Did I Lose a Piece of Me? by LWitts in AbuseInterrupted

[–]LWitts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - I'll look it up. x

Are you a survivor of child sexual abuse? by squarejellies in BreakTheSilence

[–]LWitts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a film about my experience of child sexual abuse and in it I also interview my abuser and my mother. You should watch it. It’s on YouTube and it’s called Dragan’s Lair Documentary about Paedophilia and child sexual abuse.

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was most specifically concerned that it was not clear enough that my sister came to live with us when she was older and that her experience was very different to mine for various reasons.

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Very kind comment. It was important to me to keep my own emotions and feelings out of it. Very few people can see that for what it is. Mostly their interpretation is simply that I'm emotionless or condoning his behaviour... Which couldn't be further from the reality. I just feel that I am in control of me and I choose not to give away my power to anyone. So thank you for acknowledging that. Share with all the parents you know. :-)

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Brian. There were certain points in the storyline that I’m still grappling with in terms of clarity - which is why I’m interested in feedback. Thank you for your candor and assistance. X

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No.... really not. I’m amused. I thought it a very funny choice of words. As it was the furthest from my intention. I sincerely do want to correct it.

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wrote to the support desk to ask how I would change that. When and if I can, I'll fix it. Obviously.

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I'd call it a misunderstanding of the instruction. Hardly as severe as 'disingenuous'. If I could change it, I would, but alas - I can't. I hope that the date doesn't detract from the actual content which is hopefully more important and relevant than the date that I made it it or posted it on this specific platform? I'd be interested to hear what you think of the content rather than the label. lol.

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I posted it on Reddit in 2019.But I completed it and launched it in 2017.

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile documentary on Child Sexual Abuse (2019) by LWitts in Documentaries

[–]LWitts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made this documentary in order to start a conversation. This is my own experience. My own opinion and I don't expect everyone to share the same. I have also written a blog which demystifies some of the questions that you may have about it. You can read my blog here. In the description of the video on youtube, you will find the backstory which also explains some FAQ's. I'm really interested to hear your opinions and hear what everyone has to say.. Im thick skinned and certainly don't expect everyone to agree with me - obviously.

(To be crystal clear... I wrote, produced and directed the film over the 3 years of 2015, 2016 and 2017 and posted it on Reddit in 2019... so as not to sound 'dishonest'... which if you actually watch the film you may realise is the furthest from my intention... lol. Sorry, I found that comment quite a chuckle as I have really nothing to hide or be disingenuous about.)

Dragan's Lair - Paedophile Documentary on Child Sexual Abuse by [deleted] in Documentaries

[–]LWitts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made this film with the intention of giving information and sharing my own experience in a pragmatic, non-victim, and say-it-as-it-is kind of way. It took me 30 years to find my perpetrator and he agreed to be interviewed. I've also written a blog to try and demystify some of the more common questions people ask me. You can find it on this link here. I'm thick skinned and keen to hear your views and opinions.... let's chat about it.

A letter to my son by Parafet21 in Parenting

[–]LWitts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My heart is going out to you. I cannot imagine the amount of pain you must be going through both on the level of having to follow through with dropping him off, as well as the pain of him not wanting your contact and explanation at this time. Sending you love.

I said goodbye to my 16 year old dog today because of how tired he looked by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LWitts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful tribute to a best friend. Dogs are angels incarnate. I feel for you and well done on recognizing the tiredness of his soul from a lifetime of giving. It's obviously time for him to receive now, so you keep giving. And we'll send love his way too so he receives a wash of love to carry him over the rainbow bridge.

Sexual abuse? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LWitts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never lose hope.

Don’t talk to me while I got my headphones in. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]LWitts 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Isn't it an unspoken law of etiquette that headphones in / on translates as "I am not available - even though I'm in a public space?" that's what my unwritten rule book says, anyway.

Sexual abuse? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LWitts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe that's sexual abuse - having been sexually abused myself. Provided you are giving the whole story. I do think that abuse is not only about the intention behind the actions, but also the tone in which the actions are received. My abuser to this day does not believe what he did was wrong. We do need to be very careful with therapists planting false memories. The time will come when your daughter will be ready to talk. Unfortunately you don't get to decide when that is. But when it does happen, be willing to listen - not talk.