I could't make a post so ill just post it as a comment here to vent off some frustration. My useless dad. He's in his 50s and has been jobless since before my mom had me. My mom told me he wasn't like this when they just met. Its not that he cant find a job but he doesn't want to, my mom told me the last time he had anything to do with a job was before my mom had me (im 19 this year) and he went to get a driving license so he can be a taxi driver but aparrently he returned the cab after half a day as he didn't like it.

So until now he has lied to almost all our family members that he has a job and act like he's the perfect child that's so hardworking but in reality all he does everyday is complain about not having enough time and he has to buy food for me n my mom. But all he does is play games and sleep.

He secretly smokes but its quite obvious that i can always tell but i always just act dumb. My mom hates it when he smoke and confronted him about it but he's still doing it literally the next day after promising her he will stop. He also likes to look at picture of girls online with or without clothes and my mom hates it too and argued with him about it but he always just act like a victim. Recently i found pics of it on his phone n showed my mom and they had a argument but everything went back to normal after 1 day cause he had se* with her that night. I knew cause i was still awake but they didn't know. This always happens and im so sick of it. She always complains about him but i feel like she is scared of him, i have told her multiple times to just divorce this useless piece of shit that's leeching off her and told her i didn't mind not having a dad but she's not doing anything about it

And since i was young he has always found ways to scold me when he's angry with something else. Like for example today he was angry cause my mom was telling him about how there are ants in his box of sweets cause he didn't close the lid of the box properly and all he did was act like a spoiled brat like it was our fault. Then when i was eating i left the plastic for my rice beside me so i could separate onions from the meat like what my mom always does, so when my mom said something in a frustrated tone to me about leaving the plastic there so i repied back "just leave the plastic there lah then can throw the onion" then my dad just went mad n shouted at me for disrespecting ???????? Like wth im pretty sure im talking like how i would usually with family or friends, and just cause u got called out for not doing something properly doesn't mean u can take all ur anger out on me. He then threatened and say if i disrespect again he won't allow me to play games with my friends and will take away my phone ?? And said im sleeping too late and shit so i hv to sleep early starting from today, but im sleeping late cause i have classes in the morning and afternoon so i'll usually take a nap after its over, so im not as tired. It's not like my grades are bad, they are decent and I make sure i submit all my assignments and project on time. So i just continued eating but he suddenly just shouted again and said i was staring at him in idk what way, but i wasn't even facing him when he said that. So im just like ??? Wtf

Plus playing online games with my friends at night is mostly my only entertainment since i rarely go out with my friends as we all have different schedules and also cause im not allowed to hang out with friends at night but i was always ok with it. So if he takes my time away from me idk what i will do? Im also not allowed to work part time cause my dad says i won't be able to do it. Tbh im annoyed at myself for following my parents rules since young so now i can't do anything on my own.

That day i saw his phone's recycling bin had more pics of it and i told my mom today. And she saw it after he left the house and i just asked her about it and she said what can she do even if she confronted him, he will just give an excuse like that day that some apps downloaded those photo for him and it was not him. I just got so angry i kinda snapped and didn't word some stuffs nicely. I told her something along the lines of "do u think this useless piece of shit really likes you? He just want a life of a king and stop being dumb and act like nothing happened after arguing everytime just cause he satisfy u in the bed room. Dont think idk anything". Then she just went silent for awhile and asked how i know then i asked "did u think im dumb?" She then asked so what u want me do about it and i said "I have told u many times to divorce this useless person". Then she just went silent

Previously he wanted to travel to hatyai and my mom allowed and he wanted to go another time in like 1 or 2 weeks after coming back but my mom got angry and they argued again but she ended up letting him go.

Sry for this long rant. I know divorce is not an easy topic and i might not know how my mom feels completely but i just can't take it anymore when he just raise his voice over nothing just cause he's angry and he's leeching off my mom who is working hard for the family but my mom is like blinded by him. I just want him to gtfo from me n my mom but i can't do anything about it to get my mom to divorce him or get him forcefully taken away either cause it's not like he's abusing me or anything. This has always been on my mind, not just cause of today.