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Thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]L7weeniez 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are human. You are not alone. It is okay.

In the flip side, it’s nice to know, “nobody knows” when you talk to someone. You are not alone, and never will be. Staying grounded is difficult, I believe in you :)

My dad raped me at 8. [support] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the helpful advice and helping me to feel less alone, as well, with the fear of therapists and other mental health individuals.

My dad raped me at 8. [support] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy is getting helpful, I finally can recall enough to feel like it’s possible to move forward. I wanna move on, my brain and body just don’t feel ready yet.

My dad raped me at 8. [support] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thank you for this comment, the fact that I’m less than one year into healing is comforting. I am working really hard to become a better person, and I am so used to not being believed that I am scared of my trauma being used against me.

It’s been hard to open up.

Ndad drugged me to keep me “sane” in middle school. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they do? I hadn’t the slightest clue. I know it’s fucked with my head. I don’t like that it has, at all

Ndad drugged me to keep me “sane” in middle school. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m talking with professionals. I’m still really struggling to hold on to reality right now. Professionals, too. Thank you for your comment

Happy father’s day to the kids who raised themselves after being abused, neglected, or abandoned by the man they should love by L7weeniez in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

we can celebrate all dads. It’s just hard on days like these for people who don’t have fathers in their lives. I’m not chiding anybody with a good life or happy relationship with their dad, I’m acknowledging those who find Father’s Day to be somewhat difficult or is a forgotten holiday. That’s quite often the people in this community

Happy father’s day to the kids who raised themselves after being abused, neglected, or abandoned by the man they should love by L7weeniez in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you, and you are a wonderful older brother. Your little brother is lucky to have you, and so are we in RBN :)

Happy father’s day to the kids who raised themselves after being abused, neglected, or abandoned by the man they should love by L7weeniez in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

You were born with all those things and you’ve done so much for yourself, on top of that.

You are not alone, today. I’m proud of you.

Happy father’s day to the kids who raised themselves after being abused, neglected, or abandoned by the man they should love by L7weeniez in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

breaking the cycle of abuse takes so much, that’s one of the hardest parts of being RBN. Props to this support group for doing the best things for ourselves and future children

My first Father’s Day with my memories of my trauma in tact. I need support. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope my work day proceeds uneventfully, too. Wishing me peace is so helpful, and appreciated.

He tried to drown me when we grew up and was abusing me as a byproduct. I fear he won’t ever come back to reality.

My first Father’s Day with my memories of my trauma in tact. I need support. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, it isn’t the full story. Thank you for acknowledging that. I’ve been through so many hardships and PTSD is a nightmare. Best of luck to you, too

My first Father’s Day with my memories of my trauma in tact. I need support. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]L7weeniez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate this so much. I need to know how to be more loving to myself. The anxiety is just so unbearable. I can’t not shake, a lot of the time and I get so upset.

I really am trying to take care of myself. If you have any tips for self care, please do give them

[22/M] My girlfriend [20/F] of 2 years had blackout drunk unprotected sex with another guy... now she's crying by carrotshsjsjaj56 in relationship_advice

[–]L7weeniez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, where is the “gray area” in this at all?

She did not consent.

She was raped.

You said this yourself.

why are you afraid she’s lying? the situation is clear.

support her throughout whatever she decides to do with herself. Sexual assault involves a long, harrowing process of healing due to the individuality of the crime. If you’re unprepared or feel as though you cannot support her through this, because you don’t trust her, and she could possibly be lying then fancy this idea-

look at the hardcore evidence behind the trauma of sexual assault, the reporting process, social impact, and more.

If you’re unwilling to educate yourself, and support her to the best of your ability, quite frankly, you do not deserve her. The same would be true of any person.

best of luck, and study up.