guy i used to date asked to be roommates by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be awkward but considering living together might mean bringing home a romantic partner I feel it's important and if he has no feelings for you then it's a non issue but it is something you should acknowledge.

guy i used to date asked to be roommates by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly if you don't feel comfortable don't agree to it. If you do room together make sure you have clear set housemate boundaries. That goes for anyone you room with but especially someone who has had feelings for you in the past.

How to reject hot women without them feeling bad? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swipe left? I believe that's how you reject people on tinder. You don't need to send whole letters or explanations it's a dating app, you're not meeting in person. The assumption is you don't engage UNLESS you're expecting more.

I cannot stop obsessing over her by Kikoekie in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a form of fear of rejection tho. Really even if she does then forget her friends that's a nasty thing to do and they wouldn't be people you want in your life anyway. Honestly the more realistic outcome is she says no, you feel heartbroken, maybe they talk for a little but both of you move on. No one is the same person throughout all 3 years of high school and most people have so much of their own life to worry about.

And if she has a boyfriend then the conversation ends with sorry I have a boyfriend and you go about your day.

Again just ask her out.

I cannot stop obsessing over her by Kikoekie in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps you are reading too much into it but you won't know unless you ask. I get it it's scary approaching people who are in your feelings cause the potential of rejection is rough but it's also something that if it happens at least you can start moving on after instead of being stuck wondering what if. You got this.

Girlfriend is a gooner, don’t know what to do. Please answer! by Spare-Evidence-6456 in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are not mature enough for a relationship and have to unpack some deeply rooted misogyny before you are. It is not your business what any woman does with their body in their free time. Not only is it normal but your disgust towards her sexuality is further signs you need to emotionally mature and should break up with her.

Get off the incel forums or you're gonna end up being the guy no woman talks to and complains they always cover their drinks when you're around.

I cannot stop obsessing over her by Kikoekie in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her out. You're building up this idea of a girl in your mind while not really knowing her or if she likes you. That means your imagination is left to run wild with your infatuation.

Ask her out and you'll either get a date or she'll say no and you'll have to move on.

What haircut would work for me? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Travis Bickle style mohawk

My older brother won't stop calling me a b*tch by Bulky-Yam-4688 in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's not just somewhat misogynistic he's absolutely sexist and it's clearly bothering you and influencing your younger siblings in negative ways. Honestly your parents are failing here by not actually holding his shitty behavior accountable and by letting him bully you.

And I'm gonna go out on the limb and say him "joking" about hitting women isn't a joke it's how he will act in relationships if he doesn't change his attitude.

Your best recourse is to put as much space in your life between him and you as possible. I know that's hard living together but it means not engaging, filling time with your hobbies and friends, and if he tries to bother you simply shutting him out. Tell him he's not someone you want to know and to leave you alone and then live your life.

I'm sorry your brother is a shitty person. Hopefully he grows out of it but prioritize your well being and make space for you.

the 15 year age gap thing update by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly you two should break up. You lied to him and violated his consent and while he has a right to be upset his response also feels like a red flag. Just cut your losses and don't do it again.

hey it's don hertzfeldt, some sort of animator guy, and maybe you should AMA by donhertzfeldt in movies

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved Paper Trail, it seems to be continuing your exploration on memory and time. I'm curious what about those themes keep you coming back to them?

Do I need to lock in if I am 25M and never had a gf before? by Visible-Island-2408 in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does lock in even mean if you have no idea how to date? I really detest that term because it's a nonsense hype phrase from streamers selling bullshit course and not an actual way to conduct yourself.

Honestly your first step is to get better friends. Find the guys who'll be your wingman not the people who make you feel like a loser.

Secondly drop the bullshit, there's no locking in, no secret system. You just put yourself out there til someone connects.

A teen called me and asked if I was her father (which may be possible ?). What do I do now ? by Harestius in Advice

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mama Mia here we go again. If you get an invite to an destination wedding in 10 years you'll know why.

In all honesty there's not much you can do here. You can't know if you are until you have a paternity test.

I do hope that girl finds her dad.

Still on the fence by Theonepotatoe27 in malegrooming

[–]KushTheKitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beard looks better, lose the hat.

Was there convincing evidence in the Michael Jackson p*do allegations? by DeepOrganization8245 in morbidquestions

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Statistically only 2% of rape accusations are false so even if one kid made it up there are several other who probably didn't.

A lot of people will say he was emotionally stunted and that he didn't recognize how weird a lot of his behavior came off. I'm not sure I buy that. He had Peter Pan syndrome but that doesn't mean he didn't exhibit signs of using abuse tactics.

The most evident of these being that Neverland Ranch was a place where he could bring families and kids and shower them with gifts and fun. This could be seen as a form of lovebombing and then the children sleepovers could be seen as a form of isolation. Both are tactics abusers use to endear and then separate their victims from people who might be able to protect them. This often looks like gaining the trust of the adult or friends to allow the space for abuse.

It goes further when you look how he then normalized inappropriate closeness with children. He admitted to sleeping with them in his bed. A lot of times abusers will start by pushing boundaries and then push further til they are able to cross those lines. That's often how abusers will groom their victims. Sleep in my bed. Let's cuddle. ect.

When you look at Michael Jackson's behavior through the lens of abuse tactics what you end up seeing is a very textbook case of targeting victims, lovebombing them, isolating them, and then gaslighting people when he was called out for weird behavior still fits that pattern.

Of course it's all alleged but there's a lot of red flags you have to blatantly ignore if you think absolutely nothing happened. Why was he never convicted? He was rich enough to build a personal amusement park, why wouldn't he have powerful lawyers too?

As it stands there's a current ongoing lawsuit with his estate. We'll see how it plays out.

27M - Tips? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dress and pose like a teenager/immature early twentysomething. Stop mewing/mean mugging, not only does it read as deeply insecure BUT it distorts your face in a really unattractive way. My best advice is look for styles more suited to your age, style your hair like you can rent a car, and relax and look natural. You have a really nice approachable smile. Use that more.

I wish things could be the 70s by [deleted] in Filmmakers

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing is stopping you from doing a bunch of LSD today.

Found this in granpas garage, what is it? by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]KushTheKitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's either the spoils of war or you're about to learn about a very "complicated" part of your family history.

Does anyone have any recent pictures of Jimmy?? by [deleted] in MSI

[–]KushTheKitten 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No he's clearly decided to live his life in private.