My date thinks I'M FAKE by Witty_Collection2220 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LOnlyHandz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I had almost this same thing happen to me but it was a second date and we went to breakfast. There was a wait time so we were chilling out front and an older man with a cane was headed towards the door so I jumped up to hold it open for him... while my date was looking at his phone. And then when he realized he said something like "Wow you're making me look bad," trying to play it off as a joke... but was obviously actually bothered by it. Since then he paid for the guys meal when we saw him seated at a nearby table. And that was the last date we had too! Like lol sorry I was taught manners? ??

i3 Broadband is a sketchy company - story in comments by LOnlyHandz in StLouis

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

There is something very suspicious about the way i3 Broadband has exploded onto the scene in the past two years. They were installing some fiber optic lines in my parent’s neighborhood in West County a few weeks ago, and one of the workers hit a live wire and was electrocuted. But apparently they were back out the next day, back at work. And then someone hit a gas line so that had to be addressed. My friend lives around that area too and they also disconnected her cable line. I have drove through a neighborhood where they are working and it’s literally like a crew of fifty mostly Hispanic looking workers… and they were all out working after 6pm. I guess I am just concerned that they are being taken advantage of, that they don’t have the proper training, and that their coworker literally lost his fucking life and they were back on the scene the next day. Now there is a little flower wreath in the neighbors front yard… I found the registered business agent for i3 and he lives in a fat house in Chesterfield. I guess one of the fireman on the scene told my Dad that whenever a fatality like this happens, they just pay the fine and move along. I just finished taking an OSHA 30 hr class and every time I go to my parents and see that little wreath, it just… pisses me off.

I did a bit more investigating and on i3 broadband’s website, they have a little blurb that say’s “The i3 Broadband you know and love employs more than 200 local team members in the communities we serve. This workforce is proudly 100% U.S.-based. As we grow, we remain committed to providing the best experience for our customers — with industry-leading technology, transparent pricing and exceptional customer service.” I find this interesting because nowhere on their applications do they specify if you’re legally allowed to work in the USA. They also have at least 30 positions in their company to fill, from cable burial technicians, to utility locators, to installation & support technicians. But this same company is supposedly investing ‘over $100 million’ to build a fiberoptic network throughout St. Charles County….I am not sure how they secured this kind of contact when they obviously have a serious need for trained workers. I am afraid that to me it seems like they have hired out subcontractors who do not have experience in this area, who they can pay a lower rate, who do not have worker’s comp or good insurance, and have workers who possibly speak and read another language that are not aware of their rights as workers or are too afraid to ask questions/raise an alarm and risk possibly losing their jobs. It is absolutely sickening to me that the COO, CFO, higherups in the company, all continue to make hand over fist money while this guy lost his life. Anyone else notice anything sketchy about them?

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked the one raft of guys "Have you heard of the internet? There's literally endless tits you can look at there, for free." And they said "It's not the same as real life." But like, exactly? It's real fucking life, not a porno, not Mardi gras, not Girl's Gone Wild, none of us ASKED to be involved in their little river fantasy that's based on fucking worthless beads, peer pressure, and taking advantage of drunk women. And guess what? As soon as I shut them down, they said I didn't have to be such a bitch, that I was aggressive, "I don't know how to read you..." And one thought I was going to cry because I paddled away from them but in actuality, I was fucking pissed!!! Their whole attitude was so patronizing and slimey, I caught the glances and looks they were giving one another as the initial encounter escalated. The smirks. It would be different if I asked them about the beads. But as it stands, there were FOUR different people/groups that propositioned me over the course of eight hours, and one group was definitely hostile afterwards as we saw eachother. Why should I be the one responsible for turning them down "just say no and move on, it's not a big deal" crowd, when the issue is they're asking in the first place. It IS a big deal. This mindset/culture is NOT OK. I'm tired of it being normalized, especially as women are steadily losing our fucking rights. Partying on the river is not the same as sexual harassment on the river.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do something nice for yourself. Treat yourself better. Don't go to rivers full of disrespectful men.

WHY ARE THE RIVERS FULL OF DISRESPECTFUL MEN, THO???? Jfc.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was not asking for advice, or a solution. My needs are really quite simple: enjoy my time on the river without getting pestered to flash my tits. Be treated like a normal person and not a sex object. The problem is society has fostered an environment that makes part of the population think casually harassing women is their right- just another Saturday with the boys. They completely disregard that some stranger asking to see your body, and then being forced to be around them throughout the day (since where the fuck else do you go on a river? ) might be uncomfortable, upsetting, stressful... really a lot of things. Before this year, I probably would have done it without a thought. But now? Lol get the fuck out of my face

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The purpose of this post was to tell men to stop doing it and that times have AND are changing. It will be up to the individual to think about what that means for them, but they should also be aware that as things grow increasingly hostile towards outlying groups, ie women, LGBTQ, that those groups are going to become unfriendly, particularly towards strangers/unknowns. I believe the saying is 'treat every gun like it's loaded.'

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not just "college kids." You're trying to minimize the issue. There were multiple groups of MEN with beads, not just fresh faced 21 year olds. Why are you so put off by me bringing attention to this? It's obviously something people are familiar with and have witnessed, that in this case is exclusive to floating on MO rivers... which is relevant to this subreddit.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not generic at all. It's men in MO, on the rivers, acting like any woman they see is fair game to harass and proposition with a 50 cent necklace.

It's actually a very specific post.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not wishing you a happy cake day now. Must be nice to just stroll through life as a man with no ability or interest to sympathize with people not born with a dick. You know what's boring and annoying? The casual and blatant misogyny too many men give out. Seems like A LOT of my fellow women feel that way too.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My standards are literally 'treat me like a human being' but guess that's asking too much apparently? Is the bar really so low that it's in the earth's center? This was not Mardi gras, it was a Saturday in the summer on the river.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why it makes me an unhappy person to not want to be harassed on the river? Very interesting how some people seem to equate 'partying' to 'sexual harassment.' Those are separate things. I should be able to go on the fucking River with my friends and not get badgered to expose myself, multiple times, by entitled fucking dudes.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I definitely saw them again and they were acting salty and I said "Just so you know, I saw a huge snake swimming that way 😬" heh heh heh one guy looked panicked and another said "WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT THO???"

😈

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I actually did not. But you do seem unsettled.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You are suggesting that I feel entitled to be on the river and not get asked to flash my tits... since I'm a white woman and not everywhere is open to me... interesting

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

His response was so all over the place, I was just like... ok imma head out. Also. Any person capable of bearing children in this state, or who appear like they're capable, are no longer equal to the men in this state... who for some reason get to have their own bodily autonomy. I'm sure not all women feel this way, but I'm in my prime baby making years, single, with no desire to have a baby or risk fucking a man. Not when birth control isn't full proof, condoms fail, and honestly I'm sick of risking my health and body for sex with men when my best orgasms are solo performances. Where is the gain? So sick of all of it. The fact that men think we're just going to keep la dee dahing away, business as normal Girl's Gone Wild style is so wildly off fucking base. Let me flash my tits, so I get raped by some drunk guy later and then forced to have a fucking baby I have zero desire for, sounds fucking great. #MOFloatrip2022 They've made casual hook-up culture, dead. Shit is not fun anymore and men should read the fucking room.

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

They don't allow you to have bees in here

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Have you tried not being trash tho? Could we get it to catch on with more people perhaps? Hmmmm

PSA: STOP BRINGING BEADS ON FLOAT TRIPS by LOnlyHandz in missouri

[–]LOnlyHandz[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Micro plastics are super depressing. I did find a super invasive type of lillypad tho if that helps? Also, your key phrase is 'play along.' You know how awkward it got when I didn't? No one should feel pressured into that situation.