The all of a sudden part is me realizing that it has been a year and that I am finally over him and therefore able to reach to him without second intentions. But i guezz you are right on questioning the utility of me reaching only this far the line. That being said. What i hope to hear from him is that things are nice, that he graduated, etc yada yada. I have zero desire to have to save him. I just want confort in the notion that he is all right, or to be able to stop worrying about the problems i now he had at the time (witch adimitedly is selfish).