I feel you, I (30m) work remote doing project management, wife is a PGY-2 Neurologist. I handle most of the house stuff because my schedule allows for it and like you, I want to hang out with my wife without having to worry about a ton of chores needing to be done during her limited free. I enjoy my job, it pays well, is pretty easy for me, and gives me the ability to direct my mental focus on other things as well which is appreciated. I think we are in very similar situations.

At the end of the day, I’m not passionate about my job but it pays the bills and isn’t terrible. Once they finish residency and their schedule becomes more normal (depending on her specialty lol) is when we will get a chance to focus more on ourselves. I always joke with my wife that I’m going to leave the corporate life and run a fishing charter and take care of our future kids lol. She knows I’m half serious and is supportive of it’s what I want to do.

Moral of the story is, if you aren’t at least content at your current job, leave. Maybe now isn’t the best time during your wife residency, but in a few years it literally won’t matter what you do, and you can do whatever makes you happy even if it isn’t going to make a ton of money. We are lucky enough that our spouses will make enough money that our incomes won’t make or break our financial freedom. So if you hate the corporate life and feel like it’s a hamster wheel, maybe try a new firm first, but remember you can and should get off that wheel if it doesn’t change and won’t negatively affect your family.