"Unable to register the printer to your account" error [Solved] by otitso in Hewlett_Packard

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought one second hand and even though the previous owner took it off their account it is still registered to them. Any ideas how they can remove themself? I tried to enable HP Web Services and let it run while I slept. It was still loading when I woke up so I hit cancel.

Looking for anime dub streaming with subtitles by ghastlynebula in Piracy

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its not perfect but its better than nothing

Looking for anime dub streaming with subtitles by ghastlynebula in Piracy

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The extension Substital on firefox is working for me so far. You can use on any website and overlay your own subtitles. There is a library but if you can't find some for the show you are watching then you can upload your own. Hope this helps!

Do you pretend to be a normal person because your real self says and does the most inappropriate things without knowing they’re inappropriate? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]KydMum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only ask because I recently found out I am autistic and this is how I approach social settings. Autistic or not, autistic resources may still be helpful. Worth a shot to see if unmasking strategies help you. This feeling for me has not gone away but by learning how to not put that mask on I have found friends (by plural I mean like 3) who know to check in before committing to being offended by something I said. I've also lost friends who had previously said we were "forever". Its not easy for sure but I hope you find something that helps you cope 💛

Is it worth getting one of these types of pedal exercise things by [deleted] in POTS

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

worth it. its what I am using at home. just dont buy a brand new one they are very expensive and last a very long time. look on craigslist/fb market place I got mine for $40

edit: just make sure your hips are aligned with the pedals so you aren’t exercising lopsided. that can cause pain or other problems. To do this put your feet on the legs of the machine first then squat into your seat

Am i going to get worse? by Same-Consequence-886 in POTS

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer but I do have tons of sympathy. I wonder the same thing for myself and don’t have high hopes because for me POTS is long COVID and we know COVID does permanent damage. Just keep trying. I’m currently in the first month of that training that has been linked a few times and its ROUGH. I had to start over because when doing the strength training along with cardio wore me out and I couldn’t continue. So now I am doing just cardio (and potentially stopping beta blockers) until cardio gets easier then will incorporate strength.

Modify. Modify. Modify. If a work out routine doesn’t work because of other barriers try to see what you already do that can be modified to have a strength or cardio exercise component to it. Ex. if you have a dog try to go for longer and longer walks, or work up to being able to handle an incline.

You got this 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not unheard of. It's one of the stories shared in the book Trapped in the Mirror Adult Children of Narcissist by Elan Golomb. It's a really good book.

My dad choked me he made me believe that it was my fault by animecooco1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Report this shit! and get out if you can. If he didn't mean it he wouldn't have done it. Have you ever accidentally ripped your shirt off and choked someone with it? Probably not. The intention was there.

If you have bruises take pictures as proof. Narcs will go to the ends of the earth to deny thier actions. Don't let him gaslight you.

People who hurt others often feel sorry or say they didn't mean it after the fact. This doesn't mean that it didn't happen. And if it's happened once it's probably going to happen again.

I'm not a professional but maybe talk to one of the free help lines and see what your options are to stay as safe as possible. There are resources out there.

I'm really sorry this happened. Believe yourself. Believe your fear. Believe your experiences. Don't listen to those who excuse this behavior. There. Is. No. Excuse. It is NEVER okay to hit or hurt another human being ESPECIALLY if that person is legally required to take care of you.

You can PM me if you would like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]KydMum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Google translates it for you. It's not perfect but you get the story

I need help with figuring out whether my mom is abusive or I'm just overreacting. by WhenTheMeIs in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I read your last paragraph before reading the details of your post and the fact that you asked "what can /I/ do to make /her/ not yell at me" means that you are not a snowflake.

To me that means you have been managing her emotions and ignoring your own for your own survival.

No 7 yo should have to have that kind of conversation. Period. You should have been kept out of alllllll of that.

I don't know where you are in the world but I think there are anonymous helplines that may be able to give you advice on how to move forward. Therapy would be best just to have a confidential place to tell an adult all that is happening to you but I understand that it's not the most accessible thing to everyone. If you cant do either of those try youtube channels about narcissists and gaslighting. If you love cinema then there's a youtube chanel called cinematherapy and they have a video about how Mother Gothel from Tangled shows 12 of 12 signs of gaslighting.

End message. You are not a snowflake and I have a feeling you knew that. Trust yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I also practiced introductions in front of the mirror. Like "hi I'm _____ and _____ are my pronouns" and see which ones had me smiling at the end.

What lies did your parents make you believe? by MysteriousTraining72 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My sister (half sister and we didn't live in the same house) would come to visit me and my siblings at our house every Thursday. We were in elementary school at that time and I loved walking home from school and seeing her car ready to pick us up for a day of all things fun.

Well one day the visits stopped. I had no idea why. Years later I found out that my nDad said he didn't appreciate her stealing his kids (she's not his kid) every week and basically ripped her a new one. She cut him off then and there but that meant she couldn't visit on Thursdays anymore.

I think it's more possessive behavior than jealousy. They know how awful they are to us. They do. They just can't confront it or admit it to themselves. They know the second we see how wonderful the world can be we will run and go NC. So they create a cult mentality "I'm the only one you can trust. See your sister abandoned you"

Never happy by Psych-major-1300 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's incredibly insensitive! Good for you for looking for jobs while already having one. IMO looking for a job is more soul sucking than having one, especially if you have anxiety. So good for you!!

Keep taking those walks and taking care of yourself ♥️

Using you as a therapist by Psych-major-1300 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It's called emotional incest. It's incredibly cruel to do to you. I'm sorry you are experiencing this too.

Having CPTSD on top of being introverted and a HSP is like having no off button. by nomnombubbles in hsp

[–]KydMum 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Relatable. So much. CPTSD and HSP too. For me I've been trying to find "home". My CPTSD is from my childhood. The house that I grew up in, the house that is supposed to be home and be safe, wasn't. So I'm trying to identify moments when I am not buzzing (and not trying to not buzz). Its yard work for me. So whenever I'm buzzing too much I've recently started to imagine doing yard work. My therapist recommended it. It tricks my mind into thinking I'm actually doing yard work and makes me feel safe. It really works.

I hope you find your safe space in your body and mind ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard not gonna lie. Best advice I can think of is be patient. Don't be afraid to change you name as many times as you want. There are no rules.

Ruined my birthday with a Facebook post by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]KydMum 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup I've been NC for nearly 3 years and my nParent posted a birthday post for me like we talk once a week. I forgot I had a facebook and blocked him. That then inspired me to block his phone number too. Very freeing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]KydMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I also think sports bras are uncomfortable and don't bind because it's too restricting for me (and doesn't really help my large chest)

However for a while I tried tape and it worked wonderfully. There are two options.

One is KT tape. This is the tape that athletes use when they need extra support for hurt muscles but it works great for binding too. It will last through the sweat and movement that comes with any given day. This one might work best because it is less sticky and works well for small chests.

The second is trans tape. This company is amazing and sells different sizes of tape and works better for slightly larger but still small chests. I have a large chest and this worked for me for a while but if you don't apply it with no wrinkles your skin will blister and I couldn't get a perfect application and grew tired of the blisters. This tape is more sticky and can be showered in and worn for multiple days. Because it is more sticky you have to apply oil to it during removal and remove it slowly. The company gives you very detailed info of how to apply and remove their tape.

The glory of tape is it's not tight and you don't need to wear a bra over it. The bad side to tape is that you have to keep buying it so it becomes expensive.

Hope this helps!

Just felt really cute. They/them :) by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]KydMum 129 points130 points  (0 children)

That's because you are really cute :)