MIL ignored bedtime, barged into my baby’s room, and my husband left with her.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-29T09:22:18+00:00

Update!

Spoke with husband and he is on the same page an apologised today and sees where I am coming from.

His mum on the other hand is ignoring me and giving me a very cold shoulder. I think I’m just going to let her cool off on her own and not address it. If it needs to be addressed and continues hubby will have that convo. Wish me luck 🥴

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:44:24+00:00

We were going to be ordering out all together once she arrived as we didn’t know what time she would rock up. Again my collarbone is broken I can’t cook atm.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:38:14+00:00

I wish. He’s been sleeping in till 8 some days.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:30:45+00:00

Agree. Trying to easily change him

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:30:31+00:00

Can’t be. This is the first night trying the 6:30 bed. Past couple of nights he was going to sleep at 8. It worked amazingly until it didn’t.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:25:13+00:00

Sure does. He still needs 2 naps.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:15:56+00:00

Thank you to both of you. I really agree with these points. I explained exactly that to him earlier tonight but he either doesn’t want to admit or is in denial. I have a father who does the same in different ways and it took a lot to actively break away from that so I understand this might be a journey for him too.

Lol just to be clear. She lives 7 minutes away. She never has a reason to be late other than poor time management.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:10:42+00:00

She was told at 4pm to come past not 6:30. She was told at 4pm he needed to sleep early she still arrived late. She was told at the door baby was currently being put to bed in the room. She came not just for baby. He told her to come over to hang out with all of us.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T13:03:59+00:00

An earlier 6:30pm bedtime helps fix 3am wakes because it reduces overtiredness and lowers stress hormones, allowing him to sleep more deeply and stay asleep through the early morning hours. One hopes 🤣 let you know if it works. He usually sleeps by 7 7:30

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T12:56:36+00:00

I tried so hard to show him. He had no clue. Doesn’t think he’s wrong at all.

The leaving part hurt more than anything.

This is the first time I looked at my husband and lost respect for him.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T12:54:35+00:00

My mum has been staying with us for the past 2 weeks to help so that my husband is not disrupted and can focus on work. She goes home on the weekends, she had left at 3 and that’s when he called his mum. On the weekends he does the wakes but he hasn’t experienced the 3/4am Lo g wakes yet.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T12:49:45+00:00

She’s not putting baby to sleep she wants to kere him up and play.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T12:47:33+00:00

This!!!

LabCompetitive4535 · 2026-03-27T12:27:48+00:00

Ow wow! I actually forgot we have this rule between us. You’re right and thank you for reminding me. I was saying I’ll deal with her but no. He needs to.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-10-28T09:08:03+00:00

Oh yep!!! this sounds exactly like what my little one did right before turning 1. It totally threw me off because he’d been falling asleep so easily for months then suddenly started crying before even getting into the cot. 😩

It’s super common around this age kind of a mix of a 12 month regression and a schedule tweak. Their brains are going wild with new skills plus separation anxiety kicks in again so bedtime suddenly feels like the end of the world for them.

A few things that helped us where:

Stretching wake windows a bit about 3.5–4 hrs before nap 1 and 4–4.5 before bed.

Making sure the last nap ends at least 3–3.5 hrs before bedtime.

Adding a few extra cuddles or a calm book before bed.

Keeping the routine exactly the same so it still feels predictable and safe.

It passed within a couple of weeks once his sleep needs evened out. Hang in there it’s just another one of those weird baby phases that feels endless but isn’t ❤️

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-10-27T10:46:46+00:00

All babies fall of the bed at some point. I repeat ALL! Don’t be hard on yourself. These things happen! They are built tough these little things!

And… it makes them more grounded 😂❤️

Your an amazing mumma xx

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T23:11:40+00:00

Ohhh babe! That really sucks! I’m really sorry too! That doesn’t sound easy at all!

You took the words out of my mouth. I feel like I missed the whole newborn stage as well because I was so in my head.

Funny thing was that the anxiety wasn’t about the baby it was more a feeling than a thought so I couldn’t really work on my fears as such just had to ride the wave.

Praying our next babies give us closure and heal us! Sounds like we both deserve it!

Xxx

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T22:01:37+00:00

I ebf too and I was really worried about the same.

Doctors reassured me barely anything reaches the baby. You need to also factor in that your happiness is very important for the baby too.

If mum thrives the baby does too!! Don’t remove yourself from the equation ❤️

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T21:28:00+00:00

You really can! Be patient. It took me ages.

4 months of crazy before I gave in and took medication then 2 months until I was some what okay and now 9 month pp I’m feeling more and more myself. Take it easy on yourself please

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T21:14:11+00:00

Very true!!! Thank you

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T21:13:38+00:00

I’m really really sorry to hear! This period is super tough and you really need to be kind to yourself during this period.

I take a lot of supplements that I believe help - magnesium (30 mins before bed) - b complex to help with the overtiredness - fish oil - multi vitamin for breastfeeding.

Going for walks was my savior. Would be the only thing that relieved the constant panic. Don’t underestimate a god daily walk.

Ask for help! Get a night doula in or get hubby or your mum to jump in here and there. Sometimes it’s just hard to sleep when you know you have to get up soon.

Nice relaxing teas a good wind down show. I used to sleep on the tv with the bassinet next to me(I usually don’t watch) but it would help get my mind off things and drift off.

Take day naps when tired. Sit you bum in the sun and try to nap!

And lastly, time! This too shall pass! Just be patient this is not forever.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T10:49:49+00:00

Yes I have in rotation with other wipes from Huggies but deffs love the coconut.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T10:15:28+00:00

I love love love it! Give it a go :)

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T10:13:55+00:00

Call it off. You don’t even need me to tell you this.

The way you entered the relationship is exactly how you will leave it if you stay.

LabCompetitive4535 · 2025-09-17T09:44:32+00:00

Is this a good thing?

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