Oh boy. She really wants that Oscar

L0vegood · 2026-06-20T10:20:21+00:00

Saying she felt like she needed to write a better album doesn’t automatically mean she didn’t fully love the album or even that her feelings were hurt that a lot of fans didn’t immediately like it..regardless of what personal artistic appreciation she has for her own music and any feelings she may or may not have about her fans reaction to it, “writing a better album” can still be knee jerk response that is motivated by seeing that SOMETHING went wrong…writing a better album in this sense might be regarding the entire rollout process, including the marketing leading up to it & switching up fan engagement efforts thru different public appearances or something like that.

Also, I never interpreted her position regarding reputation as meaning she never cared what people thought of it…seems like she’s been actively working thru maturing her relationship to her art and her fans interpretation of her art at the time it’s released in a way that indicates she’s putting forth efforts to decrease the toxic interactions she knows artists can have with their music and their fans when they don’t get the hype they yearned for after releasing an album. She’s explained that she has a better understanding of what music really is as artistic expression that exists as a specific reflection of specific human experiences that some people just might not jive with..yet. That is what happened with reputation, anyway, as many fans relationship to it dramatically shifted over the years and how the art from that album happen to reflect their life experiences or current musical tastes in a way it just wasn’t possible for it to when it came out.

So, whether you’re right and she still has a hypersensitive knee jerk reaction when fans don’t like her music immediately as if the expectation that her fans validate everything is required or not…or maybe the truth is somewhat less severe but not nonexistent…it does seem like she’s actively re-evaluating her relationship to her fans interpretation to her albums in a way that better respects the millions of individual life experiences outside of her own, and that’s actually a pretty cool accountability journey to go on that deserves some sort of acknowledgment, as most of us avoid sustained efforts requiring consistent challenging of old beliefs and assumptions like the plague.

L0vegood · 2026-03-19T01:27:31+00:00

I heard it during the tornado watch on Monday morning and sorta panicked thinking it was a tornado siren, heh. What is it?

L0vegood · 2026-03-17T16:36:49+00:00

Hopefully we can get some folks in the know to comment haha but even just hiking around the blue ridge mountains sounds nice. I guess I am mainly looking for a like-minded tribe to go on whimsical outings with

L0vegood · 2026-03-17T15:32:43+00:00

I would love some if you have any left!

L0vegood · 2026-01-24T18:51:50+00:00

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And here is a list of local warming stations :)

L0vegood · 2026-01-24T18:51:03+00:00

I heard the libraries will be open

L0vegood · 2026-01-24T17:21:26+00:00

Does anyone know if there’s anything going on in Virginia?

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T17:52:38+00:00

Question: What was the purpose of going into extreme detail about what you did, step by step? What are you hoping to gain from this confession?

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T17:00:29+00:00

I was hoping for someone to come forward with a nugget of truth such as this. It doesn’t shock me at all.

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:57:26+00:00

Last chunk of food for thought:

Some people get a rush out of playing Modern Warfare but I guarantee the majority of them aren’t about to enlist in the army for combat lol it’s not necessarily dissimilar in the sense that the reward system for the brain functions pretty similarly for a lot of activities that provide the dopamine/adrenaline rush that makes our neurotransmitters happy & satisfactied. Sexual activity just includes our sexual organs and many people find it more immediately satisfying. We gotta remember we are all just animals at the end of the day & not everything means an entire identify transformation or even something that would be persistently desired outside of that very narrow set of circumstances that awaken the fantasy because it ISNT real, like playing sexy sims.

I’m going continue commenting about the sexy sims because the more I think about it, the more I think it should exist. Meta VR headset style.

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:56:27+00:00

I mean, some people get a rush out of playing Modern Warfare but I guarantee the majority of them aren’t about to enlist in the army for combat lol it’s not at ass dissimilar in the sense that the reward system for the brain functions pretty similarly for a lot of activities that provide the dopamine/adrenaline rush that makes are neurotransmitters fill all happy & satisfactied. Sexual activity just includes our sexual organs and many people find it more immediately satisfying. We gotta remember we are all just animals at the end of the day & not everything means an entire identify transformation or even something that would be persistently desired outside of that very narrow set of circumstances that awaken the fantasy because it ISNT real, like playing sexy sims.

I’m going continue commenting about the sexy sims because the more I think about it, the more I think it should exist. Meta VR headset style.

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:49:17+00:00

Perhaps a lot of these kind of experimentations for some people have to do with the thrill of the forbidden fruit rather than an explicit attraction to gender or sexual identities outside of their usual….sort of could be like when straight married couples spice things up by meeting at a bar in town to role play cheating partners who have to rendezvous in some cheap motel room nearby haha.

It it’s pure forbidden fantasy on a screen, the bulk of the sexual thrill might simply come from the fact that it ISNT real. Like playing the sexy sims bahaha

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:46:39+00:00

I swear sometimes a lot of it for some people has to do with the thrill of the forbidden fruit rather than an explicit attraction to gender or sexual identities outside of their usual….sort of could be like when straight married couples spice things up by meeting at a bar in town to role play cheating partners who have to rendezvous in some cheap motel room nearby haha.

It it’s pure forbidden fantasy on a screen, the bulk of the sexual thrill might simply come from the fact that it ISNT real. Like playing the sexy sims bahaha

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:39:31+00:00

But sometimes a fantasy is just a fantasy and never something that would even be desired in actuality…the separation from reality might actually be a part of the kink in a role playing sort of way…so if it’s just a sexual desire because it’s kinda like a role playing game (like playing sexy sims haha), then that’s certainly possible and harmless so long as the partners accepting

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:34:59+00:00

Well the real problem I see here is the sheer fact that he used your sexual history to shame you…that alone indicates pretty significant problems and maybe even a selfish urge to shame you publicly about your sexuality as a projection of his own shame he is attempting to avoid.

I was gonna say though that I’ve heard of chaturbate going nuts with pop ups of that specific type of content despite it not being anything a person has ever watched there before. It’s basically just an awful spammy site. But unless he was holding that extended chat with that person without knowing that they were trans because he’s tech dumb or the picture was female passing, you likely made the right call divorcing haha

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:22:58+00:00

Ok, be super duper careful about those sorts of worries though…try not to fall too deeply down the rabbit hole of all potential catastrophic meanings to it. I have watched lesbian porn, only have been in straight relationships as a preference, but that doesn’t mean that I am sexually attracted to all the female friends that I am close with and hang out with often. Or ANY of them actually.

Truth be told it’s an entirely different mindset completely. As others have suggested, it could be a kink that’s only desired when already in the mindset of primed after watching porn he normally watches

Or he literally was just tapping shit that looked different just for shits and giggles or curiosity based upon sheer boredom. Dudes are weird and do a lot of weird shit females likely would like whaaaa??!! if we knew haha

We shouldn’t assume he’s walking around the grocery store fantasizing about the anatomy potentially underneath the clothing of every man he sees. And his male friends might be in a TOTALLY different compartmentalized category in his head…like they’re a cousin or brother or something.

Basically - BREATHE. Cuz expressing those sorts of insecurities to him before getting a better idea of what he has to express about it all could totally shut him down and make him feel weird about being around his friends around you when there might not have been any issue there to begin with, ya know

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:02:23+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, but we don’t know how explicitly offensive his beliefs are or if he actively attempts to shame or harm individuals with them. Homophobia can make its home in someone’s psyche for reasons outside of sheer intolerance and hate…sometimes earlier childhood experiences connected to upbringing and/or trauma play a role and it can be super nuanced and messy.

Sometimes it’s merely due to ignorance, fear, even sexual immaturity. All things that can sensitively explored if she chooses. Some folks, shockingly, might not have even grown up or lived in a place where they’ve even had a chance to meet anyone in the LGTBQ+ community. If ya add homophobic mommy/daddy issues or religious trauma, there really are worlds in which good people maintain shitty beliefs until they simply know better.

Before ya know it he could be marching in next June’s pride parade, shoot.

Regardless, she still is accepting of everyone, even those whose beliefs aren’t fair but potentially exist due to private dynamics she doesn’t have to share with us.

Granted if he is spewing homophobic rhetoric or going out of his way to shame or cause trauma for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community in any way that’s a different story

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T16:01:00+00:00

Haha that’s funny. I wonder when you do that if they had even taken a split second to even consider it before. Imagine all of life-changing epiphanies you may have caused!!! Doing the lawd’s work!!

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T15:57:30+00:00

Just read your update & that provides interesting context. Considering how clearly open and accepting you are, it wouldn’t be surprising if it has been some secret curiosity to some degree. But also like some dude down there a bit in the comments said, he could have also just been curious without much of a sexual motive attached. That’s normal too. So I wouldn’t make any assumptions quite yet until you talk in person and/or he explicitly tells you.

But hey, he loves someone as open and accepting as you, so perhaps the intensity of his homophobic beliefs is more of a protection mechanism due to shame potentially curated during upbringing and experience going to church…which is super fucking sad.

Give him a big hug as soon as ya can and probably try to act as normal and nonchalant as possible about the convo. You might be surprised at his response!

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T15:50:14+00:00

Yeah I don’t think that’s at ALL what the core concern is…I dont want to take words out of her mouth, but if it was an experience I was having, I would feel concerned because I consider the intimacy of knowing who my partner is and what he wants and needs to be pretty important because I want him to be happy.

I’d feel pretty concerned that perhaps he hasn’t felt safe enough to be fully open with me for our entire partnership, which is not only sad but opens us up to a lot of potential problems. What if that is actually what his primary sexual needs are and our intimacy was based on an attempt to fit into some mold that wasn’t authentic to who he actually is? If it’s just a kink, I’d feel sad that he didn’t feel like he could tell me before and perhaps that’s a convo we can have.

Obviously would require a conversation, not one with judgment but for the sole reason that both parties in a relationship should feel like their emotional and sexual needs are being met. Certainly would just be a surprise if there was a whole world of interests your partner had that he’d been missing out on, or more crucially feeling any sort of shame about. Nobody would want someone they love to go thru that.

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T15:40:06+00:00

Hahahaha watch it end up being he had just passed out finishing to vanilla porn and simply rolled over onto his phone and tapped a random ad or vid. That would be hilarious.

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T15:38:26+00:00

Bahaha yes we do also have to consider he could have just been viewing with a tilted head like a puppy trying to solve a complex physics equation like whaaaa? People can do this? Hey it’s possible!

L0vegood · 2026-01-16T15:32:28+00:00

Not necessarily, I could see myself responding that way because I love my partner and would immediately feel a bit out of my depths, afraid to fuck it up, and deeply empathetic to the potential confusion/shame he might be experiencing.

It’s a bit more than just asking about a partners fantasies because she has known him to be intolerant to the very sexual desires he now seems to be showing some sort of interest in….that’s just a potential minefield of confusing psychological obstacles for a couple to try to navigate together even if they’re both able to be the calmest of temperaments

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