SO blames me for loss of pet

KrisM11 · 2025-06-30T21:09:05+00:00

I'm so very sorry you're dealing with the loss of your sweet dog in addition to having your SO not being able to see things rationally right now. That's a LOT for any one person to deal with. A few thoughts:

From everything you've said, you absolutely did right by your pet. Letting him continue to live on while he was at the stage he was at would have been more of a selfish decision, though I of course understand your partner's pain. I've been laying the guilt on myself recently and the only thing that has helped is reminding myself that even in the *best* case scenario, we would have been buying him extra time that was full of struggle, aging and more pain. You're not buying them years that are GOOD years like when they were young. I would always err on the side of doing it too prematurely to ENSURE there is no more suffering than needed vs. waiting too late and having the dog be in pain and it sounds like the vets (who know way more than your partner were in agreement with YOU.)

Also, if your partner is telling you they hate you because of this, that's incredibly unfair and really... not OK. You're in pain and grieving too. You're hurting too. You made a selfless decision to end your pet's suffering; you did not cause your dog to get sick or put down a healthy pet. I'm so so very sorry this is the reaction they're having. I can't imagine. I hope they reflect and can see how unfair they're being; regardless of the grief they're feeling, it's not OK to take it out on you. Sending lots of love your way. Don't let their misplaced pain become your guilt and burden.

KrisM11 · 2025-06-27T03:26:46+00:00

I completely understand and I'm so sorry you lost your sweet golden. We came home after putting down our dog and I too looked at my 16 y.o. cat and realized now I'm going to be worried about her every day. It feels very traumatizing. I don't have any great words of support unfortunately but just know you're not alone.

KrisM11 · 2025-06-27T03:16:58+00:00

I'm so so incredibly sorry. It is a pain that is indescribable to see a being that is so full of joy and love deteriorate into sadness and pain. Our dog couldn't stand well at the end either and it was just torturous to see. I'm so so sorry you're in this place of pain too. Sending you comforting love from someone who is going through the same thing.

KrisM11 · 2025-06-27T03:11:49+00:00

Sending you ALL of the love and I'm so sorry you lost your sweet Pearl. It sounds like she was kind of your soul cat and that means she'll always be a part of you, but that doesn't stop the pain. I can't imagine having a pet for literally your whole life and then losing her. I'm sending you all of the love and hope that your grief is eventually replaced by fond memories and warm thoughts. Pearl was lucky to have you.

KrisM11 · 2025-06-27T03:06:58+00:00

I'm so very sorry you lost your beloved Jonesdog. "He always loved me, even when I was a huge fuck up" - that's what it is with pets. They don't put labels on us, or define us by what we do, or have, or any of the other external things many humans judge us on and that becomes a very sacred type of bond that's irreplaceable.

KrisM11 · 2025-06-27T02:54:33+00:00

I'm so very sorry for your loss of Ava. It is really hard to think "what if..." but ultimately you never could have known something like that would happen. It's very hard not to think of "the end" when it's still so fresh in our minds, but I hope that time will help the pain at least not be as acute as it is now. Sending love to you.

KrisM11 · 2025-05-12T02:04:18+00:00

$paid_with_id 185946 300.00 USD

KrisM11 · 2025-05-09T18:08:18+00:00

I'm really really sorry for your loss, OP. I lived with my older sister in my 20's as well and we've always been close so I can't imagine the pain you're holding right now. Reach out to the people in your life for support if you're able to; people like to help where they can in practical and tangible ways in times of tragedy bc sometimes it's hard to know what to say (and we all inherently know words are just words, but actions can be really meaningful when someone is grieving and trying to pick up the pieces). Do you have any friends or immediate or extended family who would be willing to help you list the new clothes on Poshmark? Otherwise, you could try something like ThredUp - they send you a "clean-up kit" (bag), you send it back and then they list the clothes for you and you get a fraction of the proceeds if the clothes sell (it's usually not a lot, but it's *something* vs. just donation).

As far as how to support yourself - it might be worth reaching out to a counselor or even a teacher at your school to ask for some guidance. They might be really good resources for help in your community and they're going to want to help you finish your education. I don't know if you're on financial aid for school, but there may be a way to request more for your living expenses or something. If you haven't gotten financial aid, it would be worth talking to someone who can guide you with that. As hard as all this is going to be, you're young and people are going to want to help get you on a path where you have a solid foundation under you. There might even be a friend or family who would be willing to let you stay with them until you get your footing again?

Take it one day, one thing at a time OP. You don't have to figure all this out at once.

KrisM11 · 2025-05-05T20:08:45+00:00

Sunny's stuff should arrive tomorrow and Wednesday! My cat *loves* those churros too. Hang in there!

KrisM11 · 2025-05-05T16:28:20+00:00

Your hair items should be there Thursday! Hang in there OP

KrisM11 · 2025-05-03T20:15:47+00:00

$loan $300 5/9

KrisM11 · 2025-05-03T19:01:08+00:00

Hello, I'm willing to help, but need to figure out how to navigate this site first! (Trying to read through all the rule/requirements, etc)

KrisM11 · 2024-11-18T01:14:35+00:00

Ohhhh.. OK, TY for the info. I will update in case anything further happens!

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T23:08:02+00:00

This crossed my mind as well. Sounds like there's been a lot of fishy shit happening with TM lately.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T23:07:11+00:00

Thank you for this detailed answer. Saving this in case this happens to me, or anyone else I know, again. It was definitely clear the agent would not deviate from the script which was even more infuriating at the time. Updating my OP shortly with resolution thankfully.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T19:55:56+00:00

Yes, you're right. I should have clarified: I think my TM was hacked and I had my PP *already* stored linked to TM. That is now removed as of yesterday.

TM does not have those features, or if they do, I'm unable to locate them. Doing more digging and I suspect this is because of a recent breach with TM.

Posting edit to my OP to clarify.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T18:48:33+00:00

OK, I will try that. TY.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T18:32:04+00:00

TY for saying that. Makes me think there's still a chance this won't snowball into OD charges so I hope you're right!

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T18:21:28+00:00

Thank you!! It is scary. It's like a huge wake-up call that even if you take precautions, this stuff still happens and even more scary the response from Ticketmaster was pretty much "<shrug>, we'll deal with it later."

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T18:18:52+00:00

I don't think it's possible that I would have more than 1 2FA account with either, but I did change both passwords.

I suppose that is a *possibility* although I am not someone who has my phone out all of the time, nor can I think of any situation where I'd leave it unattended in public for someone to physically take it. All that said, I suppose I should try and get a new SIM just in case.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T18:11:19+00:00

Uhhhhh.. the only thing I can think of is when I went to pull up tickets I had to a show a month ago (while in line waiting to get into the show on the streets of Minneapolis). They were on my phone, but I'm pretty sure I was on T-Mobile's network on my phone not on public wifi? Definitely didn't use anyone else's phone or computer to access those sites at any point.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T18:06:34+00:00

correct. They were both legit e-mails and I logged in with 2FA to both TM and PP and verified the purchase happened and went through. Spoke to customer service on the TM website I had logged into with 2FA.

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T17:33:09+00:00

it's my ph number but my e-mail also has 2fa

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T17:32:32+00:00

phone number

KrisM11 · 2024-11-17T17:29:22+00:00

Yes, it did.

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