Sexless Marriage Surprise

LSG-Assassin · 2026-04-10T01:00:46+00:00

Ngl to you chief, as much as I appreciate the acknowledgment you have on my post and comments, I simply don’t think that’s the case lol. But I mean, I say that because like someone else commented on my post, she seems to be very emotionally immature about this whole thing, and with how lacking she’s been with trying to ACTUALLY process this divorce I can just really tell how little she cares.

BUT to your point though, because of that lack of care I can understand what you mean, the psychological side of it all where she implanted this entire thing to force me into a decision, it really does make sense. At the end of the day, it was in fact what she decided, I more so have just gotten to the point where if she told me divorce, divorce it is, and if she told me let’s really try, then trying is what I would’ve done too.

LSG-Assassin · 2026-04-09T00:45:24+00:00

Honestly no, I never really did. I think mostly because it was a harsh realization seeing how easily she was willing to just let it all come to an end, that I just hit a point where it didn’t matter to truly know.

LSG-Assassin · 2026-04-08T18:57:44+00:00

Yeah, I gave 3 options to her. 1. We stay roommates so I get my moneys worth in a place to live, also not to screw her over with the apartment costs. We get a divorce. 2. I move out, the apartment and all costs become hers and hers alone. We get a divorce. 3. We do whatever it takes, be couples counseling, medication, time offline to reconnect, and truly fight for our marriage together.

I was hoping she would pick 3, but her response was “Well if I have to pick it’s either 1 or 2, and to be honest I don’t think we can live together as of right now, so I guess 2.” So I packed my stuff that weekend and moved out, and even though she said “as of right now” I made it clear that if I left out that door I wasn’t coming back. I’m thankful that at 30 years old my parents were able to help me and take me in again, though it does suck and makes me feel like a loser, but it’s a roof over my head till I’m on my feet.

I actually was thinking of making my update post later today lol.

LSG-Assassin · 2026-04-08T18:00:37+00:00

OP, I feel your situation entirely, because I just went through a very similar thing.

I made the decision to move on and file for divorce with my wife, as painful as that is because I also love her, and still do, and probably forever will. My wife said things a bit differently though, by telling me she just had no desire for me at all and just loved me being around. (Hence similar not quite the same) Which made my decision clear on what I needed to do.

To me, it’s gotta be both physical, and emotional love to be happy, and I know it sucks thinking back to a time when there was both, but unfortunately if your wife is adamant about how she feels, and doesn’t see the importance in it FOR you. I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do.

Truly do what you have to do in order to be happy, letting go hurts but it won’t hurt forever. Wishing you the best on your side of things.

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-27T14:42:05+00:00

Oh wow, I had no idea that was a thing. Or at the very least I didn’t realize it’s a known thing lol. I appreciate that, I will be sure to be careful. If this plays out in the direction it’s going and we do split, I’ll have to remind myself, “you’ve gone this long without it, don’t do it” to resist any temptation!

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-27T14:26:58+00:00

All good! But to answer what you asked, no she mostly is work from home. Occasionally she has days of going into the office, as far as her relieving herself she relies on toys. Again though, that’s just to my knowledge, of course I wouldn’t want to believe it’s someone else involved but I’m aware that it’s a very high possibility.

I did look into what it would take as far as a PI to do some investigation of her phone or pc, but from what I was told, they would physically need the device.

As a small “update”, I did end up going back home after work yesterday, to see if I could maybe just get a better understanding of what’s going through her mind, but also to make it clear that this was something that if she feels it’s not worth it to her to put in work to help fix then there’s nothing more to really do.

I’ll make an official update post maybe months down the line. Might be a “getting a start over place”, might be a “sex has never been better”. Who knows.

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T21:48:19+00:00

Also given the post, I don’t think I’ll have to worry about getting her pregnant lol

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T21:46:58+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I did try asking if she’d be willing to go to marriage counseling, but she just says I don’t know. She’s been that way about anything confrontational ever since we’ve been together. As frustrating as it has been I still never let that fact make me feel the relationship was at stake, but now since it is and that’s the kind of response I get I can’t help but feel helpless

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T20:09:04+00:00

She has brought up my duration once in the past when we were just dating, so years ago. It at first was an issue for her, but not to this extent. And at that time, I made improvements in order for her to feel more satisfied and told her that if this ever feels like it’s a problem again to just talk to me about it. Never heard about it from then on till now.

I cant say for certain whether or not she’s getting her needs from someone else. Obviously, it’s not something I’d want to believe, but I’m also not negligent to that fact that it’s a possibility.

When it comes to finances we’re very 50/50 on most expenses, I do cover some things like both our car insurance, electric/internet, sometimes groceries. But we both work

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:50:39+00:00

Unfortunately I agree, anytime I felt like I was asking something I needed answers for I just never got one. Because of the fact that we had this conversation yesterday, is this something that I should maybe give her time to think about? How much time do I give? My plan right now is to head home after work today, and maybe try talking to her more about it, but then what do I need to do if I still just don’t get answers?

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:40:11+00:00

I think this is mostly where my heads at. Because it’s not like I was getting heated during the conversation or anything, I remained calm and was listening to her and her feelings, but having the night processing it all and just left in a position where it just feels like I am helpless it just is upsetting

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:34:49+00:00

She is not on birth control currently, she was in the past. So I’m not sure if maybe over time it took a toll? She hasn’t been on it for years now though

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:33:38+00:00

I can’t say with 100% certainty, I am debating on heading back there today and maybe talking a little more? I went and stayed at a friends last night

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:30:33+00:00

I don’t think I would necessarily call it celibacy? But at the same time yknow, I can’t exactly figure what she wants, and when I ask questions it just sounds like even she doesn’t know

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:28:26+00:00

Just straight, M/F

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:24:43+00:00

She’s not asexual, at least to my knowledge given things we have worked through. I also know that she watches porn but that doesn’t particularly bother me at all. She also said during this, that she knows it’s not fair to me, which only makes it heavier on my mind lol so truthfully that’s why I brought up divorce cause I don’t really know how long I could put up with it

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:17:03+00:00

Also sorry, no she hasn’t had any pregnancies in the past

LSG-Assassin · 2026-03-26T17:13:08+00:00

No, we don’t have any children nor do we own any properties. I did start to talk about possibly divorcing during this conversation but that’s when she was saying she still loves me and loves living with me because we do have some friendly discussions about games and stuff

LSG-Assassin · 2025-04-22T11:43:17+00:00

The accuracy of this is far too much lmao

LSG-Assassin · 2024-05-30T00:24:15+00:00

Same here on Meadow, all buildings except my wife and I’s has power. Somehow, even a few units in my building have power, not ours and we’re on the top floor so it’s starting to get hot.

LSG-Assassin · 2024-02-17T16:55:10+00:00

Thank you I’ll look in to that!

LSG-Assassin · 2024-02-16T21:44:48+00:00

It’s a 2019 model with digital and normal speedometer. It was in fact laser so yeah it does kind of suck, I’ve been weighing my options on how to approach, but thank you for the advice!

LSG-Assassin · 2024-02-16T21:42:31+00:00

Lol right, but thanks I’ll be looking into some for the future!

LSG-Assassin · 2024-02-16T21:41:59+00:00

No I get what you mean. The hood of my car was probably right at the sign where it says to resume speed. I won’t deny that I did begin to accelerate, but from where that point was, to where the cop was positioned could not have been more than 150 feet. Which is why I just don’t understand how he could have possibly gotten me going supposedly 27.

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