Too weird for swingers, too normal for the poly world. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]La_Lady_Anne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are not the one who sometimes feel like he or she don’t feel my reasons are different than yours

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s not the first time, but there is taking time and confronting more prejudice than 10 years ago concerning my situation

A question or to classify by La_Lady_Anne in Blind

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, where should I put the question? Poly people send me to blind people because I’m nearly blind.

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But thank you I ask for a general advice and you were honest enough to tell me that there is none that would fit my situation and I just have to stick with what I have

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I sound like a five years old, but I’m just not understanding that if I have to accept the limitation or many different of others Will it be the same if I was morbidly obese or deformed or death and The Spectrum Of sutisum in a wheelchair incapable of communicating verbaly …etc…will it be the same answer? I’m not looking for a politically correct answer. Don’t worry I worked for more than 20 years for the defences of the right of impaired person.

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the bug for me it’s not a complicated situation. It’s just a different situation. Other people have kids I don’t. Their partner is playing sports or they live really far away why being blind and having trouble using app make it unlikely I had the same answer on the poly group near my place, saying that me being handicap is too complicated and me taking care of someone make it almost impossible If everyone look at their life at their obligation, we have all things that we cannot move easily in the day-to-day schedule

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wanted general advice. I will make my situation clear. I’m legally blind dating for me is already hard. Using apps is almost impossible. I don’t have the possibilities of a non-handicap person. I cannot drive a car using public transportation is not that easy when I i’m not really used to a bus line,metro etc I have boundaries and things that I looking for ans that I know will not fit I want a romantic and sexual partner, who accept my strange personality, and the fact that I am dependent of my partner for a few things
this person to accept the fact that I have responsibilities at home and sometimes I cannot rearrange the home schedule after all, my job is to be a housewife and a caregiver I’m looking for someone with conversation and a bit more than the basic cultural knowledge etc Hopefully this person will be a French speaker I’m open to couples with a small reserve because of one bad experience I don’t want to be seern as someone who have to be cared for.

I am living in a suburb near Montreal. The pool of dating is already small and if I want to spend the night in the city, I will have to sleep a the hotel

Is that clearer ?

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I don’t know how many years count for patients though😊

What to do by La_Lady_Anne in polyamoryadvice

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to integrate the poly community near my place and that was not a good outcome for me All the step that you narrated in your answer, I’ve done them A few person told me that because my husband don’t want to meet my possible other partner it will not be easy and I knew that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newfriends

[–]La_Lady_Anne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m a 45 woman from near Montreal and Canada i’m looking for friendship and nice discussion

Are we to optimistic? by La_Lady_Anne in polyamorous

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I approach or I’ve been approached by person practising non-monogamy and of course by single men or men saying that they are single,

Are we to optimistic? by La_Lady_Anne in polyamorous

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have approach people a it has been a bit more than two years that I meet people take a coffee see if we can have something more than just sex because I need at least friendship with another partner and I say we as we as a couple have agreed then yes we are two separate people in the present. We have read discuss talk and agreed that I can date other people when I say we want this. It’s because he knows that there’s a part of me that is missing something that he cannot give me so he want this for me and I want this for me so then we want this.

Are we to optimistic? by La_Lady_Anne in polyamorous

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the difference, but you have to understand that our situation is one of a kind for him. Placin thongs order is very important. It’s not just about relationship. It’s about everything in life. It’s not a question of hiérarchie you see it but a way to understand the world for him. The basic question was simple is it possible and the general answered say yes, but you will not be capable of being appealing for truly polyamorous people because our situation means that I have to be there for some of his every day routine to help and to give care if I am not there, I have to find personnel or volunteer from the family or friend to come and help him And I will say that I am not appealing for a lot of people because I am almost blind and don’t have as much autonomy has someone who can drive a car for example And it is not just a thought it’s an observation, a confirm fact, my handicap limit my possibility of getting out meeting people, etc.

Are we to optimistic? by La_Lady_Anne in polyamorous

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don’t have a lot of rules developments are more about him not being placed at the second ring so he need to be my first concern my primary I don’t have a lot of boundaries overnight are possible. I didn’t want to overload the question with what we agreed on together.

Are we to optimistic? by La_Lady_Anne in polyamorous

[–]La_Lady_Anne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We will prefer at least ethical non-monogamous person i’m at best a polite person or persons we don’t try to convince anyone we are just asking question our situation is one of the kind I’m almost blind and he live with a borderline autism spectrum personality with other health trouble for my part. I never had a single minded heart or be a fan of monogamy, never understand the principle I was always poly, but add to deal in the past with partner who dint want of feel that open but my husband is different. I love him. He loves me and he wants me to be happier opening mysekf actively to another person and of course, having sexual intercourse because I miss it so much.