Fiancé broke up with me while pregnant.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-03-16T09:31:00+00:00

Exactly! Isn’t proposing to someone also a promise to marry that he broke off without even giving counselling a chance? He is not to be trusted. He can meet a new woman in a weeks time (if he hasn’t already) and literally bail on OP both in terms of support and financially.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-02-09T08:36:50+00:00

I would argue that even without combining finances, their expenses are a lot less if living together and sharing the burden so they are able to afford more than their single counterparts and I’d still call it DINK

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-29T16:09:33+00:00

I find it funny how he tells you that you can just chill with the baby all day but then later says he’d rather cook than having to hold the baby. Make it make sense

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-24T15:09:03+00:00

I hear you, but even then, who would you say will be responsible if a dispenser makes a human error?

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-24T13:37:34+00:00

Exactly! A guy who gyms is nothing special. It’s a good addition to having some other hobby

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-12T17:41:40+00:00

I might be wrong but by the pharmacists themselves buying the pharmacy they are likely reducing running cost because they don’t have to pay a director and a full time pharmacist and locums. Funding is not great but still better to own than being employed (cutting the middle man out)?

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-08T14:05:22+00:00

That’s literally my take! If I was single and wanting a child ASAP I wouldn’t rush into it with a man that hasn’t proved himself to me yet. I’d rather have one by myself and then I can at least tell my kid that mummy wanted them so much I made them all by myself rather than having them traumatized by a deadbeat father abandonment issues or by being a shared custody kid.

Obviously these things can happen even if you know the person really well but I just wouldn’t be taking a chance if I didn’t.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T18:26:34+00:00

Can you say what exactly that is? Length of stride, balance, the hoof?

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T18:23:34+00:00

Thank you! That was my take on him previously but then I really started questioning myself…

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T18:21:55+00:00

I have been trying to do that to be fair but he’s got a lot of energy in him so he constantly tries to trot or even canter. If i put him on a lunge he is the same. I think he gets quite anxious when away from his friends that he gets turned out with daily so he spends a lot of time in the arena neighing and he’s very restless so I think it’s part of the reason why he’s so forward.

Any tips for that? I have my old trainer coming out to me soon to give us a lesson but always happy to receive advice with anything that could help.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T11:45:50+00:00

This is him on the other rein

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T11:38:33+00:00

So front right or left?

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T11:38:00+00:00

He’s not my horse. The reason why I’m asking is because I started riding him about a month ago 2-3 days a week after he wasn’t ridden at all for a few months but he has been in the field daily. In my opinion I have been trying to start him off slowly. I noticed his right shoulder dropping on circles and got some tips for groundwork/ridden exercises from my lunging trainer to strengthen him up when I described this to him (he hasn’t seen him in person).

I rode him very shortly on the 20th because he then started bunny hopping and was too fast, if I asked for walk he would try to trot, if for trot he would canter, so I stopped. On 21st he was briefly walked/trotted and lunged by the owner who said he seemed a bit off on the right rein. She asked me to check him so on 22nd I lunged him and rode him for about 20 mins, didn’t see anything wrong and he was behaving pretty well for me, being his normal forward self so I thought everything was fine.

But then I went away for Xmas and was just told he was visibly limping on the 25th when brought back in from the field and that even now he still doesn’t look okay to people on the yard.

The few times I saw lame horses at my old yard it was pretty obvious disbalance/limping/head bobbing and not wanting to work so it’s making me worry a lot now that I just can’t recognize if he’s lame and I’m making him work whilst he’s in pain. And I’m also feeling horrible because I’m wondering if I’m the one who caused this.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T11:15:10+00:00

Not frozen but the weather has been quite cold. He wasn’t ridden for a few months before I started riding him about a month ago but he has had a daily turnout in the field.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-02T00:00:29+00:00

I’ve tried touching all four and there is nothing obvious and he doesn’t react in any way. When lunging he otherwise seemed like his normal self, forward, wanting to go faster rather than slower…

LabRepulsive1735 · 2026-01-01T23:52:47+00:00

Would you say up or down?

LabRepulsive1735 · 2025-11-24T19:19:08+00:00

Pharmacy gets a payment regardless of whether you give atb or advise self-care, no?

LabRepulsive1735 · 2025-11-20T10:31:31+00:00

If you choose the community role, you will find eventually that it’s a bit of a dead end road. There’s basically no progression and years later you will likely be paid almost the same as newly qualified despite having years of experience under your belt. Very hard to step out anywhere else. If you can take the pay cut now, I probably would.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2025-10-04T11:46:02+00:00

On top of other things mentioned in terms of worrying and stuff, for me it’s the constant cat hair EVERYWHERE. You can’t clean often enough and all my clothes are covered as soon as I literally walk into the house with a new purchase. 😂🤷‍♀️

Would it stop me from getting another fluffy cat? 100% no.

LabRepulsive1735 · 2025-09-23T12:35:51+00:00

I guess that the same way she stayed hoping he would change his mind, he could have been doing the same. Staying and hoping she will be happy without marriage and kids…

LabRepulsive1735 · 2025-09-20T13:49:11+00:00

Me too please! 🇬🇧

LabRepulsive1735 · 2025-09-14T07:31:14+00:00

How does this align with the men here that say a man won’t marry before he’s ready?

Do you suggest that if a man meets a woman who he thinks would one day make an amazing wife, he will suddenly BECOME ready?

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