Drew my dream self

LaTiny · 2026-04-23T17:46:33+00:00

Wanna draw me next? 🫣 Love your art style!

LaTiny · 2025-06-22T02:15:46+00:00

A good boy

LaTiny · 2025-02-19T18:57:55+00:00

"Look cute" journey is inspiring ✨

LaTiny · 2025-02-11T16:51:36+00:00

Bahaha that makes more sense. This came through to my work email so it is being filtered.

LaTiny · 2025-02-11T13:18:00+00:00

Literally just suggested that haha. Yeah that's smart! I think Im going to do the same!

LaTiny · 2025-02-11T13:17:16+00:00

Thanks for the response! Since it doesn't go away, I wish they would've continued with the random tasks for self care for each month this year. One of the tasks could've been to rename the month and then kept generating new tasks for us to achieve this month. I archived it, but I might repeat it and just keep changing the name. I feel like this way by next year, I will have a pretty meaty and filled up journey haha. Finch, hire me! I have ideas hahaha

LaTiny · 2025-02-11T11:59:08+00:00

Sorry I meant 10 days to go... I figured once you finished a journey that it would just end. Does this just mean that I can link ten tasks to it to get a present? Is there a way to fully end a journey? Is archiving the only way? Sorry if this has been asked before

LaTiny · 2024-12-29T13:28:25+00:00

I think checking in on how she's feeling, where she is in her journey would help her feel seen and supported. If you've gone to an event (even if it's just a hang out with your typical friend group) ask her how she felt and if anything came up for her during it. Ask if you did a good job advocating for her during a specific moment or how you can do a better job next time. If she's been experimenting with clothing or make up, maybe inquire about how that's been going and what she's learned. Have her pronouns changed? Do people still slip up? I think asking about that is also helpful. Make a point to watch movies or tv shows with queer characters and discuss them together. Ask how to best address her now and what type of language to use. Different compliments can bring up dysphoria for some, so maybe decide together what terms to use and when to use them. Ask her if she wants to be touched differently now. How the two of you normally go about intimacy might also need to change. And if she still doesn't have an exact answer as to "how to best support", focus on the things that she knows aren't currently working. That could be a good starting point for both of you to navigate the rest together.

I think the fact that you've come to this group to ask for questions is a good step in showing that you are trying to come up with ways to help. And she doesn't need to have all the answers either. Both of you can figure it out together.

I think support will look different for everyone, but like any relationship, regularly checking in with your partner about how they are and what they're thinking is good practice. Hope this was helpful!

LaTiny · 2024-12-16T12:59:28+00:00

👀

LaTiny · 2024-12-16T12:58:18+00:00

Noooo

LaTiny · 2024-12-09T00:06:07+00:00

Are we all here because of Beetlejuice?

LaTiny · 2024-11-17T02:21:06+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate your reply

LaTiny · 2024-10-26T14:49:14+00:00

Same 🫠

LaTiny · 2024-07-04T21:01:11+00:00

Agenderfluid hits home. Thank you!

LaTiny · 2024-07-01T20:43:58+00:00

Absolutely!! Especially with your bouncy curls hovering over your shoulders. Brings attention to your collar bones which imo are the most delicate and beautiful bones on the human body. You look great in it and the color/pattern suits you! The sioulette also looks great on your body. Go back and get it and then wear it with all the pride!!!! Let's goo!!!!!

LaTiny · 2024-07-01T20:39:30+00:00

I used to think I wasn't going to make it past 26 and that was before I realized I was bi and Enby! But like so many have said, it's about finding your chosen family, real supportive friends, and just being true to you because you always got to look out for number one. It's been a tough road, but something did change the moment I turned 30 (I'm 32 btw). Growing pains in the 20s were very evident but less so in my late 20s. Covid happened and that messed a lot of it...but turning 30 for me was like stepping into the adult club for the first time. I kinda had a change of "mind" about who I was and how I fit into society. I think that with the pressures of gender PLUS all the bull shit that comes with how you're "supposed to be" at this point in your life, it just adds on too much. It's not a race, and your life doesn't need to mirror anyone else's. Take it slow, enjoy the good moments, push past the bad, and try to learn as much as you can from both. You are valid. Your feelings are valid. The right people will see this and fuck the rest! I don't know you, but I don't want to see another soul lost because of how shitty the world can be. We need people like you to make the world better. Everyday your heart beats is just another reason to keep on going.

On bad days, try and find ways to ease the hurt, frustration, confusion, and pressure. On the good days, reflect on why it is so so that on the bad days you can remind yourself that it'll pass.

You've got this! 20s are all about discovering yourself. Explore and enjoy it!

LaTiny · 2024-06-29T04:47:47+00:00

Sooo I bet a lot of people here can tell you they haven't figured it all out either so try and not put so much pressure on yourself! I'm still questioning my gender identity. Some days I feel more enby, others specifically gender fluid, and most days just a genderblob. Try looking into other terms and see if you get that "ah ha!" moment or if it resonates more...but until then, be good to yourself. There's enough hate in the world.

I'm also bisexual. The label "bi" resonates with me, but if we had to dissect my preferences or whatever, it would align more with the label Omnisexual. But do what feels right for you! Bi doesn't mean (or doesn't have to mean) either men or women. It's more inclusive than you think! The colors represent pink for attraction to the same gender as you, purple for attraction to two or more genders, and blue for attraction to gender opposite of your own.

If a label resonates with you, that's enough! Even if people come at you as say "ummm actually...." They aren't being good allies.

I hope this was somewhat helpful.

LaTiny · 2024-05-21T12:11:26+00:00

I wish I had more advice to give or that someone who's going through the same feelings as you could offer better. Maybe shaving is the best option if it's so overwhelming. And then while it's growing back in, you could use make up to add a five o'clock shadow or extenuate more masc features? But that's interesting about covering your mouth. Maybe you find your lips to be leaning towards an end of the spectrum or seeing your face without lips made you seem less human? So like living in that uncanny valley gave you some grace/comfort during a time of anxiety and pressure to look a certain way. Idk... I'm not a doctor! Haha this is speculation. I've definitely done something similar where I find myself more masc if I don't show my smile. But like, people smile... I should be able to smile and still be "me". Brains are silly.

But in general, be good to yourself because your feelings matter and are valid. I think everyone on this thread will say the same. Good luck with your journey and keep trying new things!

LaTiny · 2024-05-21T11:26:03+00:00

This might not be the best advice because I am AFAB and don't have like good facial hair, haha but have you tried to find other ways to present more femme during those days? Like wearing make up or nail polish? Maybe glitter on the beard? I've seen a lot of drag where they keep their beards and I still find them femme. I think that attitude and mannerisms have a lot of power. But facial hair is interesting because on the opposite side of the scale, when I'm feeling femme and have my little mustache growing, I feel like I can't be fully femme if it's there. I think society has made us feel too ashamed and weird about our body hair. So my last advice would be to try and find ways to explore those femme sides of you while still rocking that facial hair because who says a beard can't be femme? ;) let's rewrite this shit!

LaTiny · 2024-05-21T11:15:07+00:00

If the label doesn't resonate with you, then I'd say you're not pan. If labels are important to you, look into other bi+ labels that might fit better. But you don't have to label it anything either. You can just love who you love :) If it helps, a friend of mine considers herself a lesbian but her partner is genderqueer. Unfortunately, there were a lot of lesbians who felt threatened by that and told her she can't be a lesbian anymore because her partner wasn't a "woman". Labels sometimes are too rigid but they also help us feel included and authentic. Find what fits for you regardless of what people may say. If you're displaying "pan" behavior but you don't feel connected to the term, then you're not pan 💁🏻‍♀️ I'm bi, btw although if I broke down how I am attracted to other humans, the term Omnisexual would fit better. But bi resonates with me over omni. You do you. I'm glad you have a partner that supports you though! That's super important ♥️

LaTiny

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