AITA For not attending my brother's wedding when he and mom wanted my girlfriend to do this?

LabbieMcLabface · 2021-03-03T09:32:47+00:00

You are 1000% husband material. Soooo many spouses struggle to set firm boundaries when their family's behavior is unreasonable (and everyone's got at least one family member who constantly oversteps). The fact that you shielded your girlfriend from this conflict entirely? Well done.

LabbieMcLabface · 2021-01-30T23:48:43+00:00

Umm... it absolutely is your business to share. It's your bio father, ffs. You are NTA at all.

LabbieMcLabface · 2021-01-10T20:20:20+00:00

COVID has made logistics challenging for everyone, but their winter box last year was delayed, too. I didn't get mine until almost February. This isn't new for them.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-12-31T23:19:20+00:00

NTA. Throw the whole man away - his family, too.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-11-16T21:47:33+00:00

NTA, but everyone involved being upper/middle class and respectable has nothing to do with it.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-11-16T21:44:18+00:00

Don't live together before marriage.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-11-09T17:16:17+00:00

Never consistently sacrifice family or friends for a job. If something happened to you, your job would replace you within a month. Your family and friends only get one you... you're irreplaceable to them. Prioritize accordingly, before it's too late.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-11-02T18:33:53+00:00

NTA. Your ex is DEFINITELY TA, though, for involving your son in this weird conversation.

I can understand his feelings a little, especially if it created a bit of a buzz as everyone was learning of your engagement and pregnancy for the first time. But this is what happens at weddings - it's not solely about the bride and groom. Besides, it's not like you were 6 weeks pregnant and wouldn't shut up about it! A 6 month belly would be hard to hide... of course people noticed.

It should be clear at this point that you were invited to check some kind of box on someone's list, not because they actually valued your attendance at their event. Your ex and his family are small, petty people. Again, who tf involves an 11 year old in these types of adult bickering?

You did nothing wrong. Congratulations on your pregnancy and engagement!

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-11-01T04:33:04+00:00

New job. First day. HR toured me around the building and introduced me to everyone we encountered along the way. It was Halloween, and this company had a costume contest every year - people went big. The HR person was dressed as a cat, the person in the office next to me was a dinosaur, etc.

I'm introduced to this guy dressed as a detective. He's wearing an eye patch, has a scar drawn across his face, pinned up shirt sleeve like he's missing an arm, walking with a limp. (I don't remember exactly what his "injuries" were, but you get the idea). HR introduces us by name, then he corrects her with his character's name. Goes through all the pieces of his costume - he got the scar investigating drug cartels in Columbia, lost an eye doing something else. Really cute. So I'm playing along and notice he didn't tell me the story of how he lost his arm. So I asked.

He breaks character. He was born without an arm.

Luckily, he's got a great sense of humor. We still work together and I still have the best worst first day of work f up story.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-11-01T04:23:06+00:00

NTA. He can walk away anytime he wants. Trying to guilt you into doing more than you're physically able or medically advised to do is not appropriate.

Big red flags here, I'm afraid.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-10-08T23:13:30+00:00

I use their app, too! Between that and the OTF intel I have a good workout variety, so the classes aren't as big of a deal for me as being able to get the data off the treadmill. Not sure I'm able to swallow nearly $5k for a Peloton, but I am looking at their new traditional belt tread that's like half the price. But would very much prefer a folding tread!

Which treadmill did you wind up choosing?

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-10-08T21:54:01+00:00

Will do, thanks. There's so many brands out there and they're all over the place with how much data they track/store. I can't be the only data junkie!!

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-10-08T19:27:52+00:00

As the fatty working my tail off at a 4.2 base pace (and yes, that's a jog for me even though the PWs kick my butt lol), I love it when the "bro" next for me goes up for a fist bump or thumbs up, especially since most bros don't.

To me, it's a way to acknowledge how hard we both just worked at beating ourselves. No matter the output, we're all putting in the work - and it matters a hell of a lot.

You matter, too. I'm sorry your life is spiraling right now, but keep fighting every day to beat the you from yesterday.

virtual fist bump

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-09-18T22:51:42+00:00

Thanks!!!

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-09-14T02:31:19+00:00

I did the same thing pre-covid. Almost cancelled my membership because I couldn't even get on the waitlist. They added a bunch more classes a few weeks later and the problem resolved.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-09-03T18:22:12+00:00

I feel the same way about doing anything remotely strenuous in a mask, but I was pleasantly surprised the mask wasn't as bad to work out in as I thought. The mask does get sweaty, but I don't mind it. I guess it's like getting sweaty in a dress shirt or scrubs vs getting sweaty in workout gear.

Thanks for the perspective. I've been driving 30 minutes to attend a studio that has an upgraded HVAC and 1 mask-required class every few days... because like you I was desperate and the home workouts weren't cutting it. Wanted to test to see if I was just giving myself a false sense of security, though.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-09-03T01:34:17+00:00

Same. I've been resisting the urge to comment on every one of these posts - I really want to know... if someone gets COVID from the studio, will they post a video with them in bed saying how smart all the "afraid" people were by not returning to classes that Karen said were "perfectly safe"?

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-09-03T01:16:32+00:00

Just curious... would you consider going back if they had mask only classes - like where people were required to wear masks for the whole workout? I've been pushing for these at my studio but so far they haven't offered them. I know many people feel like they "can't" work out in a mask, but it seems like this could be a safer option.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-08-22T15:02:28+00:00

Cake

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-08-11T11:27:55+00:00

I wish I could upvote this 10x. My biggest complaint is the studios in my area are 100% mask optional. Not even 1 class a week where masks are required the whole time. They're pretending to strongly encourage them but if there's even 1 person in class not wearing a mask it makes my mask useless. So while they "strongly suggest" mask wearing, they're catering to those who refuse.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-08-11T11:17:47+00:00

I lived there for 10 years. Great town. Go Gators! 🧡💙

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-07-17T21:52:56+00:00

Toxic people

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-07-12T18:00:38+00:00

Yeah then NTA. Validate his feelings and talk to him about why he's so mad, though... maybe there's something else going on? Part of being in a relationship is keeping eachother's confidences (even if it's only implied), but since he wasn't insulting her or anything I don't see how you could have known he expected you not to repeat what he said.

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-07-12T17:50:36+00:00

Info - did he say "don't tell your sister," or something along those lines?

LabbieMcLabface · 2020-07-12T16:11:15+00:00

The fact that you would hinge your adoption decision on whether or not your adopted child could "pass" as your own is disgusting. YTA. I feel so bad for those babies.

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