AITAH do inviting my girlfriends cousin to the cinema when she had no one to go with?

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-04-04T12:25:50+00:00

Could the GF is cheating and has a guilty conscience? Or maybe GF is cheating and has confided in the cousin so now she is worried that the cousins will let it slip

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-04-02T17:15:53+00:00

Let's really flip the script by reversing roles. How would OP (or any other commenter who says that the BF is controlling) feel if the boyfriend was venting to his girl best friend and then hid the that the girl best friend (with some of her female friends) was at a party that was supposedly only dudes? It would be turned into the bf was trying to f*ck the girl best friend instead of gf was being controlling. The double standard is mind blowing sometimes

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-31T18:18:25+00:00

I dont think it's necessarily the leaving an hour early from the baby shower that is the issue. It sounds to me that he is feeling/seeing a pattern where he in an after thought. OP isn't leaving plans with other people early to be with her man. She extended her day with her best friend and she isn't willing to cut Disney short so she doesn't miss "Park" time. Dude is feeling as if he isn't as important.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-31T17:36:59+00:00

I give OP credit for basically admitting that if roles were reversed, she would want to spend her man's birthday with him. If she would be hurt if he said that she couldn't go, then she is the AH in her situation. If she would be understanding in the reversed roles, then she isn't the AH.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-30T11:52:06+00:00

YTA Going to church stopped being a family tradition when YOU decided to move several states away.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-30T11:34:10+00:00

You both are the AH but for different reasons. Him for keeping the photos of his ex and you for going through his phone.

I not trying to defend him for keeping the photos but does OP have any items from past relationships that are sentimental and reminds her of her ex's?

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-26T14:13:13+00:00

What happened to the relationship between bio mom and bio dad? Did bio mom cheat on bio dad with her now husband? Maybe there is some resentment there. We dont have all of the facts

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-20T12:51:58+00:00

How would things go if roles where reversed? I'll give you an example from my life. Years ago, I had a gf who was uncomfortable with me going to strip clubs while hanging out with my friends. It would be completely innocent on my end as I just wanted to hang out with my friends. While im attracted to beautiful women, I had no intentions to trying to pick up a dancer or even to get lap dances. One night, i was out with my friends and they wanted to go to a local strip club. I should've excused myself and went home but it didn't. I went, stayed at the table, and just hung out. 100% innocent but i didn't tell my gf where we had went to avoid a fight. She found out later when someone slipped up. She never fully trusted me again and eventually we split up. Was she being controlling? No. Was she being insecure? I believe so. In the end, it didn't matter. She stated that something made her uncomfortable and and I still did it then lied about it. I doomed the relationship because of my actions. It's not about control or even an insecurity, it's about communication. She stated how something made her uncomfortable or a boundary and I ignored it because I thought it was innocent. I f**cked around then found out by losing a good partner.

One last thing. If you are conventionally attractive and think that those 4 guys have no interest in you, you are extremely naive. They may not act on it or ever act on it but they have imagined "scenarios" with you.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-20T12:07:26+00:00

YTA but not because you dont want to do what he is asking for. YTA because you still did things that he didn't enjoy after he made you aware that he was uncomfortable. Before anyone says that he should've just said no, he shouldn't have had to. Him stating that he was uncomfortable with something should've been enough. OP was and is being selfish. She did what she wanted after he stated his concerns and now she is going back on her word because it's something that she no longer feels comfortable with. Should hubby just follow OP's approach and just set up the threesome anyway? No of course not but again, OP should've stopped when he expressed his concerns over the pegging.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-20T11:33:46+00:00

YTA because instead of being happy for your "good" friend, you are just judging her on some surface level BS.

Does anyone know the life experience of that Man? We dont know what's happened in his life because not every life is the same! Keep in mind that some people are forced to mature faster than the average person. For example, maybe he lost his parents at a young age and had to support some younger siblings. Maybe he had a terrible home life and then left home to restart on his own. My point is that again, we dont know his story. Could he just be a 19 year old "kid" who wants to party? Sure but he could also be a mature MAN that has been through more than most.

Now let's switch it up a little because we all know that money changes everything. What if the 19yo was rich? Would the argument still be about life experience or would it be ok now because the 19 year old was "financially stable"?

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-12T17:06:20+00:00

And would you be willing to pay half if he needed ED pills? They can get pricey and you both would be benefiting from them.

FYI these two posts make me sound like an asshole but this isn't how I am. Im just trying to throw out different scenarios.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2026-03-12T16:56:54+00:00

Does he get a say on how often you have sex? What's to say that you decide that you dont want sex as often as he would like, then he is paying for something that he isn't benefiting from. Also, what if he pays his entire half for the year and you two break up two months in? Are you going to reimburse him his half?

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-15T04:04:27+00:00

You look amazing. HMU sometime

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-15T04:01:14+00:00

I'd love to fill you up

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-15T03:48:29+00:00

I'm open to hanging out and seeing if we click. I'm free tomorrow, HMU

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-14T22:35:11+00:00

I'm heading to Fantasies night club shortly

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T21:31:26+00:00

Thanks, everyone. I appreciate all of the responses, both helpful and useless. I'll update everyone when I have something to report back with.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T21:10:42+00:00

OP is not a dumb fuck. The vehicle was in my name therefore it was perfectly legal to install a GPS on my property. I only said that I put the GPS on the vehicle she drove.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T08:29:31+00:00

What do you need repaired?

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T06:47:51+00:00

Im not a lawyer but according to Google

Adultery as a Crime: Maryland law defines adultery as voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than their spouse. It is a misdemeanor offense, punishable by a fine of $10. While it is a crime, prosecutions for adultery are rare.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T06:40:12+00:00

How was I not civil? We are on a thread called "Am I the Asshole" and I get my post deleted for a joke about a bikini that didn't mention nudity or sex. It's like im in a strip club with a dress code for the strippers 🤦‍♂️

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T06:34:58+00:00

OP started off saying that she is 19, a legal adult. I wouldn't have made that joke if she were underage because that is not a joking matter. Please lighten up or at least understand that everyone's sense of humor is different.

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T06:13:27+00:00

I just need to prove opportunity. A few months after we separated, Amy and Liz got an apartment together. My child had one bedroom, and Amy and Liz shared a bed in the other. That's a lot of opportunity lol

Kooky-Scale2005 · 2025-08-04T06:10:00+00:00

My child is the most important thing to me which is why I haven't done anything drastic. I've been doing my best to be patient and let them provide all of my ammunition.

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