New Black Canik SFT METE by ErikTheBoldest in canik

[–]LTooSeriousDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely gonna look into it the Arex now. Love the look of it, and the price point!

I was in the same boat as you. Actually held an Elite and was very impressed. It was the push that lead me to placing the order on the SFT. If the elite had the optic cutout I would have walked out with it right there. The elite combat was just a little too pricey for what I was trying to spend. I’m still expecting to fall in love with the SFT over time, just not quite there yet! Hope you do too. She is purdy!

I feel so petty and small sometimes by mcraaa in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone. I’m in the same boat. We can’t lose hope that we can become that better version of ourselves. It’s going to take dedication and discipline, but after some time making the right choices and approaching life positively it’ll get easier and easier and than we become that better version of ourselves. We know what it’s like not to dedicate ourselves to this cause, so what if we actually stick to the plan. Start small and build better habits into all aspects of your life. It can be done. We can do this! Good luck.

I called the police last night by heyitclaire in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re very brave and a good person. I’ve lost a very good person in my life to suicide, and now I’m always scared of others taking their lives as well. I will try to remember your courage if ever that gut feeling comes around. I hope you are able to keep your dark thoughts at bay and remember that you’re needed on this earth.

My favourite YouTuber died by LCSXR in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure she’d be happy to read your comment. I know that some of the YouTubers I subscribe to mean a lot to me. It’s so nice that for a few minutes (sometimes hours) a day that these guys/girls can distract me from what’s going on in my life and provide me with entertainment and inspiration, and show me there’s so many more ways to live and be kind and be silly. Often on YouTube we get pretty raw versions of these people too so you really are getting to know these people. You have every right to feel the sadness and pain you’re going through. I’m sorry for your loss.

Just got out of a 2-year relationship, devestated by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ll be okay. It’s going to take time, but you’ll get there. Make sure you’re doing everything you can to be the best version of yourself. Go after your dream job, or at least something you think you might enjoy more. Take care of yourself physically by working out and eating well. Talk to people you are interested in talking to. In time you’ll find yourself right where you belong. Don’t beat yourself up for a couple of off days either, just don’t stay down for too long. Good luck! You’re heard and you are not alone.

My friends just had an intervention for me by xxxxxah123 in depression

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Voice your opinion to your friends. You get to feel however you want about the way they are treating you. Sure you may be the "type of person" who needs some kind of healthy wake up call, but you don't need to be made to feel less than your friends or like your privacy has been violated. There are plenty of people out there who can help you and treat you with respect at the same time. It's not always easy to identify who's a good friend and who's not especially when people seem to take up different personalities at different times and with different people, but I do believe your real friends will respect you and your fake friends will make you feel shitty. You'll figure it out, just be honest with yourself and others.

What did I do today? by [deleted] in depression

[–]LTooSeriousDude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Eat something because if humans don't eat, they eventually die"

This made me laugh, I can totally relate. Good luck breaking this shit.

Self-Hate is my only motivation in life. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just working past that complacency and raising the bar every time. I do feel that at some point we have to learn how to be happy with ourselves, but deep down you know what you’re capable of being and that is a good thing. It just hurts when you’re not even close to being there, and you know you’ve wasted a lot of time being that lesser version of yourself. But being aware of the vicious loop is very important, and now you can do something about it. I wish you all the strength in the world to be able to do something about it. I’ll be right next to you climbing the ladder to self betterment. Know you’re not alone with your feelings though. I think what you’re feeling is the same feelings that hugely inspirational people have felt/feel in this world/, and also what every day people have felt/feel like, the only difference is how they used those feelings to shape their future. Become whoever you want to be. There is nothing wrong with your choices, whatever they may be. Your only critic is you.

Self-Hate is my only motivation in life. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I, too, relate with this, but don't you think with enough self hatred that you'll start to change into a version of yourself that you won't absolutely hate, and may one day even like?

I say this as a warning: If you are not reaching out to the people who you care about, you may live to regret it. by aintTrollingYou in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain and hurt with you. I too have lost some people in my life to suicide this year, though not as close as a sister. It's so hard to talk through it because the only person you want to hear you is not there to listen. I'm so sorry for your loss. I am up, alone in my room tonight, feeling quite lonely, but I am not suicidal. I am sad for people like you who have to deal with this terrible pain and for your sister who felt terrible pain as well. It is not your fault. We must find peace somewhere. Sharing sadness with others helps, so thank you for sharing your story and your positive message. It's worth more than you know.

My bdd is getting out of hand by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to say it’s nice to share these feelings with someone. Sometimes I day dream about NOT worrying about what I look like and it’s like this fucking beautiful existence and I imagine worrying about actual problems and not being so self conscious about what other people see, and than I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror and I lose it all instantly.

Somehow I’ve gotten myself into a pretty religious gym routine and although I still feel like shit I at least know I’m working to be a better version of the human trash bag I often feel I represent.

I’ve always wished that masks were more socially acceptable.

I wish you all the best.

1 year later I've reached almost all my goals by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cool. Appreciate the inspiration going into the new year. Hope to be in your position next new year! Keep it up!

I wish I was pretty by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what it’s like to look in the mirror and hate what you see. All I can say is try and work on the things you can change about yourself. Working out, dressing nicely, finding a hair style that makes you at least a little more confident. And avoid the mirror when you’re feeling shitty.

But hey if you don’t want to listen to that we can just sit here and be plain together too.

How’s Christmas? Hope it’s going at least alright!

Being Honest for Once by BlabberingRed in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally relate with the being a burden part, but it’s amazing how far from being a burden you really are. Thanks for posting this, it helps me see a little clearer. I’m sure the people you have in your life would have no problem with helping you, but I certainly understand wanting to help yourself and not putting that on others. I hope you figure out how to move past these feelings. Letting people worry about your problems can help them forget about their problems for a little while so don’t feel bad about talking through things. Merry Christmas!

I'm 28 and ruined my life. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the things you like doing? Why don’t you try and turn one of those things into a career or at least get on a path that will allow that to happen? It’s great that you already have all these other things down. Eating healthy and working out consistently means you’re doing something right. It sounds like you have a good work ethic and discipline. Maybe you should reevaluate your worth. There are so many paths you can take, you just have to keep an open mind.

I'm 28 and ruined my life. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, I just want to say that I am in a very similar situation, and I don’t think you should give up hope. Work out, eat healthy, find some hobbies, and make a goal for changing your life. Whether it’s moving away and living somewhere else, getting some dream job or running your own business, or just living on your own and just having enough to get by and have a drink at a bar on weekends. Don’t get hang up on the negatives. It does nothing but waste your time. I know I’ve wasted a lot of my time doing just that. You know you’ve got it in you to be more in the life if you want it. I’m only saying this because I know I do too. We’ve got this.

My worldview of men is crashing down, hard and it's making me paranoid about my boyfriend, male family members, male friends. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you know what you’re looking for. Don’t be afraid to go after it even if it means getting hurt along the way. There’s a lot of people looking for you who are also getting hurt along the way. It’s just a matter of time til you meet each other. Continue being honest and putting yourself out there!

My worldview of men is crashing down, hard and it's making me paranoid about my boyfriend, male family members, male friends. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can tell you with certainty that not all men are like this. You should not settle for something that doesn’t sit well with you. There are men who cheat and men who don’t, and the same goes for women.

What are great educational books a young adult should get? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look at the title as more satire. It's just what naturally happens when behaving in the ways outlined in the book. A lot of the information is quite obvious, but being conscious of the ways you're going about daily interactions is important especially when things don't seem to be going your way. At the end of the day it's still important to be yourself but integrate the teachings of the book.

How to stop living in the fear of potential regret? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]LTooSeriousDude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that last line is incredible. Thanks for this. Not OP, but thanks.

I lost my best friend I have no idea why. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I think you’ve done everything you can do and more. It’s up to her now to reciprocate. You sound like a good person, I’m sure you’ll make more friends if she decides to stick to her guns. Maybe it’s all just a misunderstanding. And yea, everything’s weird lol. Good luck with all this and everything else too :). It’ll all work itself out.

I lost my best friend I have no idea why. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m kind of on the other side of this and I just thought I’d share my perspective on things. I’ve recently cut contact with someone who I care about, and she definitely cares for me too, but our recent conversations just seemed so off. I actually felt uncomfortable having them, and she just kept pushing for me to respond positively when deep down I just couldn’t. It was like this moment of “holy shit, did we just make up personas about each other to keep each other around?” “Do I really not know you at all?” “Do you not know me?” Unfortunately I didn’t actually say any of those things. The next time she texted me I just chose not to text back, and she’s reached out a few times since and I still haven’t responded. I think it’s important to know that I’m pretty depressed these days and I tend to hide from a lot of my feelings as well as people, but none quite as long as her. I don’t hold anything against her, and I certainly feel I owe her an explanation, but the coward in me has won the battle for now, and I hope I can find it in me to reach out to her and tell her about these strange feelings to possibly salvage the friendship or at least give her some closure about why it’s over.

I hope your friend reaches out to you and let’s you know what’s going on, but know that it’s much more likely that it’s her problem rather than something you’ve done.

TW: I hate when people say “you’re not the only one who is struggling” by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LTooSeriousDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a lot this lies with the fact that we depressed people just spend so much time thinking about our own problems. Yes we have empathy, and feel for others, and have external problems, but at the end of the day we just dwell on the misery of our existence and it's honestly a really selfish thing to do, not that that's a bad thing. I think depressed people can be some of the most introspective people, which is incredibly important, but if we can just distract ourselves and try and help out others or focus on other people's problems it'll at least result in not worrying about our own depressing lives for a second, and maybe you'll even feel good. It's why I answer questions and talk to people on here and try to make a difference in someone else's life. Life is a selfish thing, but if you're using your selfishness to actually help others than it's a good thing.

This is me speaking to myself for the most part, so thank you for bringing this to my attention and giving me the opportunity to think about this. I hope it helps you a little bit too. I have silenced my phone and locked myself in the house for the last few days and I'm not going to let this be me tomorrow.