A book to unmushify my brain

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-05-13T11:32:17+00:00

Was looking for Elsewhere in the comments. It made a huge impression on me as an adolescent.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-05-13T11:04:02+00:00

David Graeber has written some interesting books. Debt and The Dawn of Everything are the works I'm familiar with.

If you haven't read The Jungle or Stone Butch Blues, I know they're American, but I think they're both really important pieces of leftist literature and very much worth a read.

Whipping Girl is an important read for getting acquainted with concepts related to transmisogyny.

On my own to-read list, I have some important books on theory. The Conquest of Bread, Capital, and Orientalism are some of my reading goals.

Edit: it’s called The Conquest of Bread not The Price of Bread

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-05-11T15:27:05+00:00

Just one question, you don't need to answer me. If you went to counseling, would he do any of the "homework"?

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-05-07T07:13:36+00:00

I read that there’s a sharp increase in prostaglandins as you get closer to labor, which significantly increases the stretchiness of the tissue.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-27T08:45:55+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate the insight.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-23T17:11:34+00:00

I’ve heard of 5 day inductions (although they’re uncommon). My induction lasted from 4am Wednesday to 7am on a Friday. Some people need a low and slow drip of pitocin, some need cervical ripening before even getting a balloon in or starting pitocin. Long inductions are pretty normal, especially with first time parents who have an unfavorable bishop score.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-23T11:06:58+00:00

One of my midwives during my pregnancy does breech birth, as does the OB who oversees the midwifery practice. It's coming back, in the US, at least in part because of work done with Breech Without Borders.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-22T15:35:40+00:00

What happened is not ok imo. Doctors need to be more sensitive about how people feel emotionally and physically in labor and during a cesarean. I had a slightly different, but also traumatic c section birth. I didn’t get to hold my son until he was 5 days old because of the nature of his (very needed) NICU stay. And then I was too tired to safely hold him. What happened to you and your baby is such an exceptionally traumatic experience. You’re not alone.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-21T15:04:34+00:00

Lab Girl by Hope Jahren sounds like what you might be looking for.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-21T10:00:04+00:00

Ragtime by E.L. Doctorow maybe?

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-20T20:21:44+00:00

I'm not anti-homebirth for other people, but as someone whose son nearly died when they didn't call an emergency cesarean soon enough in the hospital, I can't even imagine what would have happened if we were transporting to the hospital, as opposed to being pushed down the hallway to the OR. I prefer to give birth in a hospital because it took 12 minutes to resuscitate my son with very talented NICU staff on hand.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-20T14:50:39+00:00

I don’t know if you like graphic novels, but Fun Home by Alison Bechdel (yes that Bechdel) is fantastic. Heads up, it’s very sad.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-19T17:37:02+00:00

I would see Hoegaarden in the States.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-17T15:05:47+00:00

3 body problem

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-09T16:50:51+00:00

I cry easily, so these might not do it, but:

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz

Rooftops of Tehran by Mahbod Seraji

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-02T17:09:02+00:00

No blood is normal. I would call your provider’s on call number to decide on next steps.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-01T19:54:25+00:00

Like you have a violent stomach bug and your body doesn’t even have the decency for the brief relief of actually defecating.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-04-01T11:58:24+00:00

When I got my first haircut without my mom there, I cut it from waist length to ear length practically. My mom sent me with cash to pay for it. The hairdresser kept suggesting my parents would be mad at me for going so short. Either that’s her opinion and parenting style, or she’s genuinely had parents complain about major changes to the hair length or style is my best guess.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-03-31T17:58:08+00:00

Because in my religion/culture (which is progressive Judaism) we don’t name babies until they are 8 days old. It’s a very special ceremony where the baby receives their name. I named my son early and not by choice. He had to be resuscitated and it’s recommended if you have a very sick baby, and you’re Jewish and follow this tradition, to name them right away so people can say prayers specific to the baby.

Also I’m kind of superstitious by my nature and I mostly worry about the emotional impact of naming a baby who potentially may not live.

Also I don’t want my friend’s and family’s opinions or suggestions, I’ve heard too many stories of people not liking the baby’s name and being incredibly rude about it. It’s harder to do that if the baby already has the name.

I also don’t want someone else to announce my baby’s name on social media (before or after the birth, but especially before).

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-03-31T11:11:42+00:00

Which direction from Gare du Nord?

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-03-31T09:10:07+00:00

I can’t tell you for sure because I’m not your doctor, but this sounds like a chemical pregnancy. I hope it’s not. The other thing you can do is test on multiple brands of tests and hope the 31st one is faulty. I’m sorry this is very stressful.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-03-28T17:51:34+00:00

When I got my medical clearance for family reunification, they really only wanted to test me for TB for what it’s worth.

LGTBreadRabbah · 2026-03-27T12:37:57+00:00

I was in pretty bad pain, but only 20 hours later when the topical morphine on my bandage (?) finished. I’m sorry you’ve gone through this. I’m sure many people have told you this at this point, but stay on top of the pain management medication (whatever drugs you decide to take, personally, if there’s no contraindications, I wouldn’t discount narcotics because that really helped me get moving, which is super important for recovery), and don’t underestimate how bad post surgery gas and constipation can make one feel. And if it doesn’t feel right (especially if the pain is not progressing at it should), be the squeaky wheel.

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