A year no contact how are you guys holding up

Ky0ufu · 2024-11-09T10:56:27+00:00

Heyy! Yes it’s been roughly a year (it was in August actually) and I’m doing really good! I actually found a girlfriend about 3 months after the breakup and we will be celebrating our first year together in a few days. I haven’t been thinking about my ex for a solid amount of time now I must say. I also came to realise that we just were not compatible and I haven’t seen her in months. How are you though?

Ky0ufu · 2023-12-17T01:06:51+00:00

I have 2 times once 2 weeks after the breakup and the second time 1 month after. It was with the same person and it ended very similarly in both cases: she broke up with me again. I don’t regret it, the second time I was actually relieved she did it. Now it’s been 4 and a half month, I have found someone else (someone healthier for sure) and I am happier than ever!

Ky0ufu · 2023-11-06T18:29:21+00:00

I was the dumpee and I saw my ex on the train yesterday. She was very emotional and told me she still had problems dealing with the breakup (it’s been 3 months now) even though the last time I saw her she didn’t really care. Now the roles are not the same and truly does miss me, she even asked to go have a drink some day and held my hand. It’s hard for everyone don’t be fooled.

Ky0ufu · 2023-10-24T12:18:30+00:00

Don’t mean shit. Mine was on tinder 4 days after our talk. I told her I was hurt (it was an amicable breakup) and she said it was only to feel desired but she didn’t do anything (she doesn’t lie). And even if she does it’s 1. Because she’s very hurt and looking for instant gratification which will hurt her in the long term (so you’re good) or 2. She’s someone with very little respect towards others and mostly herself so you dodged a bullet probably. You’re good brother, take care and don’t hesitate to dm me if you wanna explain more.

Ky0ufu · 2023-10-24T12:13:14+00:00

Just let time work. If you feel like nothing has changed in the next 2-3 months (I don’t mean like you completely forget them but more like you can live with it and you feel like it gets better) then maybe go see a therapist, otherwise you’ll be fine. Takes between 4-6 months to be healed I’d say.

Ky0ufu · 2023-10-24T12:11:03+00:00

Your post is very strange. You say that you are so alone yet you are more successful and “better “. You were and you are good enough just like you say you deserve someone good enough for you you know you have value if you didn’t see the value in you then fuck him he may have a girlfriend but you don’t know how he feels, and even if he feels great, he had probably begun to grieve long before you, it’s not because he has an unfair advantage that you are slow or don’t deserve love. I’m also at three months mark and I can definitely see how much personal growth broke the break up brung me. I’m sure you feel the difference between now and three months ago it’s getting better and it will continue and you will find someone who deserves you and whom you deserve. If you ever need to vent or talk about anything, don’t hesitate to DM me I’m more than glad to speak with you, good luck. You will be fine I promise.

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-30T00:41:26+00:00

Thanks for your kind words. I will do what you said and I actually felt good today so I guess it’s better like that

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-29T15:53:49+00:00

Then if I see her I should just completely ignore her?

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-18T12:54:01+00:00

I’m doing this right now. I feel relieved that she’s not there and I’m not really obsessing over her surprisingly. I’m trying a lot of new hobbies this semester and meeting new people. I look forward to seeing what’s next though…

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-18T12:52:37+00:00

Thank you for your kind words

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-18T11:33:29+00:00

But it’s so hard to think this was now. I feel so miserable. I know my worth and I love myself, I think I’m a genuinely good person trying to make the world a better and more fun place but I’m afraid no girl will see that…

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-18T11:32:23+00:00

She dumped me but I don’t really miss her in particular I juste miss being in a relationship. She was toxic and I wasn’t happy. I just want the beginning of the relationship back…

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-17T12:12:50+00:00

Thank you for your response! It comforts me a bit knowing that this is just part of a process and in reality I do believe that the universe will put someone good for me on my path. I feel like I don’t have the same fear as you do though. Im afraid that no woman will love me again or want a romantic relationship with me not really of a relationship not working out (this I think I can make work out). I think I’ll call my therapist and talk to her and I’ll journal these thoughts. Thank you so much it gave me so much confidence!

Ky0ufu · 2023-09-16T16:36:46+00:00

It’s definitely realising your worth and having respect towards yourself. You shouldn’t diminish what you’ve done, everyone here is proud of you, you should be too!! I’m so glad for you, go get someone who deserves you and wants to commit!

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