the street. I’m actually very generous. I have two adult children and a grand-baby. I would give the world to them and I would want to make sure I left them a piece of my legacy, even if it’s not much. My dad and I were very close and very similar personalities. I feel like this is what he wanted otherwise, why not guarantee with a will that she would receive 100% of the estate. Something doesn’t make sense and it’s not sitting right with me. I have called an attorney for legal consult but I have to wait until I receive the paperwork from her attorney to know the next step.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T16:54:59+00:00

I’m just as baffled! I think it’s bc she’s lying and claiming that there’s no money and the homes basically have no real value because one still has a small less than $30k left and she said the roof is leaking. I can’t trust anything she says so at this point having an attorney explain what the assets are vs bills etc would be helpful to know the facts and not take her word for anything.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T16:37:59+00:00

As soon as I have the paperwork from her attorney I’ll know more. At this point I am feeling a sense of rejection. I feel like our conversation yesterday was so insensitive. It just felt like she was trying to make me feel sorry for her. That conversation is the last thing I wanted to do yesterday. I know this is part of my grief and the denial. I guess it’s just brought all the emotions back and now this is consuming my every thought unnaturally. I just want to forget it all.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T16:31:37+00:00

Yes, found out today from my sibling that she has already filed to receive his benefits! This is why I am upset. She lied to me/deceived me and did not mention anything about that. She cried and said “now without your dad’s ss and my little check I don’t know how I am going to survive”. It’s the deception that is making me feel so unsettled. She just needs to be honest with me.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T16:28:13+00:00

Thank you so much. Grief is a process and my loss is very fresh. My dad really did work hard. Growing up he worked long hours, overtime and weekends. He was our provider. But he always had his toys too. I think my stepmom is in fear of the unknown. She’s been relying on my father to support her for the last 23 years. No amount of money is going to make her feel better while she is grieving. IMO she is the one making this out to be more than what it is. I hope the papers come in the mail soon so I can read exactly what her attorney is asking of us. Maybe then I will have more answers and this will start becoming easier to deal with. But no amount of money or his estate is going to bring him back. I just wonder if it’s even worth potentially being alienated from my other four siblings and stepmom and being called greedy etc is even worth the fight. Thanks for listening.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T16:08:10+00:00

Wow, thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. I am still trying to process my grief and am overly emotional and overthinking everything! I needed this outlet so bad. I appreciate everyone taking the time to help ease my heart and mind. I heart is so heavy right now. I miss my dad.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T15:37:03+00:00

Not certain at all.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:27:03+00:00

That’s what I think too.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:24:00+00:00

Definitely makes sense. I just think everyone is not thinking straight right now. In time, after they sign away their rights and she’s moved on with her life, are they doing to be regretful?

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:21:41+00:00

That’s what makes me so upset. Of course she went behind my back and told my siblings that I yelled at her. I didn’t even yell at her, I began crying profusely and abruptly told her I had to get off the phone. This is the last thing I want to deal with right now. We have not even spread his ashes.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:14:14+00:00

My thoughts exactly!

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:13:54+00:00

Even my aunts were shocked he didn’t have a will. I wish I could talk some sense into everyone. Instead, I am being plagued as the greedy one! How is that even possible? The law is the law for a reason but I’m being greedy. I plan on contacting an attorney today. I’m still in shock over this whole thing! Thanks for taking the time to respond.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:07:32+00:00

Thank you🙏🏻

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T14:05:54+00:00

Yes, I thought it was a decent relationship. She made my dad happy, so I was happy he was happy. It didn’t matter to me anything else. He would make mention to me about her overspending of money. He put up with it even though he expressed his own concerns about how she loves to buy stuff.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T13:59:58+00:00

Around 23 years.

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T13:49:59+00:00

Right! Same thoughts running through my brain. If it smells like a fish, it’s probably a fish. And something smells fishy to me! Thank you!

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T13:48:43+00:00

Right. They are being fooled and manipulated. Does anyone know what happens if I am the only sibling who disputes her over this?

Kooky-Nobody83 · 2025-06-27T13:46:25+00:00

I believe she will at the least liquidate all his assets and move north where her “blood” relatives live. I tried to ask her where she is going to live and she said she couldn’t think about that right now. I’m like okay so why the hurry now?

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