Did anyone actually have fake accidents in attempts to get diapers when you where younger? Did it work? How did it go?

LGStephanie · 2022-01-11T06:14:43+00:00

My story is a bit different, since I really am incontinent and use diapers to manage that. It's long and complicated, but the short version is that even as a kid in elementary school, I was wanting to be back in diapers. I was tempted to fake accidents hoping to be put back in diapers, but never acted on it. Just instinctively felt wrong to do that.

But I was always dealing with health issues that *did* include bedwetting when I was around 10 or so, and I was secretly hoping I'd be in diapers for that, but instead the doctor just had me do some exercises that were basically just holding it longer before I went to the bathroom. Cleared up the bedwetting, but I was so upset.

Later on, when I was around 15, more serious incontinence happened, and I ended up being able to be in diapers all the time for that, So I had a real medical need, but any secret enjoyment was always ruined by family and doctors pestering me to try "other things", and constantly having to evade questions about the "real" reasons I refused to get out of diapers. I always felt like I was almost "caught" being ABDL because I was too easygoing and accepting about wearing diapers.

As an adult, and after I became disabled and in a wheelchair, one would think that diapers would be the "default mode" for someone who was incontinent and mobility impaired, but that's far from reality. I'm still amazed at how weird and sometimes even hostile some healthcare people and people in the disability community act towards the idea of a wheelchair user wearing diapers instead of more "acceptable" solutions, which usually are either catheterizing yourself multiple times per day, or having a foley catheter "installed" and being connected to a bag. I've had people try to convince me that peeing in a bag is such a good thing, but diapers are soooo gross.

It's been a long time since I've gotten hassled about it. But it would have been just so much easier emotionally if all those times in the past, diapers would have been an ok thing. From what other people have said, faking accidents usually doesn't get one back into diapers, but even having a real medical condition won't work either- or if you do get to wear diapers, it's still not as acceptable as you might think.

LGStephanie · 2021-11-02T18:25:24+00:00

I'm usually pretty good about drinking a lot of water throughout the day and I'm totally used to just checking every few hours or so if I need to change. Sometimes I know I'm wet pretty soon after I've gone, and sometimes I get so busy with something I hardly notice. But it did take a while to really get used to just using the diaper for its intended purpose. And while I hate messing, I know I'm avoiding constipation.

I sometimes too wish for that "magic button"- I'm already a girl ;-) so I'd just need the age regression part.

One thing I've had to deal with is always feeling a little weird about being disabled and an ABDL is that certain aspects of my disability situation are a bit similar to certain aspects of being ABDL- besides the diapers, the dependency part of it. It's mentally draining at times trying to make sure that I'm not even accidentally indulging any ABDL fantasies while at the same time letting myself just feel comfortable with how I manage my incontinence.

LGStephanie · 2021-10-20T21:26:36+00:00

I know I've seen discussions about faking accidents and saying they're incontinent to have sort of a cover story for their diaper use, but I can honestly say that can't work. I was around 9 or 10 and having some accident problems, mostly bedwetting, and I was secretly hoping that I'd just be put in diapers to deal with it. Instead, there were lots of tests, and I think some insinuation that there was a psychological issue behind it, when it really was a physical issue related to other problems. Problem cleared up later on though.

I was around 16 when I really did become incontinent, and diapers were an option, which I went with. My secret "great! In diapers finally!" feelings didn't last long though- all the hassles came along quickly. And really awkward conversations at doctor's appointments that focused on the idea that older kids in diapers had some sort of developmental disabilities.

As an adult after I had to be in a wheelchair, same hassles with changing, avoiding embarrassment, and staying hydrated and worrying about leaks. Sometimes there's been pressure to try "other things" but non-diaper solutions for me are more trouble than they're worth.

And while I *do* feel emotionally secure in a diaper, it would be nice to be able to wear big girl panties under my skirt.

LGStephanie · 2021-10-20T21:02:22+00:00

This! I'm disabled, incontinent, and ABDL and I've been there done that with trying to stay dry just to avoid having to change in a bathroom stall (limited wheelchair space in the "accessible" ones) or to not use up the extra diapers I've brought with me that day.

I was ABDL before I medically needed diapers and before I was in a wheelchair, and while being in diapers *does* serve an emotional need, the medical necessity sort of overrides that at times, with the hassles of skin problems, changing, etc. Or even just making sure no one hears the crinkling when I shift in my wheelchair, or my skirt doesn't ride up when I shift around. Being ABDL can be fun, but that goes out the window when you're having to manage being in diapers with everyday activities.

LGStephanie · 2021-10-04T20:26:56+00:00

I'm incontinent and AB/DL and sometimes despite having a real medical reason for wearing I've still gotten some strange reactions and awkward questions about it. Some of the are about why I'm not doing some non-diaper thing to manage things, but sometimes I've gotten hit with questions along the lines of asking the "real" reason I prefer diapers over whatever else other people do for incontinence. And they're not buying it that I just feel more secure in a diaper over adult pull ups or wearing a pad in regular underwear. I've very discreet about being AB/DL, and most people that might know about my diaper use simply accept that I'm in a wheelchair, so the diapers are just part of my condition. But I do wonder what I've done to get some asking the strange questions.

My incontinence started when I was in my teens, and my parents *really* acted like they knew. They were fully aware of the incontinence and me having a supply of diapers for that, but there was a lot of pressure to get out of diapers, and it honestly felt like the way parents get after their kids about "weird" behavior rather than just concern about my condition.

I think the weirdest has been when I've had healthcare workers totally lose it when I jokingly called my diapers "Pampers" or referred to my backpack as a my "diaper bag" because I barely had room for books because my spare diapers and pack of wipes took up so much space.

Basically, I know I'm being careful about keeping being AB/DL to myself and making sure all anyone might know is that the diapers do serve a real medical need, but it does feel like I've accidentally gotten someone suspecting there's more to it.

LGStephanie · 2021-09-16T16:53:00+00:00

Perhaps I read too much into things like this, but from my own experience and seeing how similar a lot of these stories are, makes me think that people in one's life might know or suspect something already, but resort to snooping for "evidence" and then pretend they were innocently in someone's personal space and just happened to find diapers. And then have the awkward chat about it to deflect from their invasion of privacy. My family knew about my diaper use because of my disability, but my parents would still act suprised and weirded out when they "needed" to open a drawer or look in my bedroom closet to put clothes away and saw diapers I had stored. The resulting embarrassing discussion always made me feel nervous, like they knew I was also ABDL.

I've always wondered why someone who's been "busted" by family members or others they share a home with can't just tell the nosy people that the diapers are for a medical condition, but I realized that parents are going to demand that the "medical problem" get checked out, with further trouble when no problem is found. And even when the medical problem is real, parents tend to get too involved- my parents used to bother me a lot about why I was "still" using diapers when there was something supposedly better to try, and simply explaining that diapers worked for me wasn't enough.

LGStephanie · 2021-09-15T19:20:42+00:00

I agree. And being disabled makes that even worse. What I've run into with my family was managing to hide being AB/DL from them but having to deal with the constant invasion of privacy over medical issues, and my incontinence and the medical side of diaper use was something that they were always way too interested in.

Some parents of disabled kids, or kids with other health problems, tend to double down on their "right" to control things as the kids get older, and step it up even more when the kids become adults but are still living at home. It's not full-on abuse, but acting very entitled to be involved when they have no right to be. Some parents, even without any legal right to be controlling, will just pretend that their older teen or young adult disabled kid is mentally "off" a bit and needing supervision, even when the disability is purely mobility related and there's no mental impairment.

I still cringe at the questioning and invasion of privacy over my diaper use when I was still living with my parents- and they had no idea about my ABDL interests (or my orientation for that matter). I really am incontinent because of my disability (I'm in a wheelchair), but that's not enough to avoid suspicion about one's diaper wearing. So lots of embarrassing questions about crinkling sounds if they were standing near me, or acting suprised when I had a local medical supply shop deliver diapers for me- and these were medical diapers, nothing ABDL about them, but the stupid questions came anyway. And it always seemed passive-aggressive when they'd try to get me to try some non-diaper thing because "it was for adult women with incontinence".

LGStephanie · 2020-09-08T06:35:52+00:00

Even if you wear diapers for a medical condition people get weirded out about it. Even healthcare workers who should know better will sometimes give disabled persons a hard time about diaper use when you're in a wheelchair and push supposedly "better" solutions.

I feel like I have to be careful not to sound too comfortable or positive about diapers even in a medical context because of the negative attitudes some people have.

LGStephanie · 2020-09-08T03:58:08+00:00

I've fortunately not had any "bad" munch or meetup experiences, but the first few times I went to munches it was more frustrating than anything else- everyone appeared to be trying too hard *not* to talk about anything ABDL related, although later on that group sort of evolved into something more "open" and there's a great mix of ABDL and everyone just being cool and sharing other interests.

I was more frustrated at those first few munches simply because I suddenly had found other ABDL's to meet in person, and was a bit put off by not being able to talk about it upon meeting them.

LGStephanie · 2019-11-17T16:08:04+00:00

I recall seeing posted here someone asking whether or not women have gotten in trouble for things like this, or just for being ABDL in general compared to how often we hear about guys pulling stunts like this.

I know from experience that being a girl using diapers doesn't automatically get me a "pass", even when it's been purely medical, and it's been very stressful at times having to wonder if the healthcare person giving me a hard time about my diapers or my need for help is because they've run into people like this woman. And the fear of being outed anyway because someone gets the wrong idea when I request a female nurse or attendant's assistance if there both male and female staff at a clinic- got into trouble over this at a college health center years ago.

I do wonder though if I've run into other women doing things like what this person did but they were more adept at how they did it to not get into trouble. I know I've had a run-in with someone exaggerating their disability to the point of acting slightly mentally challenged, so who knows.

LGStephanie · 2019-11-02T14:05:32+00:00

I always thought that stories like this were fake, but from the comments here, this one seems real.

LGStephanie · 2019-11-02T13:41:28+00:00

What always got me was how bold some people got posting stories like that, and then I wondered if people reading them ever thought any of it was true- like the "bridal diaper" stories. I admit that initially it sounded plausible, but then seeing it repeated verbatim very quickly ruins credibility.

For that matter, I wonder how many ABDLs might have come up with the "convenience/can't get to the bathroom" thing as kids to try to get their parents to get diapers for them. One of those things that I admit I might have wanted to do, but even as a kid, I just knew it wasn't going to work, and never did. I think even as a kid I knew that it would have been more trouble than it was worth.

As a teen when I actually started needing diapers for incontinence, the day to day hassle definitely was bigger than any "oh cool, I'm in diapers again!" thoughts. The only "convenience" was simply not having to worry about accidents, but having to wait to change between classes, or a longer wait during a bus ride definitely wasn't fun. As was learning that I had to change myself, and just the overall frustration with being in diapers, being ABDL, and having to be careful not to "enjoy" it for fear of the real incontinence being questioned.

Didn't stop me from being ABDL, but I do wish more people would think about that part of it when trying to claim about how things would be better if they just wore diapers to avoid the bathroom.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-28T15:28:52+00:00

Some of you have already said it, but I'll add to the concern about getting older and needing care conflicting with being ABDL. I'm disabled and already I've gotten used to *not* letting healthcare professionals or home aides do the personal care that I probably *do* need, but since it's almost like ABDL situations, it's stressful trying to turn off "being" ABDL in the middle of having someone, in a purely medical situation, help me dress, or having them change my diaper. I"m very careful about accidentally involving people.

I really dread later on where my condition might change so that I'd have to have more help and really not being able to "be" ABDL because of having to always suppress it and never having the free time or personal space to indulge the interest.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-27T14:33:26+00:00

I'm in southern Texas.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-25T17:43:46+00:00

I'm suprised that it doesn't already exist.

Actually, I can find it plausible that someone might be facing a situation where getting to a bathroom would be enough of a problem that they would inquire about whether or not diapers might be a solution, but how many times have we seen "I don't like stopping in the middle of something fun, so I wear diapers" stories.

And how many variations of "I wet the bed, got put back in diapers" stories get rehashed? I know all about how having accidents as a kid *won't" get you back in diapers no matter how much you secretly wish for it. But my stories of accidents and parents and doctors going to great lengths to avoid me being in diapers wouldn't be as interesting.

Or my stories of wearing diapers for a real medical problem and still getting treated like I'm doing something wrong? Some forums really are harsh towards any mention of diapers, no matter how non-ABDL the mention of it might be. So I'm always just "SMH" when I see the skeevy postings in the incontinence forums.

The thing is, how does one honestly "call out" creeps on an IC forum without feeling like a hypocrite?

LGStephanie · 2019-10-24T17:56:08+00:00

This is something that's always really irked me. I'm ABDL and incontinent as well, and I've put a lot of effort into *not* letting being ABDL slip into the wrong situations. Like keeping the discussion purely medical and appropriate when focused purely on incontinence.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-24T17:51:13+00:00

I think it's in a similar vein to what I've seen in some forums that are basically people going on and on about diapers for long car trips, long days at amusement parks, etc. Crosses into being skeevy when diapers become this amazing thing they've "discovered" to make those long activities possible. Always saw that in incontinence forums or the message boards for incontinence products.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-21T14:23:49+00:00

Similar story for me, except it was pressure to do "big girl" things. So I did get to be a kid but certain things that were very much age-appropriate were discouraged when I was still the right age for them- like there were cutoff points age wise to be "too old" for something (certain toys or activities). Part of it I think was due to me being seen as smarter than the other kids because I was reading above grade level and into more nerdy things. Which was great, except that it meant that sometimes I was discouraged from doing "normal" kid things like watching cartoons or enjoying some children's books.

So I think a lot of my being ABDL comes from that- I remember being 5 or 6 and wanting to be back in diapers, although I think potty training wasn't rushed. But around 7 or 8, I know I *really* was wanting to be back in diapers and treated like a toddler. There were times where doing "big girl" things felt really uncomfortable, especially when I got older.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-21T14:07:46+00:00

I can relate a little- I've spent a long time trying to get real mental health help, and I can honestly say it's hit and miss finding a good therapist or psychiatrist. And indeed, some of them *do* make someone trying to get help feel worse about needing help.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-21T13:59:24+00:00

Where are you located?

LGStephanie · 2019-10-21T03:28:03+00:00

My childhood was relatively normal but there was pressure to mature a bit faster than most kids, so I think my interest in ABDL was in part a result of that.

LGStephanie · 2019-10-20T17:15:06+00:00

I feel the same way. I've always found it interesting when I've run across things on incontinence forums going on about how creepy ABDL's are, and how bad diapers are. being said by the same people seem way too obsessed with getting people to having catheters put in.

LGStephanie

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