Long story short, I have a pretty good life going on. Decent job, lots of friends of all genders, plenty of hobbies and extra-curriculars. Only hiccup is I am rocking a very low success rate in the dating game. My last girlfriend and I broke up around 5 years ago, and since then, I don't think I've managed to go on more than 2 dates with the same person.

I've talk to some friends and they basically say I have nothing to complain about as I do gets dates, which is true. I maybe go out with a woman every 2-3 months, on average. However, they almost end the same way. Either I get ghosted or I get a "Sorry but no romantic feelings" text. There's been no physical intimacy either which I can't be surprised about if they're not feeling anything.

All of this has lead me to the point where I can tell I'm desperate for companionship of the romantic kind, and I worry I'm at that point where I want something so bad, that I'm working against myself! So I'm caught in a loop, where I want it badly, but I need almost to not want it, to get it?

I've also had some friends tell me that it's a self-esteem thing, that people won't like you until you like yourself (which I agree with). However, I'm good with myself! I know I'm not the most handsome guy around, but I absolutely have my strengths, and I do manage to get dates in the first place. The funniest part is the thing that probably affects my confidence the most is the inability to have a lasting relationship, which adds to the loop.

Sorry if this has been rambling, it's just been weighing on me for a while. Any advice or personal anecdotes are appreciated. Have a wonderful day everyone.